Christian or not?

[Bachi234]

I'm not sure if this guy I'm going out with is a christian or not and every time I try to bring up the subject he tries to change it. I think that he has the idea but just doesn't believe it. Anyone know of the best way of handling the situation and getting him to talk to me about it?

 

[Emma!]

I would just ask him straight out... you need to know sooner rather than later. And next time make sure you know before he becomes your bf...

Just wondering if he/you involved in church/bible study etc...? How did u meet each other?

Bless you

 

[ahmunmun]

Firstly, before you started dating, did you pray to God about it? Did God seem to send you a "go" signal? God would not give you a "go" signal if he is an unbeliever.

Even if both people are believers, someone might still be uncomfortable bringing up the topic of God. For example, in an unhealthy relationship, normally one person or both would feel uncomfortable bringing up the topic of God. They want to forget that God is watching what they're doing.

Obviously, I don't know about your relationship. If you're in a healthy relationship - and I would have no problem believing that you are - then the best advice I could give is to pray to God about it. It is also good to tell your boyfriend that you cannot fulfill his desires like God can, and hope to turn his direction to God. I think this is a good way to bring up the topic of God to him. Then you would find out if he agrees, and if he's a Christian.

 

[MN John]

Communication is key in any relationship. If you are uncomfortable asking things you need to know, then your relationship needs growth in communication. Since this is a crucial issue, you may as well start the growth right here by asking him.

 

[bliz]

If someone is a Christian, they usually welcome the opportunity to talk about their faith. If they do not want to, that's a bit of a red flag - either they are not a Christian, or they are and do not care to admit it, which is not a good sign.

If he will not talk about this with you, perhaps he should not be your boyfriend.

 

[Bachi234]

Thanks for all of the advice. He's starting to open up more. I appreciate it.

 

[Inperfected]

Hey sweety... Make sure you aren't selling yourself short by dating a person who is ashamed of their faith. I have done this in the past, and i've been out with non-christians, niether is good news.

Think real hard, because if it ends up leading to marriage, being that close to a non-christian can only tear down you faith in jesus.

 

[ignorant and stupid]

He's probably 'not' if he doesn't want to talk about it. Also remember lots of people who go to church and say they are aren't.

Look at the lifestlye he lives... (with a heart of love and grace)... is prayer integral? Is his relationship with God the most important thing in his life? Is evangelism natural and present? Does he his Bible? Does he even have one?

Lets be honest, the devil believes in God, but look at their relationship...