hey everyone..
i am a christian guy from egypt and i love girl from yemen and she is muslim we met eachother online more than year ago and we really love eachother more than anything and we sure about that and we ready to do anything to be with eachother and i dont have a problem about being her muslime and also she dont have a problem about that im christian ..
but the problem how to be with eachother while we live in muslims country thats will be kinda hard and also if we wanna travel to america or eurpo thats hard too for now ..
and her family will never agree to let her marry christian guy at same time she dont wanna run and leave them so how can we be together i really need help any idea just any idea or if there maybe any organization can help us to get out from this counties and go to america to we can marriage...
thanks
Peace and Blessings be upon you,
I hope you are well.
I can really understand your situation and relate. Does she and her family know the Quran very well? I'd suggest you present this to her and then present it before her family.
The Quran tells men they are NOT allowed to marry disbelieving women until they believe but that they MAY marry (chaste) Christian and Jewish women.
The Quran never tells a woman that she CAN'T marry a Christian or Jew.
The Quran says that to both men and women, that do NOT marry disbelievers/unbelievers/kufffars. However, the Quran does not consider Christians and Jews kuffars or disbelievers at all. It considers them People of the Book, and they always hold a special place in the Quran, especially those who are righteous, are chaste, do good work, etc.
Don't forget that anything that's in parentheses is the translator's/interpreter's thought and has no basis in the original Arabic text itself. What you need to be focusing on is the actual Arabic, and not the "(i.e.,...)" or "(XYZ)." For example, there's nothing in verse 2:221 that says, "Don't marry your daughters off to ..." but yet, that's how it's translated! The original text only says, "Do not marry . . ." It should read:
"Do not marry idolatresses unless they believe; a believing woman is better than an idolatress..."
Clearly, the second part indicates that it's talking to men, not to women, since, well, it says a believing woman is better than an idolatress.
Since the Ahl-e-Kitab (People of the Book = Jews and Christians) are not deemed idolaters and/or disbelievers or unbelievers by the Quran, any argument saying that the Quran forbids women from marrying Jewish and Christian men is flawed because the Quran forbids BOTH men and women from marrying disbelievers but then it allows men to marry Christians/Jews while never specifically allowing or disallowing women to do the same.
Now, ask them to show you a verse in the Quran that tells Muslim women that they may not marry men from People of the Book (Jews/Christians), when it specifically tells Muslim men that they CAN marry women from the People of the Book.
BUT if the argument is that the People of the Book ARE, indeed, disbelievers since Christians have their belief in Trinity, then the response becomes: Since Christianity has evolved between the time that verse was revealed and today, Muslim men are no longer permitted to marry Christian women, since they're essentially disbelievers. But this argument is not supported by the Quran, since it makes it clear that they CAN marry.
It just never says women cannot marry Christian/Jews, but that no Muslim (man or woman) may marry a disbeliever.
The Quran strictly prohibits marriage with idolaters, but it does not mention whether Muslim women can or cannot marry People of the Book.
And give not (your daughters) in marriage to Al Mushrikun (polytheists) till they believe" (Al-Baqarah: 221)
Christian's and Jew's are
'Ahl-e-Kitab'. Muslim men are allowed to marry People of the Book, so Ahl-e-Kitab can't be called Al Mushrikun, otherwise Muslim men wouldn't be able to marry them, right?
Many Islamic scholars, of course, forbid the marriage of a Muslim women to a Christian or Jew, but after reading this, you'll see that there is no basis for it. There
have been Islamic scholars who have accepted marriage of Muslim women to men who are people of the book.
So, one more time: The Quran tells men they are NOT allowed to marry disbelieving women until they believe but that they MAY marry (chaste) Christian and Jewish women. The Quran never tells a woman that she CAN'T marry a Christian or Jew.
I've taken most of the above information from a user called 'Roshina' on this forum
Why can't a Muslimah marry a Jew of a Christian? (Split) - Pashtun Community | Pashtuns | Pashto | Credit goes to her, but I hope it will help you.
I wish you good luck, if you need anymore help, feel free to ask.
Take care,
ZK
