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He wanted the divorce.
The reasons were irreconcilable differences.
There was nothing cavalier about it.
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He wanted the divorce.Interesting...he was the "cream of the crop" but yet, you divorced anyway. Were you the one that wanted the divorce?
It's funny how even Christians can be so cavalier about just walking out of a holy institution due to just not wanting to be married anymore. What was your reason for divorcing?
He wanted the divorce.
The reasons were irreconcilable differences.
There was nothing cavalier about it.
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I get most of my social interaction through my job (cashier), so by the time my shift is up, I'm pretty much done with socializing. I'm a solitude-junkie.
A bit offtopic but I can never get enough socialization. I also choose my friends though.
I laughed one time when I was buying some paper and a cashier asked, "Is that to write me love letters?"
Good opportunity to get her digits.
My point is very valid, but you don't seem to have the ability to understand it. <staff edit>Well, are you even getting out and socializing? The point I'm getting is that your point isn't valid since you don't go out to these events. It makes sense that you're preferring to stay single, because you don't put yourself out there.
Anyways, it's moot because it was so odd that she would get on the defensive like that. "I'm just here to minister, not date!"
And I'm like 'Hey, I didn't say anything! lol"
Ones should not be faulted for desiring marriage and that especially has nothing to do with any of the commandments. It's "Thall not covet thy neighbors goods" ad the other "wife"
The desire for marriage, there is no connection there.
Interesting...he was the "cream of the crop" but yet, you divorced anyway. Were you the one that wanted the divorce?
It's funny how even Christians can be so cavalier about just walking out of a holy institution due to just not wanting to be married anymore. What was your reason for divorcing?
A bit offtopic but I can never get enough socialization. I also choose my friends though.
I laughed one time when I was buying some paper and a cashier asked, "Is that to write me love letters?"
I've seen more subtle ways women do it.
Make sure you're not missing it! Of course in real life, face-to-face situations only. I still find it very difficult to know in chat.
I had been attending this singles Christian group, and had been getting to know this one woman there. There's a Facebook group, and she was sharing her trials and tribulations of her past marriage, which she claims have been long behind here these days.
I had asked her how long she's been single, and that she's been single for 8 years, and that she likes being single and had only joined the group to help herself heal and also help others that had been through her situation.
Which coincidentally, I have met quite a few people in the group with past ex-spouse/divorce issues that they've been dealing with. Guess I cannot relate, because I've never been married.
I'm not sure if she is going on the defensive, in case I may try to ask her out...one of these days...but starting off a conversation with that is kind of... jarring? It's like she's putting that out there, "just in case you get any eligible bachelors TRY to ask her out."
I mean, I didn't want to try to question her decision, with, "Really, 7 years...and you STILL enjoy it? You really being true to yourself on that?"
But, I bit my tongue. lol
I guess it's easy for a woman to say this, but I didn't want to come back with, 'Well, I dislike being single and I'm marriage-minded and looking for a life-long partner."
But, isn't there just something contradictory to what she said, how can you be a Christian single and PREFER staying that way, esp. in a group where there are legitimately single men that may possibly ask you out?
Like I said, I've never been married...so perhaps it would be impossible for me to say, "I enjoy being single! Yay!"
Part of me is just not buying it. Can a person really "enjoy" being single for that long, (8 years), and still prefer to stay out of dating/courtship?
I dunno, I just found this very odd of her admitting this.
Interesting...he was the "cream of the crop" but yet, you divorced anyway. Were you the one that wanted the divorce?
It's funny how even Christians can be so cavalier about just walking out of a holy institution due to just not wanting to be married anymore. What was your reason for divorcing?
Yes, that too. I remember telling him once, that if he was ever not happy in the marriage, to let me know. I told him he was my husband, not my hostage. I didn't like the idea of him being stuck with someone he wasn't happy with anymore when there might be someone better suited to him out there somewhere.I think because she doesn't wish to cause harm anymore or she thinks he deserved better.
There was another thread where similar assumptions were made by more than one individual. It all came to a screeching halt when I asked if anyone in the thread had been married before, as I was curious to know whether they were speaking from actual experience. Not a peep over there since then.This is a very rude question to ask, and furthermore, it's none of your business.
And the assumption made in bold was callous.
What is the most subtle way you have seen?
Yes, that too. I remember telling him once, that if he was ever not happy in the marriage, to let me know. I told him he was my husband, not my hostage. I didn't like the idea of him being stuck with someone he wasn't happy with anymore when there might be someone better suited to him out there somewhere.
Unfortunately, I didn't ask her out, this fine young lady. She's a 10/10. It didn't add up, didn't make any sense so I tagged her as a threat.
Women reading this should know, it's a very good pick up line they can use to test a man -- if the man is mutually interested and witty enough to ask them out!
There was another thread where similar assumptions were made by more than one individual. It all came to a screeching halt when I asked if anyone in the thread had been married before, as I was curious to know whether they were speaking from actual experience. Not a peep over there since then.
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