- Oct 8, 2016
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I had a good and brief talk with my husband about male attractiveness, and its effects upon women. This is such an issue for me, as some of you know. Neither secular nor religious culture acknowledges it like it does the reverse. It may be less common for women to swoon and drool over handsome men than it is for the reverse, but I'm not the generality. I'm the exception.
It's honestly angered and puzzled me for many years. If there's one thing atheists and patriarchal theists like to agree upon, it's this idea that women are asexual robots. This violently angers me.
As a teenager, I had copious amounts of softcore inappropriate content of males on my computer. This tendency hasn't abated. When a good-looking man appears in my sight, especially if he's largely unclothed -- my initial reaction is to stare. And stare. And STARE.
I now realize I shouldn't.
Yet, dogma teaches women aren't tempted. This dogma is held by religious and secular authorities alike. They don't like to consider exceptions.
I've tried to talk to many people about this issue.
They just don't understand.
For most women, their spiritual issues are they can't discern systematic theology, or they want theological power, or they want men to stop harassing them.
My issue is handsome men have a spell on me, and I can't stop looking at them.
No one understands this.
And I have issues about it that people cannot understand.
It's honestly angered and puzzled me for many years. If there's one thing atheists and patriarchal theists like to agree upon, it's this idea that women are asexual robots. This violently angers me.
As a teenager, I had copious amounts of softcore inappropriate content of males on my computer. This tendency hasn't abated. When a good-looking man appears in my sight, especially if he's largely unclothed -- my initial reaction is to stare. And stare. And STARE.
I now realize I shouldn't.
Yet, dogma teaches women aren't tempted. This dogma is held by religious and secular authorities alike. They don't like to consider exceptions.
I've tried to talk to many people about this issue.
They just don't understand.
For most women, their spiritual issues are they can't discern systematic theology, or they want theological power, or they want men to stop harassing them.
My issue is handsome men have a spell on me, and I can't stop looking at them.
No one understands this.
And I have issues about it that people cannot understand.
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