confused about Lust and whats right :/

[prettyanatomy]

hi there. im a 23 year old female and i live with my mother, younger sister (18) and boyfriend. i sleep with my boyfriend in the same bed and i sometimes full around with him (only oral). i feel bad now that ive asked god to come into my heart because im not sure if its right to do this. how do i let my boyfriend know how i feel, how do i arrange sleeping seperate when theres no extra place to sleep but the floor? im so confused and i dont know what to do to make god happy. i asked god to come into my heart about 2 or 3 days ago and since i slept with my boyfriend, i dont feel his spirit like i did at first. please help me and give me your thoughts. thanx

god bless
x3
Jen

 

[Sketcher]

Hello and welcome.

What you're doing is wrong and I think God is letting you know it. There are, however, practical ways out of this. If I were you, I would post this in Courting Couples, since it gets a lot more traffic and there have been many who have walked this path before. Post it in Women's Discussion too, you'll get input from married women as well. I'm inexperienced with this, so all I can do is tell you to stop. Christians who have been there can tell you how to stop.

 

[iannassah]

"Do you not know that your body is the temple of The Holy Spirit Who is in you, Whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit which are God's."
I Corinthians 6:19-20

Imagine what you would feel like if your boyfriend cheated on you...well, you are not married to him and you may not end up marrying him--only God knows. If you do not marry him then he is cheating on his future wife with you. And you are cheating on your future husband with him. Oral sex is still sex. Something reserved for married couples. Don't let yourself be tricked! You might be led to compromise because you two have already done "things" and think that it's too late but it's not! It's better to stop while you can! Flee from temptation while you still can. I don't know what the situation is but it seems like it would be better for him to find another home. As long as he sleeps there even if it is on the floor there is always that temptation. The bad guy will choose a time when you are off guard and swoop in for the kill. Maybe sleep in your mom's bedroom till he moves out! If he can't take it then he wasn't a keeper to begin with.

"Whatever is not from faith is sin."

God cannot stand sin or be around it! Think of this as an opportunity to show your appreciation for what Jesus has done for you. Think about this...Jesus had to suffer because of what you do with your boyfriend.

I wished that someone had told me these things at one point in my life. Consider the consequences seriously!

 

[visionary]

This world and its ways are not God's Ways. You must follow that still small voice of God in this matter and take a stand for Him. He will back you up but you must first make the stand for Him. Repent and turn away from sin.

This relationship as you have discribed it isn't healthy even if it wasn't a christian forum and you were just talking with me girl to girl. Be strong and live with less regrets...

 

[bliz]

Welcome to the family!

Once we become Christians, many things in our past lives no longer look the same to us. Things we previously did without any hesitation now don't seem quite right to us.

God has intended sexual relations for marriage, and that includes all kinds of sexual relations. Sleeping arrangements in your house are not going to help you follow God's guidlines for sex. Perhaps it is time for your boyfriend to move back home or in with friends or at least on to the sofa.

Meanwhile, have you found a church where you can learn more and get to know other Christians who can help you grow in Christ? The fellowship here is nice, but it doesn't take the place to face-to-face relationships.

 

[JPH]

prettyanatomy,
Hi,Welcome to the family and welcome to one of your first tests of obediance.First of all You didnt mention if your boyfriend was a believer,but i assume because of your admission that he is not.So you are both heading in different directions now.You should make a stand about premarital sex and HEWILL NEED TO RESPECT YOUR DECISION.THIS IS HIS FIRST TEST.His response to your comittment to christ will let you know about your future with him.The Bible says not to be unequally joined with an unbeliever.If he is converted one day then your serious relationship can continue in a Godly way.
This is one reason we are to avoid premarital sex because there are no guarantees we will end up with that person.Your conversion can potentially drive your boyfriend away.Or he may be converted himself one day.You just dont know.
I personally dont feel he should be living in the same house as you.
Fall in love with Jesus first.Then whenever you decide to follow his ways no matter the outcome, you will be blessed and spared many a heartache.
I had to choose between Jesus and a girl when i was saved.I chose Jesus and I am glad I did.
Be Strong!
PEACE!
J

 

[Godsgurl4evr]

God is letting you know that its not time for what you're doing. You can continue or you can just tell you boyfriend "hey listen, I gave my life to God. Oral sex is sex. We cant be doing anything like that until our wedding night." If he respects you and loves you then he might be the one. If he dosnt then you have your answer.​

 

[visionary]

How are things going for you? let us know... so that we can be specific in prayer for you.