To Kern:
If I had a kid who said, "I don't know if I believe in God any more," I'd ship his rear end off to the Confirmation retreat in our Parish.
With most adolescents, the "I don't believe in God" stage is really more of a "I don't believe in ME, whoever THAT is" stage. When the kid doesn't understand how he relates to the world around him, it's hard to envision God.
The Confirmation retreat we have here is FANTASTIC. The kids show up on Friday afternoon, and the parents don't get them back until Sunday night. If you wanted to really be critical, you could call it indoctrination, or propoganda, but I don't see it that way. The underlying principal is that every one of us is BOMBARDED with the secular world, in every single moment of our lives. How can ANYONE know spirituality with that kind of overwhelming influence? The retreat looks to isolate the kids from everything they are used to: parents (so they don't have to work so hard to challenge them, LOL), TV, music, siblings, advertising, school, ANYTHING which can be a distraction. They are shown their fellow Confirmation candidates as children of God. They are taught to build a relationship with PEOPLE, as well as with God, and they are taught all of the things in life that are GIFTS of God, that they take for granted. They are symbolically re-baptized, to remind them of the commitment their parents made for them with God. Even CLOCKS are removed, so there is no concept of time.
For most of these kids, the hard shell that has been constructed as a self-defense is shattered. These are new opportunities for parents and children to unite in love, and it's incredible to watch. I saw fathers and big, strapping sons embracing and crying in joy.
Incredible, incredible, incredible!
Peace be with you,
~VOW