Me and my girlfriend recently just broke up, not for materialistic reasons, but rather for Jesus Christ.
It was hard for me to understand at first, because she had mentioned to me that there are 2 types of dating, obviously serious and non-serious. Non-serious dating has no significance, none what so ever, just an outlet of "fun". Serious Christian dating, however on the other hand, meant that it was dating for marriage. I am very young, 17 and she the same, it is obviously too early for marriage.
I have not been a devout Christian for an extended period of time, so it was very hard for me to let someone go who I care for so much. In addition, it was also hard for me to understand why so serious of a mindset at such a young age, and also why there could not be anything in between a serious/non-serious relationship. I seeked the Bible again, but to no avail. I seeked Christian websites on the internet, and they all told me the same message. Dating NOT for the purpose of marriage should be dissallowed, for it is similar to adultery, because you are seeking "thrills" out of the other partner. God prepares us for only one person, not multiple partners.
My questions to you: By dating individuals before marriage NOT for the purpose of marriage are we considered sinners? Is dating just an outlet of worldly wants and desires? Is there such a thing as Christian Dating (not for the purpose of marriage)?
Prayer request:
Faith, healing and open mindedness for me and her. God Bless.
It was hard for me to understand at first, because she had mentioned to me that there are 2 types of dating, obviously serious and non-serious. Non-serious dating has no significance, none what so ever, just an outlet of "fun". Serious Christian dating, however on the other hand, meant that it was dating for marriage. I am very young, 17 and she the same, it is obviously too early for marriage.
I have not been a devout Christian for an extended period of time, so it was very hard for me to let someone go who I care for so much. In addition, it was also hard for me to understand why so serious of a mindset at such a young age, and also why there could not be anything in between a serious/non-serious relationship. I seeked the Bible again, but to no avail. I seeked Christian websites on the internet, and they all told me the same message. Dating NOT for the purpose of marriage should be dissallowed, for it is similar to adultery, because you are seeking "thrills" out of the other partner. God prepares us for only one person, not multiple partners.
My questions to you: By dating individuals before marriage NOT for the purpose of marriage are we considered sinners? Is dating just an outlet of worldly wants and desires? Is there such a thing as Christian Dating (not for the purpose of marriage)?
Prayer request:
Faith, healing and open mindedness for me and her. God Bless.
Yes I know that sounds awful, but while in high school, you should focus on school. You're aware of the age factor and that you're too young to think about marriage, so why put yourselves in tempting situations at a young age? Your best bet is to listen to God's voice in this matter, though. Seriously pray about it. Voice of experience, here....I'm 24 and went through the same thing you are going through. It wasn't until I started earnestly seeking Christ, praying more, reading the Bible more, and focusing on my relationship with HIM instead of with a guy, that I was truly able to be content with myself. I hope I helped!
