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I made a thread earlier on the topic of Christian dating. Many users correctly point out to me that post was way too long. So I am breaking it down piece by piece for discussions.
Original post here:
http://www.christianforums.com/t7831915/
For Christians that have problems dating another Christian, there are generally 4 types:
1) Couldn’t find a Christian date
2) Bad dates (disappointing Christian dates)
3) Had sex before marriage.
4) Divorced
This post is about the third type: Christians who had sex before marriage. This includes those born-again Christians who didn't believe beforehand.
(Most of the online discussions was about non-virgin women marrying virgin men. The opposite is probably true, but rarely discussed online.)
Results: lost their virginity before marriage (limits their future Christian dating option), some ends up lying about their past at the start of a relationship (and reveal this later.)
View: Many women view Christian men as judgmental of their “bad and evil” past (examples like Rahab->Jesus was brought up).
Many men believe that while the sins of these Christian women are forgiven, the consequences cannot (and should not) be avoided. Christian men should have the right to reject non-virgin females as wives. God never said temporal consequences of sins are forgotten/erased as much as the eternal ones. In fact saying so would be non-biblical. Rahab was an exception.
(Generalization of feminism in churches and media: Female non-virgins=>victims unwillingly used by men. Male non-virgins=>purely evil and sinful. Some men feel they are being treated unfairly by the Christian culture.)
Some young men complained that non-virgin Christian women would try to “temp” the young Christian men into having sex with them before marriage. These women seem to be using their own guilt as a basis for further sin and leading Christian men astray.
Women say many men do the same thing, respectively.
Lying is very common on this subject. Many Christians would lie about their past, only to reveal it later.
So the question for discussion here: Do you prefer to marry a Christian who is virgin? How important is this to you? With that in mind, do you think a Christian being a non-virgin will affect his/her chances of finding a Christian spouse?
Original post here:
http://www.christianforums.com/t7831915/
For Christians that have problems dating another Christian, there are generally 4 types:
1) Couldn’t find a Christian date
2) Bad dates (disappointing Christian dates)
3) Had sex before marriage.
4) Divorced
This post is about the third type: Christians who had sex before marriage. This includes those born-again Christians who didn't believe beforehand.
(Most of the online discussions was about non-virgin women marrying virgin men. The opposite is probably true, but rarely discussed online.)
Results: lost their virginity before marriage (limits their future Christian dating option), some ends up lying about their past at the start of a relationship (and reveal this later.)
View: Many women view Christian men as judgmental of their “bad and evil” past (examples like Rahab->Jesus was brought up).
Many men believe that while the sins of these Christian women are forgiven, the consequences cannot (and should not) be avoided. Christian men should have the right to reject non-virgin females as wives. God never said temporal consequences of sins are forgotten/erased as much as the eternal ones. In fact saying so would be non-biblical. Rahab was an exception.
(Generalization of feminism in churches and media: Female non-virgins=>victims unwillingly used by men. Male non-virgins=>purely evil and sinful. Some men feel they are being treated unfairly by the Christian culture.)
Some young men complained that non-virgin Christian women would try to “temp” the young Christian men into having sex with them before marriage. These women seem to be using their own guilt as a basis for further sin and leading Christian men astray.
Women say many men do the same thing, respectively.
Lying is very common on this subject. Many Christians would lie about their past, only to reveal it later.
So the question for discussion here: Do you prefer to marry a Christian who is virgin? How important is this to you? With that in mind, do you think a Christian being a non-virgin will affect his/her chances of finding a Christian spouse?
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