chemo

[vibrant]

a friend of my parent's was diagnosed with cancer. she's in her 30s or 40s and has a daughter. she was there for me in january when i was hospitalized for a month, and she lived downstairs in my apartment complex for years, until we moved not too long ago.

now, my mother's pressuring me to go with her to her chemotherapy treatment. tuesday would be the first bought.

is the request appropriate? should i go? if i go, what should i expect?

 

[SoulFly51]

Why does she want you to go?

I don't know what you should expect.

 

[fishstix]

a friend of my parent's was diagnosed with cancer. she's in her 30s or 40s and has a daughter. she was there for me in january when i was hospitalized for a month, and she lived downstairs in my apartment complex for years, until we moved not too long ago.

now, my mother's pressuring me to go with her to her chemotherapy treatment. tuesday would be the first bought.

is the request appropriate? should i go? if i go, what should i expect?

If you go, don't do it because your mother is pressuring you - do it because the person having chemo wants you to be there and because you feel that you should. If either of those is not the case, then don't. I'm not sure what you should expect; you should check with the hospital to see a) if it is allowed and b) what to expect.

 

[plum]

Chemo treatments are not bad to witness. They just take a little time. When the chemo is done on the hospital, it is given intravenously (aka with a needle either in the arm or through a port). My dad had cancer for many years so I know a bit about it. I'm no nurse though. Basically there are nice cozy chairs (or i suppose they could do it in a bed) where the person sits in and well... chills out as the needle and the chemotherapy does its work. For my dad it took a few hours. It depends on how many medicines the person is getting because they only do one at a time.

It's neither scary nor sad, in my opinion. If you're close to this woman I think it'd be a wonderfully kind service to her if you went. You could read together, talk, or whatever you want.

 

[John of Berkshire]

You need to sit down in a quiet room and listen to what your heart tells you. Only you will know whether you should be there or not. However, I can assure you that your Mother does not have that answer.