Children?

[KarrieTex]

I saw this on the single's thread and thought it best would discussed up here in our mature single's area.

One of the youngens asked about kids and it being a deal breaker in starting or continuing a relationship.

What I was finding interesting was one how YOUNG were some of those who answered and how the boys wanted 4,5 and even 12 kids.

Is it just me or is the younger posse just not getting it when it comes to these things?

Men please believe me when I say that you are vitally important to your children. But heavens what are they thinking.

I degress.

At this time in your life and dating just how important are children in the scheme of relationships?

 

[Gimpy]

I saw this on the single's thread and thought it best would discussed up here in our mature single's area.

One of the youngens asked about kids and it being a deal breaker in starting or continuing a relationship.

What I was finding interesting was one how YOUNG were some of those who answered and how the boys wanted 4,5 and even 12 kids.

Is it just me or is the younger posse just not getting it when it comes to these things?

Men please believe me when I say that you are vitally important to your children. But heavens what are they thinking.

I degress.

At this time in your life and dating just how important are children in the scheme of relationships?

At my age? Not at all unless the woman already has children.

 

[Tumbleweed64]

At my age? Not at all unless the woman already has children.

What Gimpy said...

 

[Gimpy]

What Gimpy said...

Yeah, what I said

 

[KarrieTex]

Yeah well I am still without children. Though I am willing to date a man who has children.

I would like to have 2.

 

[Tumbleweed64]

Yeah well I am still without children. Though I am willing to date a man who has children.

I would like to have 2.

A boy & and a girl?

 

[KarrieTex]

A boy & and a girl?

Twins to boot!

I would like a boy and girl but it is whatever God blesses me with.

Of course he needs to bless me with a hubby first.

 

[Tumbleweed64]

Twins to boot!

I would like a boy and girl but it is whatever God blesses me with.

Of course he needs to bless me with a hubby first.

Ya that usually helps!

 

[KarrieTex]

Ya that usually helps!

Isn't that the truth!!

I think my whole point for this thread was to have a more mature discussion about something we face more and more than the younger crowd.

There are so many points to having a relationship with children involved and even having children.

 

[Tumbleweed64]

Isn't that the truth!!

I think my whole point for this thread was to have a more mature discussion about something we face more and more than the younger crowd.

There are so many points to having a relationship with children involved and even having children.

I hear you! I had a relationship with a guy before that my children absolutely did not like and I could not understand why, turns out he was really abusive to them when I wasn't around Needless to say I ended that Pronto!!!

 

[Gimpy]

Men who are abusive with children are the worst. Grrrrr
I am glad you broke it off with him. I know I need to pray for people like that, but it is hard to do, because all I really want for them is to be hit by a bus. Oops sorry. God carried away.

 

[Tumbleweed64]

Men who are abusive with children are the worst. Grrrrr
I am glad you broke it off with him. I know I need to pray for people like that, but it is hard to do, because all I really want for them is to be hit by a bus. Oops sorry. God carried away.

You read my mind Gimpy! I have a very hard time forgiving him for that...

 

[KarrieTex]

I hear you! I had a relationship with a guy before that my children absolutely did not like and I could not understand why, turns out he was really abusive to them when I wasn't around Needless to say I ended that Pronto!!!

Good for you.

SO many do that. It makes it harder for those of us that truly love children and consider them people who need to be repected and loved no matter who they biologically belong to.

I am sorry you and your little ones went through that but I am so happy that you got out of it as well.

 

[KarrieTex]

Men who are abusive with children are the worst. Grrrrr
I am glad you broke it off with him. I know I need to pray for people like that, but it is hard to do, because all I really want for them is to be hit by a bus. Oops sorry. God carried away.

I believe that is a normal reaction.

I would rather see them tied to a pole ontop of an ant hill with honey all over them....naked.

 

[PassionateOne]

For me? Children haven't really been an issue. When I was almost 30 and ready to settle down my ex-husband had 2 children, and we had a 3rd (my dd now). Our marriage didn't last for various reasons and after a few years of healing from my heartbreak over my marriage and being a single mom.....I went out in the dating circle and dated different guys (never anything serious) who didn't have kids. And I didn't ever feel a connection with them...I don't know if it was because they didn't have kids?
But, my bf, now has 2 dd's himself and I feel we have a certain connection that way....among many other ways. And he's been the ONLY guy to meet my dd.....so that speaks for itself.

 

[Eph429]

Well, my kids are part of the parcel. Love us or leave me. I will never choose between a man or my kids. That's not even an OPTION

No matter HOW desperate I am (For you Gimps)

 

[KarrieTex]

I just saw something in another thread that actually made my blood run cold.

A young woman said and I am paraphrasing...why not have as many children for God. The Muslims do it why not have 10 more children for God.

Babymakers for Christ. I am feeling like I am in Waco.