Codependent is a psychological condition. It is usually viewed as a bad thing, It is where a person is dependent of something in order to function. A person with this condition does not have a view of their independent self, but rather what they are dependent on makes up the persons whole self. This is usually a Husband, Wife, Mother , or Father, and can even be brothers and sisters and even things. We have all seen wives or children take on the qualities of their spouse or parents. This does not mean a person is codependent but is a warning sign.
I always viewed this as a bad thing. My mother was this way for years, my mother inlaw is this way now. Both women are dependent on men in order to function in the world, with out them they fall apart. When they meet a man they take on his identity. Which can be seen in they like everything the man likes they change themselves to fit what the man likes. As I thought about this it came to me this is our relationship with God.
From the moment we accept God we try to lay down our will, put our old self to death, which is the flesh self, and live spiritually. We are to take on the qualities of God, our self is no longer made up of our self, but our relationship with God. We lose our own identity. God becomes the focus of our lives. We change to please God, we take up our cross, and put our old self to death. We become codependent on God.
Now that I am a aware of this, and codependent runs in my family, it is easy to let go of my self, and embrace God fully. I do not need to be an individual. I am made up of a Heaven family, by living in Gods will.
The OT is all about God showing us are need for him, or our dependence on Him.
We became separate from God the day Adam ate the Fruit. The second Adam, Jesus Christ, Brought our connection back to God to once again become part of the Tree of Life once again. People fight so hard to be independent yet they get lonely when they achieve this. That is because we are all meant to be connected through God. God said it is not good for man to be alone. Our spiritual nature is one of fellowship, we are social creations. We love to interact with each other. We are meant to be codependent on God. To be plugged into Life. That is the goal.
I always viewed this as a bad thing. My mother was this way for years, my mother inlaw is this way now. Both women are dependent on men in order to function in the world, with out them they fall apart. When they meet a man they take on his identity. Which can be seen in they like everything the man likes they change themselves to fit what the man likes. As I thought about this it came to me this is our relationship with God.
From the moment we accept God we try to lay down our will, put our old self to death, which is the flesh self, and live spiritually. We are to take on the qualities of God, our self is no longer made up of our self, but our relationship with God. We lose our own identity. God becomes the focus of our lives. We change to please God, we take up our cross, and put our old self to death. We become codependent on God.
Now that I am a aware of this, and codependent runs in my family, it is easy to let go of my self, and embrace God fully. I do not need to be an individual. I am made up of a Heaven family, by living in Gods will.
The OT is all about God showing us are need for him, or our dependence on Him.
We became separate from God the day Adam ate the Fruit. The second Adam, Jesus Christ, Brought our connection back to God to once again become part of the Tree of Life once again. People fight so hard to be independent yet they get lonely when they achieve this. That is because we are all meant to be connected through God. God said it is not good for man to be alone. Our spiritual nature is one of fellowship, we are social creations. We love to interact with each other. We are meant to be codependent on God. To be plugged into Life. That is the goal.
