Chit Chat (8)

night night.. I'm turning in. I seem to have caught a bug. I hope it passes quick. I really don't want to feel drained any longer than I have to.
hugs, good night.

birdie29 said:

Sorry about your daughter... I wish her all the best.. Single parenthood is really hard... Some people say it's the hardest thing they have ever done. Boys are easy until their hormones kick in.. then it's a nightmare...lol he skipped school, made beer in the closet, rearranged lawn furniture in peoples yards... the list goes on and on.. Somehow he survived. We lived in a small town and his teachers were very supportive. I was glad for that. We went to church but I wish I personally would have taught him more bible. Somehow, he doesn't seem to have as much bible teaching as I did at an early age. My parents didn't go to church but our next door neighbor was very baptist.. I went with her and her family. I'm not baptist now, but they (the baptists) are very good about teaching the bible to children. Memory verses and the like. My son and I usually went to a non-denominational church. That lack of structure may have been a mistake. When I have the energy and am off work (which isn't a lot) I go up to a little methodist church near my house. I like that one. It's been around for over 100 years.. It's well established. Strong family of believers....

I pray that God blesses her efforts, or sends someone in her life to be a father to her children. boys do seem to need a strong role model. Without one being provided for them they go searching for one on their own... Sometimes that doesn't turn out so good. I probably should have married again for my son's sake, but I didn't like any of my options... I had a secret thing for bad boys myself and nice guys didn't seem to be able to hold my attention. So to compensate, I just didn't date.

love, connie

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Wow, you sound like my daughter...she knows she goes after the wrong type (too late).
She expects she won't remarry, but at 37, who can tell?!I
f her ex cleaned up his act I know she would take him back.
Good guy, just has MAJOR problems, and the likelihood of his major cleanup is nil at this point.
Both my grandsons may give her a ride for her $$; one is 'full of it' ; the other will test her.
She is trying to raise them in the faith, but her faith is being tested, and they are baulking at it also.
Thanks for your prayers!

birdie29 said:

night night.. I'm turning in. I seem to have caught a bug. I hope it passes quick. I really don't want to feel drained any longer than I have to.
hugs, good night.

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Rest up; I hope you feel better...a lot of bugs around
God bless

my lovely husband kissed me bye this morning before he left for work. That may not sound unusual, but I was sleeping (until he kissed my forehead) and I got to rest there for a bit longer in bed, knowing he loves me.

alternatively- LOL - he knows I sleep lightly and he figured if he had to leave at 0500, I should not be allowed to sleep either!

I have 4 cousins on facebook... they all seem to be driven to get as drunk as possible as often as possible. Seems to be all they live for. unhealthy coping skills... I know but it characterizes my family... That's on my mom's side... On my dad's side there have been at least three alcohol related automobile accidents. the last one took someone's unsuspecting mother with her. As a child I wished I had been born into a better family... Last night on facebook I remembered why.

birdie29 said:

I have 4 cousins on facebook... they all seem to be driven to get as drunk as possible as often as possible. Seems to be all they live for. unhealthy coping skills... I know but it characterizes my family... That's on my mom's side... On my dad's side there have been at least three alcohol related automobile accidents. the last one took someone's unsuspecting mother with her. As a child I wished I had been born into a better family... Last night on facebook I remembered why.

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I hope you reread this post yourself Birdie29

Yes, this is, about 'you'
The Lord gave you to this family ...
He doesn't get things wrong [?]
Let there be no temptation, for you to follow a similar path [?]

Their way is plainly not your way...
You are, WHERE you are meant to be
I that you are able to acquit yourself admirably ...to His praise and glory


dave

Anessa14 said:

my lovely husband kissed me bye this morning before he left for work. That may not sound unusual, but I was sleeping (until he kissed my forehead) and I got to rest there for a bit longer in bed, knowing he loves me.

alternatively- LOL - he knows I sleep lightly and he figured if he had to leave at 0500, I should not be allowed to sleep either!

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Welcome to CF and GE 50+
May God continue to bless you

birdie29 said:

I have 4 cousins on facebook... they all seem to be driven to get as drunk as possible as often as possible. Seems to be all they live for. unhealthy coping skills... I know but it characterizes my family... That's on my mom's side... On my dad's side there have been at least three alcohol related automobile accidents. the last one took someone's unsuspecting mother with her. As a child I wished I had been born into a better family... Last night on facebook I remembered why.

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Thank God for your life as it has become~ those trials have made you the strong, faith filled woman you are.
Yes, you must set your boundaries with them, but you can also be a witness, and pray for their conversion and healing as a 'wounded healer' yourself
I hope you feel better today and your 'bug' was just fatigue
God bless your dear heart

No soml, the bug seems to be real.
dave, nag nag nag. lol.

All that talk about family last night and then I signed onto facebook and got a wif of that... Not only that but they posted on my wall for all to see. .
I really don't see them much and to be honest they wouldn't want to see me unless it were alcohol related.
my grandfather died racing a train across a track on his motorcycle. ... he was drunk. I never knew him
two of my dad's cousins in a car accident when they were drunk...
I do not see that part of my dad's family very often... I have one cousin (who used to think she was called into the ministry) I call once in a while... but I don't think the affection is returned.. she doesn't call me, I call her..
However, they (my cousins) do embarrass me in front of my "Other" friends. the two girls on my mom's side are my mom's brother's children.. Half sisters.. He abandoned them,, and moved to montana to be with some woman he had had a fling with... ONe of them told me not too long ago that he came home drunk and urinated on her once. My dad and my mom's jerk brother have become buddies lately and my son goes to visit anyone my dad endorses as worthy.
What really irritates me is that my son hungers for family and this is all I have to offer him... child abusers, drunks, and the sexually confused. And I grew up thinking we were NORMAL

I was just reminded that I do not really miss the family I have as much as I miss the family I wanted to have. Chastise me if you want but it's how I feel. If I were to say I were THAT witnessing christian, I would be lying. I'm just me... No calling.. no special gifts.... I really don't have all that much to offer... I can't say that I have honestly ever really saw a miracle..Don't have a word from God.... No better life to offer them if they follow Christ..In fact, as respect goes, I'm one of the least respected in my family. I'm not cool. No successful husband... No really great job... I could love them, but realized last night that that is only possible from a distance because up-close I wouldn't be able to pretend to be okay with their lifestyle. Sure I think they should go to church.. Sure I think there is more to life than getting as drunk as you possibly can. These two sisters get drunk together and have what they consider to be special moments of bonding ... to them, that's being close...They didn't really relate until they started drinking together.. they visited each other ever few months and that was the end of it.

Hi Birdie29

Thank you for the VIEW of your forest...and there may certainly be a lot of WOOD in it

BUT!! This is, still, about you

Plainly, your 'choice' is..... NOT-TO sink, into their ways
but-rather to swim harder strokes to find the current that will remove you from harm


During the 40 years the Jewish people wandered in the wilderness,
Joshua served as a faithful aide to Moses.
Of 12 spies sent to scout out Canaan, only Joshua and Caleb had confidence in God,
and only those two survived the desert ordeal to enter the Promised Land.
Against overwhelming odds, Joshua led the Israelite army in its conquest
of the Promised Land. He apportioned the land to the tribes and governed them for a time.
Without a doubt, Joshua's greatest accomplishment in life
was his unwavering loyalty and faith in God.
Some Bible scholars view Joshua as an Old Testament representation, or foreshadowing,
of Jesus Christ, the promised Messiah.
What Moses (who represented the law) was unable to do,
Joshua (Yeshua) achieved when he successfully led the people of God out of the desert
to conquer their enemies and enter the Promised Land.
His accomplishments point to the finished work of Jesus Christ on the cross—
the defeat of God's enemy, Satan, the setting free of all believers from captivity to sin,
and the opening of the way into the "Promised Land" of eternity.

Joshua's Strengths:

While serving Moses, Joshua was also an attentive student,
learning much from the great leader.
Joshua showed tremendous courage, despite the huge responsibility assigned to him.
He was a brilliant military commander. Joshua prospered
because he trusted God with every aspect of his life.
Joshua's Weaknesses:

Before battle, Joshua always consulted God.
Unfortunately, he did not do so when the people of Gibeon
entered into a deceptive peace treaty with Israel.
God had forbidden Israel to make treaties with any people in Canaan.
If Joshua had sought God's guidance first, he would not have made this mistake.
Life Lessons:

Obedience, faith, and dependence on God made Joshua one of Israel's strongest leaders.
He provided a bold example for us to follow.
Like us, Joshua was often besieged by other voices, but he chose to follow God,
and he did it faithfully.
Joshua took seriously the Ten Commandments and ordered the people of Israel
to live by them as well.
Even though Joshua was not perfect, he proved
that a life of obedience to God bears great rewards.
Sin always has consequences.
If we live according to God's Word, like Joshua, we will receive God's blessings.

birdie29 said:

No soml, the bug seems to be real.
dave, nag nag nag. lol.

Chastise me if you want but it's how I feel. If I were to say I were THAT witnessing christian, I would be lying. I'm just me... No calling.. no special gifts.... I really don't have all that much to offer... I can't say that I have honestly ever really saw a miracle..Don't have a word from God.... No better life to offer them if they follow Christ..In fact, as respect goes, I'm one of the least respected in my family. I'm not cool. No successful husband... No really great job...

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So sorry you feel punk I hope you recover quickly!

(LOL @ nag,nag,nag)

No chastisement here girl
I am just saying that you have been wounded, and that makes you the sensitive person you are!
Surely it is wise to avoid all that dysfunction as you see best, and yes...just place them in God's Hands and pray for them....and for your yet healed wounds.

There need be no great ministry....just following the Lord, loving where and how we can is enough.

Your background also makes you sensitive to others who suffer the same family trials as you have; share what you can, when you feel led.

We all need to remain humble re: our backgrounds and how the Lord uses us, but please don't underestimate His use of YOU.....if not now, some day in the future.

You may never be aware of how you touch another soul...already you have blessed us with your faith and hope....your courage and strength....your spiritual support.
Just the fact that your 'rose from the ashes of your life' is a testimony to the Lord's grace in you!

Yes it is a life long process as we journey home, but we are never alone sharing Christ's love.... and the graces He blesses us with

hey birdie,,,i understand about swimming against the waves as Mr Dave said above,,,my husband family is involved in alot of drinking and other things,,,,,so i often dont go to get togethers cause they often turn into all night drunk parties,,i often go early and leave early,,,,but its hard,,i know,,,,,they look at me like im the rong one,,,I trust Jesus to use me to convict them cause they often feel uncomfortable around methanks to God mt husband barely drinks anymore and he doesnt participate in their activities! he still not saved,,,but someday he will have his eyes opened thru Gods Grace!

servant of Merciful Love said:

So sorry you feel punk I hope you recover quickly!

(LOL @ nag,nag,nag)

No chastisement here girl
I am just saying that you have been wounded, and that makes you the sensitive person you are!
Surely it is wise to avoid all that dysfunction as you see best, and yes...just place them in God's Hands and pray for them....and for your yet healed wounds.

There need be no great ministry....just following the Lord, loving where and how we can is enough.

Your background also makes you sensitive to others who suffer the same family trials as you have; share what you can, when you feel led.

We all need to remain humble re: our backgrounds and how the Lord uses us, but please don't underestimate His use of YOU.....if not now, some day in the future.

You may never be aware of how you touch another soul...already you have blessed us with your faith and hope....your courage and strength....your spiritual support.
Just the fact that your 'rose from the ashes of your life' is a testimony to the Lord's grace in you!

Yes it is a life long process as we journey home, but we are never alone sharing Christ's love.... and the graces He blesses us with

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thanks... I think i'm a bit crabby today.. Probably the cold and that I really am not looking forward to the next two days at work... Nights today and then days the next... I've been asking god for a new direction (where work is concerned) but nothing seems to be presenting itself. Not yet anyway... Maybe staying put is his answer.. I really don't mind the job... I like the job, I stay busy and before you know it it's over. I usually find plenty to do because in retail it's never all done... In 5 years I have only been bored at work 2 or 3 times total. But, I don't like the drama/gossip/backstabbing I have to see and deal with daily... I guess that's people... I also wish I had better hours... either days or evenings... (not midnights... oh please lord, not midnights) and weekends off. I really miss having my weekends off.

second... you see me as strong...?? You have said that twice now....(maybe three times) obviously you are mistaken. lol, I'm a mess.

bachatagirl said:

hey birdie,,,i understand about swimming against the waves as Mr Dave said above,,,my husband family is involved in alot of drinking and other things,,,,,so i often dont go to get togethers cause they often turn into all night drunk parties,,i often go early and leave early,,,,but its hard,,i know,,,,,they look at me like im the rong one,,,I trust Jesus to use me to convict them cause they often feel uncomfortable around methanks to God mt husband barely drinks anymore and he doesnt participate in their activities! he still not saved,,,but someday he will have his eyes opened thru Gods Grace!

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Thanks for sharing that. I think I just got mad because they posted that stuff on my wall... I almost deleted it, but then I used privacy to make it so the two of them were the only ones who could read it. It really did embarrass me.. they have done that twice now. I am not perfect... I know that, but i'm tired of being judged by the things my family does.

davedajobauk said:

Hi Birdie29

Thank you for the VIEW of your forest...and there may certainly be a lot of WOOD in it

BUT!! This is, still, about you

Plainly, your 'choice' is..... NOT-TO sink, into their ways
but-rather to swim harder strokes to find the current that will remove you from harm


During the 40 years the Jewish people wandered in the wilderness,
Joshua served as a faithful aide to Moses.
Of 12 spies sent to scout out Canaan, only Joshua and Caleb had confidence in God,
and only those two survived the desert ordeal to enter the Promised Land.
Against overwhelming odds, Joshua led the Israelite army in its conquest
of the Promised Land. He apportioned the land to the tribes and governed them for a time.
Without a doubt, Joshua's greatest accomplishment in life
was his unwavering loyalty and faith in God.
Some Bible scholars view Joshua as an Old Testament representation, or foreshadowing,
of Jesus Christ, the promised Messiah.
What Moses (who represented the law) was unable to do,
Joshua (Yeshua) achieved when he successfully led the people of God out of the desert
to conquer their enemies and enter the Promised Land.
His accomplishments point to the finished work of Jesus Christ on the cross—
the defeat of God's enemy, Satan, the setting free of all believers from captivity to sin,
and the opening of the way into the "Promised Land" of eternity.

Joshua's Strengths:

While serving Moses, Joshua was also an attentive student,
learning much from the great leader.
Joshua showed tremendous courage, despite the huge responsibility assigned to him.
He was a brilliant military commander. Joshua prospered
because he trusted God with every aspect of his life.
Joshua's Weaknesses:

Before battle, Joshua always consulted God.
Unfortunately, he did not do so when the people of Gibeon
entered into a deceptive peace treaty with Israel.
God had forbidden Israel to make treaties with any people in Canaan.
If Joshua had sought God's guidance first, he would not have made this mistake.
Life Lessons:

Obedience, faith, and dependence on God made Joshua one of Israel's strongest leaders.
He provided a bold example for us to follow.
Like us, Joshua was often besieged by other voices, but he chose to follow God,
and he did it faithfully.
Joshua took seriously the Ten Commandments and ordered the people of Israel
to live by them as well.
Even though Joshua was not perfect, he proved
that a life of obedience to God bears great rewards.
Sin always has consequences.
If we live according to God's Word, like Joshua, we will receive God's blessings.

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Dave, I will read about joshua... I've been wondering what to study... Don't really want anymore of the gospels. (matthew mark luke)... tired of lessons from paul. already done job.. I will read and try to study the life of joshua next... i really know nothing about him.
Sorry I'm crabby today... I'm Not as faithful (and never have been ) as someone you describe joshua to be.... So I probably won't be leading any large groups.... lol (thanks)

often times i get offended on posts on facebook too,,,but now im begining to realize they live in darkness,,,,,so keep trying to shed light on their life,,You just may be the only Light they see

birdie29 said:

thanks... I think i'm a bit crabby today.. Probably the cold and that I really am not looking forward to the next two days at work... Nights today and then days the next... I've been asking god for a new direction (where work is concerned) but nothing seems to be presenting itself. Not yet anyway... Maybe staying put is his answer.. I really don't mind the job... I like the job, I stay busy and before you know it it's over. I usually find plenty to do because in retail it's never all done... In 5 years I have only been bored at work 2 or 3 times total. But, I don't like the drama/gossip/backstabbing I have to see and deal with daily... I guess that's people... I also wish I had better hours... either days or evenings... (not midnights... oh please lord, not midnights) and weekends off. I really miss having my weekends off.

second... you see me as strong...?? You have said that twice now....(maybe three times) obviously you are mistaken. lol, I'm a mess.

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Crabby is ok been there
YES YOU ARE...to do all you do around your home...and the hours you work.... raising a child alone; never mind just surviving your past!
Praying for YOU to see the wonderful woman you are...in our eyes and in the Lord's eyes~ and praying for you to get the better hours you so deserve

Hi gang, I have been peeping in to see how everyone is doing...hugs to all...guess I have posted a lot with my blogs, sort of posted myself dry.

I am going to bathe Gracie tomorrow...I like to do that, she has been needy today...always wanting my lap. LOL

It is quiet here...just trying to get in the swing for a new year......I did have and seem to be really enjoying my own Bible study time...PTL!


I plan to make mashed potatoes tonight to eat with left over pork chops...I am sort of craving the potatoes...

Hi Shirley
Glad to hear you have been expressing yourself

I won't even try to bathe Penny she HATES it!
The groomer says she refuses to stand and cries all the while she is washed and dried God bless her

We had a taste of the 'January thaw' today with temps @ 52, so Penny and I went for a walk
BUT the roads are so messy with ice, snow and sand....ugh, what a muddy mess she was when we got home
Thankfully her fur is long enough that the mess was just on the outer layers!
I was able to dry her off with paper towels and then brushed the sand out when it dried

Tomorrow we expect to be nice as well, so we will hit the road again

It was awesome to crack the windows, smell the fresh air in the house, and air out all the beds too!

Winter is NOT done with us yet, so I enjoy each blessing like we had today

servant of Merciful Love said:

Hi Shirley
Glad to hear you have been expressing yourself

I won't even try to bathe Penny she HATES it!
The groomer says she refuses to stand and cries all the while she is washed and dried God bless her

We had a taste of the 'January thaw' today with temps @ 52, so Penny and I went for a walk
BUT the roads are so messy with ice, snow and sand....ugh, what a muddy mess she was when we got home
Thankfully her fur is long enough that the mess was just on the outer layers!
I was able to dry her off with paper towels and then brushed the sand out when it dried

Tomorrow we expect to be nice as well, so we will hit the road again

It was awesome to crack the windows, smell the fresh air in the house, and air out all the beds too!

Winter is NOT done with us yet, so I enjoy each blessing like we had today

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We have had a few hours of winter...it has been warm and dry...

Gracie does well for her bath...she is not crazy about it, but she does well...I bathe her in the kitchen sink using that rinsing hose for dishes.

Poor Penny, I took my cockers out for grooming when I got sick...I don't know what they did...I did them myself many years...the groomer is very stressful for them, but worse things could happen...

Just a reminder for those of us who get crabby:

18 We know that everyone who has been born of God does not keep on sinning, but he who was born of God protects him, and the evil one does not touch him.

19 We know that we are from God, and the whole world lies in the power of the evil one. 20 And we know that the Son of God has come and has given us understanding, so that we may know him who is true; and we are in him who is true, in his Son Jesus Christ. He is the true God and eternal life. 21 Little children, keep yourselves from idols.

1 John 5:18-21