Church/Youth Group Problems

[WhyteWolf]

This is probably going to be more of a rant post than anything else, but if anyone has advice...it would be greatly appreciated.

I haven't been to church in a very long time. Probably more than half a year, but I'm not counting. The main reason is that most of the teenagers in my youth group (aka the people I am "expected" to sit with and "have fun" with at every opportunity) are, for lack of a better description, preppy kids trying to act like they are perfect. And I seriously just can't handle that. To be honest, I would gladly go into a church if they're youth group was broken, small, and desperate for help. I mean, I would fit right in, and no one is putting a mask up to hide who they are.

I actually did go to my friend's church a couple of times, and it seemed perfect. But then I stopped going because their youth leader left, and everyone because even more broken. Basically, no one came anymore. Now they have a new youth leader, but I still haven't gone. I feel like I wouldn't be "accepted" back since I left as soon as their previous youth leader left. Not to mention my confidence in general is at about -100%.

I just don't know what to do. I need a youth group. I know I do, I can feel it. I do have a friend that I talk to about Christianity sometimes, but anytime that it actually gets deep, she just shuts down the conversation.

SO, if anyone has any advice whatsoever, please speak up... :/

 

[blessedxo]

Well honeslty I think if u went back to that first youth group, they would be happy that your back? If there true Christians they will accept u back into the group and not judge u... I'd do what makes u feel better and happier !

 

[mrjames5768]

STOP GOING TO YOUTH GROUPS. I stopped going with youth groups because of the wish washy lessons and the lack of depth. I go to an adult class at my church were we have lessons of real substance. I highly recommend leaving the youth and going into the adult classes, the other adults in there should have no problem with that.

 

[WhyteWolf]

STOP GOING TO YOUTH GROUPS. I stopped going with youth groups because of the wish washy lessons and the lack of depth. I go to an adult class at my church were we have lessons of real substance. I highly recommend leaving the youth and going into the adult classes, the other adults in there should have no problem with that.

I don't know. I can't do that at my original church because the teenagers get their snobby personalities from their parents (the parents are worse). I can't do that at my friend's church because I only know some of the youth there. I know what you mean, though, about "wish washy lessons and the lack of depth," but I think being in a youth group that is accepting at the least is a step forward rather than a step back.


Thanks for both of your posts! I think I am going to try and go to my friend's youth group, but I can't until next week, if then. If I remember, I will post next Sunday on whether I actually went or not, etc.

 

[ChristianT]

If anything, it may help to find a few good Christian friends, and maybe an adult leader from your church who is knowledgable about biblical concepts, and you all can have some sort of in-depth church bible study.

 

[forest flower]

Look around my youth group went to gossip club. I went to a few other groups and just recently chose one I like.

 

[Spikey4672]

Believe it or not i know exactly how you feel. Since my parents are split i actually rotate churches and the youth at my dad's church are the same way. My advice would be to always make sure you give it a shot first, then if you don't feel like you are growing as a Christian don't go. Remember the point is to grow as a Christian so sometimes yeah you may be a bit uncomfortable but the true test is if you can go home feeling closer to God then when you arrived.

Good luck and God bless