I had talked to my wife about the possiblities of going to a 16 week marriage seminar and she said that she was not interested in that or marriage counselling that she wanted a friendly divorce. What other avenew can I take ? This is so frustating.
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eatenbylocusts
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Is she a believer? It's hard to say without knowing why she wants a divorce. Do you know?
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My wife is a christian and is the Nursery Supervisior at the church that we both attend. Thankyou for your prayers and your responce.
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eatenbylocusts
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Has she told you why she wants a divorce? Don't do what some do and jump to file first out of hurt. It's still hard to give you advice without more info, but I know there's been times in relationships that if the man just said how much he loved me and didn't want to lose me-it would've made me give it another go.
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VioletLady
Keep what ya got...by giving it all away
Praying for you 
I asked my husband to go to marriage counselling with me ages ago and he only agreed to go to his Scientology church - so to me that was as good as a 'no'.
He told me last week that it was my fault that he left, he couldn't see eye to eye with me as a Christian and he would come back if I would embrace Scientology.
He said, "I only want you to be the person I know you could be with Scientology".
Huh.
I asked my husband to go to marriage counselling with me ages ago and he only agreed to go to his Scientology church - so to me that was as good as a 'no'.
He told me last week that it was my fault that he left, he couldn't see eye to eye with me as a Christian and he would come back if I would embrace Scientology.
He said, "I only want you to be the person I know you could be with Scientology".
Huh.
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I do not plan to file for a divorce. My wife after inviting me out to dinner asked for one. I thought that was really low of her to do that. This is the 3rd time that she has either left in the middle of dinner or has asked for a divorce at a meal. So far she wants a statement of financial responcibility from me for child/spousel support. After consulting legal counsel I was advidse not do it, it will be used against me in court. So this has been all about money and her wanting to control me. 
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tryingtobeagain
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Some people want to control the relationship even after the relationshp is over. It sounds like she wants this. It's probably in your best interest to get a move on with the divorce/custody by pursuing it in court. It will make sure that these things follow in a responsible manor without getting into the control aspect. Make sure you are following your responsibilities for your child(ren) so that won't be held against you in court. It sounds like you really need to separate yourself from her though. I am so sorry you have to be going through this but I hope it all works out in the end.
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I was asked btoday by my wife to pay for half of the fee to file for a divorce. I said that I would only pay for half the fee of a legal seperation. She now whats me to continue to pay for her medical and wants to write that into a formal contract. I think things are getting better then I get a new demand thrown in.
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Idahofroggie
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I tried to get my soon to be ex to make some sort of a financial statement because we had at one time agreed that if anything did happen with our marriage, that's what we both decided would be fair. Now, his family and lawyer are saying the same thing. That I would just try to use it against him in court. In all reality, I don't want any sort of control at all (against his belief of course). I just want to be able to take care of my kids. He hasn't paid a dime of child support and last week bought a 20K car. Situations aren't always as they seem.
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Idahofroggie
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okay, with this I say, don't do it. Don't put anything like that in writing. You are under NO obligation to pay for her medical coverage. If you want to agree to a short term alimony for her to pay for her own coverage, that's one thing, but locking yourself into paying her medical bills... no. Don't do it.
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