PaladinValor
since you think that Mass in a Catholic Church is no more (or less?) valid as Anglican services, then would it not be up to the young man on which church service he would like to attend?
Being an Anglican means acknowledging that your own church is in error about us, particularly when it comes to the validity of our clergy and Apostolic Sucession and therefore also the validity of our sacraments. Attendance of Roman Catholic services over those of Anglican liturgies, particularly Sunday liturgies, is unacceptable.
Does that mean we cannot ever attend services at your churches? No. If there is no Anglican liturgy or service but there is a Roman Catholic one, then there is no issue. I used to attend Newman back in college on Thursdays since my college parish didn't have a liturgy in the evening. I attended Morning Prayer on Thursday morning before classes and joined the Roman Catholics for their liturgy in the evening.
Although I was invited to receive by the priest who knew my church affiliation, I never received Holy Communion. I thought, and still do think, that, despite the fact that both our churches have valid clergy and sacraments, the official rules still stood and until they do, I wouldn't personally feel it appropriate. The only exception, as I said, is for the Requiems and Nuptials that I have attended; I know I am in Communion with my family and I know that they think me in Communion with me.
Furthermore, the fact of the matter is (and I say this with respect), the OP has not demonstrated any real concrete knowledge of his own Anglicanism and, in the past, I know he's gone back and forth between your church and mine at an official level. I do not believe it appropriate for someone who claims to be Anglican to be going back and forth as he has given that and other circumstances (which I will not elaborate on). I'm fairly certain you would say the same for someone who is claiming to be a member of your Vatican Catholic Church and switching back and forth to his "former" Episcopal Church after a little bit of official seesawing.
if all things are equal then it just goes down to a matter of personal preferance, i notice a lot of modern philosophy and theology boils down to this way of thinking
Again, let me ask you this: put yourself in the Anglican position and ask yourself "despite the fact that we agree on all the universal necessities, have valid orders and sacraments, etc, why should I attend a liturgy of another church that outright rejects our clergy and sacraments over one of my own which is just as valid?"
I personally do not believe in false ecumenicalism. I'm sure you can agree with that. I hope you can see the truth in where I am coming from. I also hope you will understand that I will
not be explaining further into those "other circumstances" because it would be absolutely inappropriate for me to do so. I respect the OP enough to not do so. I think he might have an idea of what I am referring to but if not, then even more a reason not to say anything else. If he does, then I leave it to him to voluntarily, if he so chooses (not really necessary here) to make it visible for all to know.