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Howdy all ya'll, I've been pretty busy, so I'm going to try (keyword: try) to keep this all short.
A friend of mine, we'll call her joy here, isn't treated the best by her dad. She has confided some of the events that have happened starting last summer, but from what I gather it has been going on since she was near the age of five. Aside from being extremely strict on her, using double-standards for her and her siblings, and an out-right-jerk, (of which would be none of my buisiness in-and-of-itself, for it could be called a parent's way of parenting) he has used excessive force out of anger more than once. For being late home from church one day she was pushed into a wall so hard as to cause a considerable bump in her head where it hit an overhead shelf. I've have seen her a few times with bruises on her arm, due to her father.
While I knew this was wrong, right from the start, I've tried the work another way around it approach. So far, no good. And it has finally come to the point where I'm fed up with pretending it is all "OK." And I've come to the point where I've decided that something has to change. But when I shared this with Joy, she, no doubt, got slightly irritated. From what she said, some of the foster kids they have had (her parents have been foster parents for ages) the authorities check it out, but they found nothing. And following that, from what I found out, they were not treated the best following that point. Also, one of joy's friends had tried the same after she witnessed Joy's dad "discipline" her, authorities found the same as before, and her dad responded the same.
So I am in a fix, Joy believes she can just live through the next three years until she is an adult, and until then to lay low, near her mother. I suggested talking to our youth pastor, who talks a fair amount with her dad as a friend, thinking he could do something, but Joy's answer was the same. So suggestions, please. I did do a bible search last night, and found a few key passages...
Ge 16:6-10"Your servant is in your hands," Abram said. "Do with her whatever you think best." Then Sarai mistreated Hagar; so she fled from her.
GE 16:7 The angel of the LORD found Hagar near a spring in the desert; it was the spring that is beside the road to Shur. 8 And he said, "Hagar, servant of Sarai, where have you come from, and where are you going?"
"I'm running away from my mistress Sarai," she answered.
GE 16:9 Then the angel of the LORD told her, "Go back to your mistress and submit to her." 10 The angel added, "I will so increase your descendants that they will be too numerous to count."
Eph 6:4Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
So anyways, just some oppinions, advice, etc... I hafta get off now, so much for short, sorry ya'll.
God bless
A friend of mine, we'll call her joy here, isn't treated the best by her dad. She has confided some of the events that have happened starting last summer, but from what I gather it has been going on since she was near the age of five. Aside from being extremely strict on her, using double-standards for her and her siblings, and an out-right-jerk, (of which would be none of my buisiness in-and-of-itself, for it could be called a parent's way of parenting) he has used excessive force out of anger more than once. For being late home from church one day she was pushed into a wall so hard as to cause a considerable bump in her head where it hit an overhead shelf. I've have seen her a few times with bruises on her arm, due to her father.
While I knew this was wrong, right from the start, I've tried the work another way around it approach. So far, no good. And it has finally come to the point where I'm fed up with pretending it is all "OK." And I've come to the point where I've decided that something has to change. But when I shared this with Joy, she, no doubt, got slightly irritated. From what she said, some of the foster kids they have had (her parents have been foster parents for ages) the authorities check it out, but they found nothing. And following that, from what I found out, they were not treated the best following that point. Also, one of joy's friends had tried the same after she witnessed Joy's dad "discipline" her, authorities found the same as before, and her dad responded the same.
So I am in a fix, Joy believes she can just live through the next three years until she is an adult, and until then to lay low, near her mother. I suggested talking to our youth pastor, who talks a fair amount with her dad as a friend, thinking he could do something, but Joy's answer was the same. So suggestions, please. I did do a bible search last night, and found a few key passages...
Ge 16:6-10"Your servant is in your hands," Abram said. "Do with her whatever you think best." Then Sarai mistreated Hagar; so she fled from her.
GE 16:7 The angel of the LORD found Hagar near a spring in the desert; it was the spring that is beside the road to Shur. 8 And he said, "Hagar, servant of Sarai, where have you come from, and where are you going?"
"I'm running away from my mistress Sarai," she answered.
GE 16:9 Then the angel of the LORD told her, "Go back to your mistress and submit to her." 10 The angel added, "I will so increase your descendants that they will be too numerous to count."
Eph 6:4Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
So anyways, just some oppinions, advice, etc... I hafta get off now, so much for short, sorry ya'll.
God bless
