Confused About Ex-Spouse

[Confused Spouse]

I messed up.

I attacked my spouse and tried to dispose of him like garbage, take all the money and steal the kids. My family convinced me to be like them. They did the same evil to their spouses.

I tried to convince everyone my spouse was abusive and called him so many bad names when he is really a good Christian man, a good Christian father and was the best husband he could be considering I spoke against him behind his back for 15 years. I was a terrible wife just like my mother was.

My abuse to him was so severe it took years for him to overcome the abuse and he had to be set free supernaturally though he says the enemy still tries to trick him back into the bondage I poured on him.

I tried everything I could against him. It all came back on me. I tried to destroy him and ended up destroyed. I tried to force him to do things against his beliefs (and still do), lied in court, lied to the children. I still want to keep all the money and wish to find a way to legally do this so I can end up debt free in a few years and keep all the retirement, even the retirement I hide from him.

I was making $100k per year when we divorced and I don't want him to know the outcome of my bankruptcy or the amount of the other retirement even though he found out about it and asked me about the amount.

The children live with him in another state so I never see them. He claims he is protecting them from my family. My entire family hates him.

The good news is that neither of ever used drugs or drank alcohol, and he was faithful to me for 18 years.

He claims me and my family are anti-spouse. I think he is right.

What should I do?

 

[John Davidson]

Jesus said, "Love your neighbor as you love yourself".

Divorce can be a very ugly thing. I made some mistakes when I got a divorce that I wish I would not have made.

My advice to you is to show love and follow the golden rule.

Don't lie or deceive. Don't hide money. Treat your ex as you want to be treated.

 

[Ken Behrens]

Assuming you have confessed this to God and accepted His forgiveness (which it sounds like you have), and assuming you have confessed it to your ex-husband (which it should like you have or are about ready to), the next choice for what you should do is his.

But make sure you know what you want. If he says to leave your whole family behind, will you? If he says prove that you no longer will speak to your family, can you? If he says he cannot emotionally see you again, will it be okay to just pray for his healing and wait out God's intervention? If he says you should send money for the kids, will you?

God can do anything, it's all a question of what we are ready to receive.

 

[Brianlear]

Do you trust him completely? Do you still love him? Still want to be part of his life?
IF so, call him up. Tell him everything you said here. Tell him you are broken, only God can fix you, and you were wrong about all the things you did to him.
God can, and will, try to bring you two back together if your marriage would glorify him.
It's just how far you're willing to follow him. It could involve saying "Bye Bye' to your family, and in that case, you would just have to decide where God is leading you. Plenty of toxic families out there, that people need to get away from.
I don't know you at all, but my gut feeling is that God is trying to bring you guys back together.