Hi everyone,
Would like to hear some good ideas from you. What are the things you normally do to boost your kid's confidence?
Would like to hear some good ideas from you. What are the things you normally do to boost your kid's confidence?
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Confidence Building
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When you praise them, praise them for something specific. Fulsome applause for every breath they take just makes them doubt you when they get out into the world and find that they are not the latest Picasso.
DO NOT: "WOW, Katie, look at what a great artist you are!"
DO: "Katie, I like the colours you chose. That blue is really pretty next to the green."
Also, boost your child's confidence in knowledge areas by not dismissing questions the child has, but by teaching the child how to find the answers.
DO NOT: "What on earth do you want to know how penguins tell each other apart for?"
DO: "I don't know how penguins tell each other apart, but that's an interesting question. Let's go to the computer to see if we can find the answer together."
If the child has no confidence in his physical ability, offer fun classes like swimming, gymnastics, martial arts, etc to improve the child's strength and agility.
Above all, love the child, take interest in his/her interests, and do not fail to tell the child that God loves them.
DO NOT: "WOW, Katie, look at what a great artist you are!"
DO: "Katie, I like the colours you chose. That blue is really pretty next to the green."
Also, boost your child's confidence in knowledge areas by not dismissing questions the child has, but by teaching the child how to find the answers.
DO NOT: "What on earth do you want to know how penguins tell each other apart for?"
DO: "I don't know how penguins tell each other apart, but that's an interesting question. Let's go to the computer to see if we can find the answer together."
If the child has no confidence in his physical ability, offer fun classes like swimming, gymnastics, martial arts, etc to improve the child's strength and agility.
Above all, love the child, take interest in his/her interests, and do not fail to tell the child that God loves them.
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Give them responsibilities and expect them to follow through. Count on them for something. Some examples: in order to be able to cook dinner tonight I told my son that he needed to go start the charcoal in the grill at 4:30 so that when I came home from work I could just plop the chicken on there and make dinner. He knew that if he didn't start the grill we'd be late eating dinner if I had to do the charcoal for him. When Dad goes out of town it is his responsiblity to stoke the furnace with fuel, otherwise we'll all freeze. I require our kids to make their own lunches for school a few days a week. Can't eat lunch if there's not one made. The idea is to help them see that the things they do are useful and valued.
Of course, our kids are middle schoolers, so they is competent to have such responsibilites as grills and furnaces and making lunch. With younger kids, you can give smaller jobs that are equally important but easier for them to do such as setting the table - can't eat dinner without plates and forks, you know.
Thank them for their work without going overboard. Kids can tell when we're just saying nice things because we're their parents and we think they are adorable.
Of course, our kids are middle schoolers, so they is competent to have such responsibilites as grills and furnaces and making lunch. With younger kids, you can give smaller jobs that are equally important but easier for them to do such as setting the table - can't eat dinner without plates and forks, you know.
Thank them for their work without going overboard. Kids can tell when we're just saying nice things because we're their parents and we think they are adorable.
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