Are you a complementarian? Or you think that complementarianism is true across the Bible and in the church?
Yes I believe that all men are leaders in their home and Jesus has headship over the man, the man headship over his wife and family. It is a calling from God that can‘t be changed even if the current culture goes against the role.
It is up to the woman to get remarried if she wants to after some time has pasted. Then the man she marries takes the head of the family. If she doesn’t want to remarry then God is still the head of the family.
Their potential wives appearance would be less important than her character because marriage is so much bigger their lusts.