Confused about a relationship

[jamesrwright3]

I am confused about my current relationship situation. I met a really wonderful girl almost 4 months ago and things are going fine. She is slightly older than myself..I am 25 she is 28 I am just trying to discern God's will for my life..and I am not sure if it includes her.

She is divorced with two kids..both very sweet and loveable. Her kids and I get along great... Her husband did leave her and is living with another woman. Based on a previous post, I have little doubt that their marriage is dissolved in the eyes of the Lord....

My problem is I am 25 years old, and considering pursuing a masters degree or getting another job..both would require moving back to the city..at least for convenience sake..and she really can't move at this time because of her children...her ex gave her the house for her and her children to live in..and raising her kids is obviously a full time job.

My dad was accepting of the relationship, but my mother has voiced her doubts..because of the kids and she wants me to be all I can be..and she thinks that this relationship may hinder that,,.and now they started getting to me. I can't say whether or not I would have come back to God without her...but she was a positive influence in that area. I just am not sure if I am doing the right thing by staying with her. I like her..but I am afraid I may be putting myself in a situation..any thoughts?

 

[Living4Him03]

Have you earnestly prayed about the situation? Read scripture? Here are some questions you need to answer (at least I would answer them before pursuing anything further):

Do my goals and God's will for my life conflict with possible marriage to her in the future, or dating this person right now?

Am I ready to be a parent to this person's children? (it takes more than just getting along with them, and they won't always seem so loveable!)

Can I deal with the baggage this person is bringing from their past relationship?

Is this person healed from that past relationship?

What is this person looking for? What am I looking for? Conflicts?

There are many others I'm sure...make sure you sit down and take an honest look at the situation...pray that God will given you the discernment to make the right decision. God bless!

 

[Teal]

Nothing in this world is worth losing true love for. not even a piece of paper from a college.

 

[charligirl]

Pray, Pray, pray and pray some more!

If it is God then the age difference, the divorce, the children and your job situation will all work out.... but with all those issues, it would really have to be God.

My husband is 12 years older than me, divorced and has 4 children.... on paper it looked like a disaster area!! but it was God and it has all worked out beautifully, my family have been really accepting... but I wouldn't have wanted to attempt it without God's blessing!!

Living4Him has made some very good points, sit down and really assess what you want. here is a great book called 'should I get married?' by M Blaine Smith which really helped me to see God's will for my life.. and even if I was ready to get married!

After only 4 months I would say to take it slowly and seek God every step of the way. Also ask God about your future.. what is His plan for you? perhaps it doesn't include a move to the city or a masters, whether you stay with this lady or not.

Also keep a check on your peace, don't let this situation rob you of that!