Chemistry

[Playball!]

Can romantic chemistry develop over time?

I've been in a relationship with a girl for over a month. For the first couple weeks we only communicated by email and phone. There was immediate "chemistry" and we both thought the other person was almost too good to be true. We just seemed to connect on all levels. When we met, the physical attraction was there for both of us.

For the next couple weeks we made what I now know is a fairly common mistake. We put our individual lives on hold and gave the other person our complete attention. I guess we moved too fast. During this time, I had no reason to think we didn't have that romantic chemistry. A couple days ago, she told me she wasn't sure about our relationship because she just wasn't feeling the "romantic chemistry" that she hoped for. We both decided to take it back a step and give each other some time and space because we needed to get back to our normal lives but the whole "I don't feel the romantic chemistry" comment makes me pretty uneasy.

Has anyone gone through an experience where they connected on every level initially except the romantic but later developed that too? Part of me is thinking we just spent way too much time together initially and maybe that has something to do with it. By taking a step back in our relationship, can our path be corrected?

Thanks for any replies in advance.

 

[MrsSeptemberPenguin]

If God wants you together anything can happen. Also the romantic chemistry can come about I believe. When you to truely learn to love each other, it isn't just a feeling anymore. Taking a step back was a good idea. Be patient even though it's hard.

 

[f U z ! o N]

that sounds kinda strange to me. maybe she doesn't know what she wants.

 

[Linnis]

Romantic chemistry changes over time.

I think what happened is you two put "normal" life on hold for the sake of the relationship and it was oh so pretty and perfect outside of normal everyday life but how long can the real world be held back?

Maybe she wants to take things slower than you do, that may not be a bad thing. Romantic feelings might not spring up in all people after a month, I wouldn't be so quick to dismiss the relationship or say she doesn't know what she wants.

A relationship and romantic feelings are so much easier when everyone is on their best behaviour, but much differant in a long term relationship.

Take things slow, see where it goes if you were meant to be, you will come together into a stronger romantic relationship given time.

 

[Playball!]

squirrelz - Thanks for the encouragement. Yeah, patience is tough.

f U z ! o N - I'm thinking the same but I guess I just need to give her time for now.

 

[Playball!]

Romantic chemistry changes over time.

I think what happened is you two put "normal" life on hold for the sake of the relationship and it was oh so pretty and perfect outside of normal everyday life but how long can the real world be held back?

Maybe she wants to take things slower than you do, that may not be a bad thing. Romantic feelings might not spring up in all people after a month, I wouldn't be so quick to dismiss the relationship or say she doesn't know what she wants.

A relationship and romantic feelings are so much easier when everyone is on their best behaviour, but much differant in a long term relationship.

Take things slow, see where it goes if you were meant to be, you will come together into a stronger romantic relationship given time.

Some good points, thanks. I just have to keep trusting God because, yes, if it's meant to be, it will happen. I keep having to remind myself that only He knows what's best for me.

 

[plum]

perhaps i'm confused about what "romantic chemistry" is supposed to mean...?

is there a scale i don't know about?