Christian Mingle

[blackribbon]

There are 2 couples in my Bible study that both met thru Christian Mingle. One is a younger couple and one is in their 40's. The third couple met thru E harmony so it just depends on WHO you meet. The 40 something couple is interesting because the gal had a profile on there and the guy used to (or maybe still does) some debating online about Christianity or the Bible and one night he was on the computer and an advertising came up for Christian Mingle. He decided for whatever reason, that night to click on it and do the free trial even though he said, he didn't want to go beyond that and had never even considered putting a profile online to find someone. One of the first profiles he came across was this gal that is now his wife. Also interesting is that they both had children before dating each other and then they had one together after they got married but I think it was totally a God thing that they found each other. At the time, they lived in the same state but probably about an hour or so apart....so you just never know.

My aunt and her husband have a similar story...neither intended to put up a profile and did it on a late night impulse...I think he picked her out immediately upon joining. Turns out that they lived within blocks of each other in the same Wisconsin small town. Never knew the other existed and probably wouldn't have had reason to meet. She claims it was a God thing because she never intended to do online dating. They have been married for a number of years now and are very happy together.

 

[renewed21]

My aunt and her husband have a similar story...neither intended to put up a profile and did it on a late night impulse...I think he picked her out immediately upon joining. Turns out that they lived within blocks of each other in the same Wisconsin small town. Never knew the other existed and probably wouldn't have had reason to meet. She claims it was a God thing because she never intended to do online dating. They have been married for a number of years now and are very happy together.

That's a terrific story for both of them. How coincidental.

 

[exitstageright]

OurTime is not a very good site in my opinion? I joined it some time back and the matches they send are not true matches. I checked out several they sent me and they weren't even close to what I was looking for or what my profile showed? They also match you with people all over the globe and I have absolutely no interest in meeting someone from Spain or South Whales. I never received one match from anyone in the state of Texas and what's the odds of that???

I finally closed my account and I still get email matches from them to this day, even though I've asked to be removed from their list 3 different times!

I hear ya! Texas is a big state,man! There should have been someone for you in Texas.

 

[CounselorForChrist]

As someone who has used dating sites for nearly 15 years now I can tell you most sites are horrible, even christian based ones when it comes to dating. I to tried many of the big ones like christian mingle and didn't like it at all. Mainly because 99% of the profile were women with long lists of what they want instea of being realistic and realizing the heart matters more then having muscles and stuff like that. And of course they all wanted kids, which while I would love a bundle of kids I am disabled and can't have any.

I finally found a site thats relativly small, but I know many couples that met through it and are married. Most people on here are real, down to earth and truly want love. They aren't looking for mr/ms perfect. Its the bset site I went to and of course it was free! Like I said though there isn't trillions of members and a good amount do seem to be from the Philippines (where my fiance is from).

Oh if your a guy looking for a woman. Try a filipino. People always tell me they are loyal, honest, loving and all that. I never believed it because I am used to american women (no offense to the ones on here lol). But they really are loyal and all that. I cannot stress that enough! I trust my fiance with my whole heart and she trusts me.

I am not sure if we are allowed posting links on here, but if anyone is interested the site is called:
www.christiandatingforfree.com

Just make sure you give it some time since theres not a massive amount of people on it! Oh and a note to everyone, it also helps if while searching you try and give your love life over to God. Have faith he will bring you someone and realize it may not be instant. My dads best friend is turning 47 and he didn't find his love until he was 40! Patience is good!

 

[If Not For Grace]

Does anyone else have any theories why most men would not want to date a woman with children?

Because of extra drama-no one wants to have to babysit other peoples children on a regular basis (especially grands)-then there is the extra "baggage"including expenses that children potentially bring when Mom or Dad start seeing someone "seriously".People are looking for relationships not PRE MADE LARGE families.

 

[CounselorForChrist]

Because of extra drama-no one wants to have to babysit other peoples children on a regular basis (especially grands)-then there is the extra "baggage"including expenses that children potentially bring when Mom or Dad start seeing someone "seriously".People are looking for relationships not PRE MADE LARGE families.

Well thinking about this more, I would question why the woman in quesiton is divorced. Because divorce should never be an option if your both believers. And if I found out she left him then I would not be interested in her. Because once you open your mind to divorcing then you may do it again. Now if she didn't choose to divorce and he left her, I'd be more open to being with her.

But still, I've learned to much from psychology that would say its a dangerous situation since divoreced people tend to have a change in what they think when they get into another relationship.

 

[blackribbon]

She could also be a widow...and yes, there are more of us than most people realize. Most of us have kids too...the younger the widow, the younger the kids.

Also be care to prejudge the divorced...some didn't leave anyone but rather were left.

 

[CounselorForChrist]

Oh I totally understand. THe divorce rates of chrstians is now equal to that of non-believers. Its very sad. Well even though I said what I did I should make it clear I don't judge them. I always find out the details. Even with the details I don't judge but offer advice. From what I have seen, usually the christian man is the one that leaves.

My ex-fiance had been divorced and had a little girl. I had no problem with her being divorced. That was until I found out she was diagnosed with rage, does drugs, believes in american-indian beliefs oh and mot importantly I found out (she lives in another state) that her roommate is also another ex of hers.....and theres only one bedroom. >.<