Christian Conflict Resolution 101

[annie1speed]

Here's a poem some (probably all) of us should read. Do you think we need a class on it?

Christian Conflict Resolution: 101


Even though you're getting on my nerves
I don't want to cut you with my words
If anger is the color red
Then "Don't push me 'cause I'm close to the edge
I'm tryin' not to lose my head"

I should say God bless u
but I want to say f-u
so I'll just keep my mouth shut
and pray for u later
'less I become like Darth Vader
and my toungue a light saber

"Blessed are the peacemakers"
Hard to tell that to the movers and shakers
No matter how many times they say
"War equals Peace"
I won't believe the press release

What if Christians were the last
to sign up for war instead of the first
What will it take to quench our thirst
for money and power
At what point does greed become sour
After a hard day of dropping bombs
does anyone feel the need to take a shower

The Good Book does not say love thy enemy
except for the terrorist
Will the FBI put me on their list
if I choose to resist
and protest through nonviolence
The Gospel can't be preached in silence

I love this country I just love God more
I want to see the wave of justice fall on every shore
I'm a red-blooded American thanks to the stripes
Not from flags but crucifixion
When Jesus walked the earth he caused friction
He lived with the poor
and he never waged war

We should never use haste
even though the world is a dangerous place
When fear grips our mind
That's when we need to press rewind
and search the wisdom of the Bible
Only then will we see revival
If Jesus is really Lord
Then someday, somehow
we have to put away our sword

- Rod Gavin

 

[NightEternal]

I would love to contribute to this discussion Annie, but since everything I say lately is being spite-reported, I won't be participating much.

Thanks for your thoughts though.

The bottom line for me is that anonymous reporting will continue no matter what we say or do. It is a convienient, fast-food way to attack people with impunity and get that instant gratification and adrenaline rush of the online equivalent of using the cover of darkness to 'punch' people in the face who cannot properly defend themselves.

It is cowardly. I have said it from day one and I will say it until I am gone from this place. It is cowardly.

Unfortunately, the report system will never be done away with, ever. Too many people love to use it and get thier 'high'.

 

[mva1985]

15"If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over. 16 But if he will not listen, take one or two others along, so that 'every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.' 17 If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, treat him as you would a pagan or a tax collector.

 

[annie1speed]

MVA,

Thanks for the verses. I started to post them with the poem. These are what I was referring to when I mentioned Christian Conflict Resolution in the Progressive Area. I wasn't sure whether to post this here or in that area.

I'd like to see people will try to work things out more among themselves before they hit the report button. It is the Christian way to work out our differences. When people report the way most due, it does nothing but sharpen the divisions between people, not heal them.

If God has truly taken over our keyboards, as I read one person put it, shouldn't we try to resolve our issues as God would have us - one on one, privately, and with Christian love and concern for the other's soul?

 

[djconklin]

Thanks for the poem! It's definitely a keeper!

And it has nothing whatsoever to do with the reporting system.

 

[NightEternal]

Thanks for the poem! It's definitely a keeper!

And it has nothing whatsoever to do with the reporting system.

Annie got unjustly reported in the Prog area and it was not the first time:

http://christianforums.com/showpost.php?p=42127048&postcount=21

That was the incident which spawned the inspiration for this thread.

Therefore, the report system is valid to the OP.

The report system does not lend itself to good conflict resolution, but rather, breeds more animosity and conflict.

 

[mva1985]

MVA,

Thanks for the verses. I started to post them with the poem. These are what I was referring to when I mentioned Christian Conflict Resolution in the Progressive Area. I wasn't sure whether to post this here or in that area.

I'd like to see people will try to work things out more among themselves before they hit the report button. It is the Christian way to work out our differences. When people report the way most due, it does nothing but sharpen the divisions between people, not heal them.

If God has truly taken over our keyboards, as I read one person put it, shouldn't we try to resolve our issues as God would have us - one on one, privately, and with Christian love and concern for the other's soul?

Annie,

I agree. But once people have so entrenched themselves in a certain position they tend to what to stay there. I'm not saying that it is right. But it is part of the world we live in. I don't think that it helps to start threads "defending" oneself either.

I think that this thread is a good start and hopefully it will have some good input.

 

[NightEternal]

I don't think that it helps to start threads "defending" oneself either.

That would be your opinion only. I will continue to do it as long as I fell it is necessary or until the report system is once again opened up for our input so we can defend ourselves against reports.

You may think a system where there is no full-disclosure, transparency or accountability is alright, but I, for one, do not.

You just had to get that shot in there, didn't you MVA?

 

[djconklin]

Since the OP said nothing about the reporting system complaints against it should not have been posted here. Perhaps a thread?

 

[mva1985]

That would be your opinion only. I will continue to do it as long as I fell it is necessary or until the report system is once again opened up for our input so we can defend ourselves against reports.

You may think a system where there is no full-disclosure, transparency or accountability is alright, but I, for one, do not.

You just had to get that shot in there, didn't you MVA?

Maybe you could buy the forum and then do what you want.

Sorry Annie I won't derail this thread further.

 

[honorthesabbath]

Since the OP said nothing about the reporting system complaints against it should not have been posted here. Perhaps a thread?

Oh DJ--there have been legions of threads started over this issue! Please don't encourage yet another one--lol.

 

[honorthesabbath]

Annie,

I agree. But once people have so entrenched themselves in a certain position they tend to what to stay there. I'm not saying that it is right. But it is part of the world we live in. I don't think that it helps to start threads "defending" oneself either.

I think that this thread is a good start and hopefully it will have some good input.

You weren't the one who derailed this thread MVA.

 

[NightEternal]

You weren't the one who derailed this thread MVA.

I didn't derail anything, so spare me, please.

Annie got unjustly reported in the Prog area and it was not the first time:

http://christianforums.com/showpost....8&postcount=21

That was the incident which spawned the inspiration for this thread.

Therefore, the report system is valid to the OP.

The report system does not lend itself to good conflict resolution, but rather, breeds more animosity and conflict.

http://christianforums.com/showpost.php?p=42132883&postcount=6

If Annie feels I have, she is free to let me know. She has not, so your charge is, of course, without merit and groundless, just like so many of your others against me.

But, of course, as one of the major offenders of 'reporter extraodinaire' on this forum, I wouldn't expect you to want this issue to come up in a thread on proper conflict resolution.

 

[djconklin]

Well, I guess I have too much of a life* outside this place to have noticed that there were "legions" of threads on the reporting system.

* Actually, it's more like work. But it can be fun when I learn something new every day!

 

[djconklin]

I didn't derail anything, so spare me, please.

The second post on this thread--by you--had nothing to do with the first post.

That was the incident which spawned the inspiration for this thread.

And you know this "inspiration" how?

Psychic? Hmm, wonder what a psy chic would look like?

 

[NightEternal]

She was unfairly reported minutes before she started this thread.

Anyone is free to ask her if that had any influence at all on this discussion.

 

[NightEternal]

Maybe you could buy the forum and then do what you want.

MVA, you were the one that initially took a cheap shot at me, so I really don't know what the point of that sarcastic remark was.

 

[annie1speed]

Night is correct on this. My comment in the progressive forum as it is here is that I would like to see us use some Christian Conflict Resolution techniques here on the forum instead of report, report, report.

My post was reported by someone who had nothing to do with our 'conversation' at all because all three of the others have stated publicly on the forum that they had no problem with my post and were not offended.

As mva quoted in the verses exactly what I was trying to say. Let's try to resolve our issues the way God would have us do it.

Nobody has derailed the thread in my opinion, so no worries there.

I would really like for folks to give this idea some thought. We are all grown-ups here aren't we? We all are trying to be better Christians here, right? And we do need to be more cognizant of our words and their influence ----- right?


Maybe??

 

[honorthesabbath]

Night is correct on this. My comment in the progressive forum as it is here is that I would like to see us use some Christian Conflict Resolution techniques here on the forum instead of report, report, report.

My post was reported by someone who had nothing to do with our 'conversation' at all because all three of the others have stated publicly on the forum that they had no problem with my post and were not offended.

As mva quoted in the verses exactly what I was trying to say. Let's try to resolve our issues the way God would have us do it.

Nobody has derailed the thread in my opinion, so no worries there.

I would really like for folks to give this idea some thought. We are all grown-ups here aren't we? We all are trying to be better Christians here, right? And we do need to be more cognizant of our words and their influence ----- right?


Maybe??

Just for the record though, it looks like the report was made BEFORE Doc and Sarah said that they weren't offended.

 

[NightEternal]

Well then they shouldn't have taken the liberty of speaking for others in thier report, now should they?!

And just so everyone knows, Honor has just proven my point by reporting me ONCE AGAIN claiming I attacked her in a post. A post that did not have her name ANYWHERE IN IT.