Change in Relationship?

[miss_klara]

This question is actually based on one I read in my copy of 101 Questions To Ask Before You Get Engaged. I thought it was interesting.

How has your relationship with God been affected by your relationship with your SO?

 

[miss_klara]

For me, I have actually become a lot more thankful in my prayers. I consider Chris to be the biggest gift that God could have ever given me, and a lot of the time I just get overwhelmed and kinda say "Heck, God. I'm a pretty dodgy person a lot of the time. Why on earth did you choose to bless me with the love of this man?? Thank you, thank you, thank you!!"

Admittedly, it has been difficult to try and keep my focus on God at times, when it's so easy to just give all my attention to Chris, but I wouldn't say my relationship with God is badly damaged.
It'd really really help if Chris was the spiritual leader I need, but he's working on it...

 

[Wandering Cat Lady]

Oh my, I can't begin to tell you how much it has improved my relationship with God. In fact, when we first met, I wasn't all there in my walk with God...I cared, but didn't know how. Through the love of this man I got to know my Father in Heaven and I learned to trust. Yes, admittedly there were times when I trusted and loved the man more than God, but it is not that way now. I have learned how to love God through seeing my man's walk with God and we now enhance eachother's relationship with God...it's fun to have spiritual talks that get us thinking. He's a very spiritually deep person at times and can get me to think, then helps me find the answers. I help him see the more practical and surface level sides of the spiritual walk and that helps him lighten up on the deeper stuff. It's just wonderful.

 

[joyouspirit]

This question is actually based on one I read in my copy of 101 Questions To Ask Before You Get Engaged. I thought it was interesting.

How has your relationship with God been affected by your relationship with your SO?

Actually, it's the other way around for me. My relationship with God has tremendously affected my relationship with my SO.
I came from a bad marriage, one without God. And I promised myself if ever there is a man that is going to be in my life again, I'll make sure he knows that my first love will always be God.
We are in a difficult situation but I know God will take care of it, I've cast or we've cast our burdens to Him.
Just hard to wait, as usual.

God bless!!!

 

[The Princess Bride]

I would say, if anything, I have drawn deeper towards God since John and I have been dating.

A good deal has to do with having to support John before, and then after his father passed from liver cancer this past September.

It has really taught me to be thankful for each day and it's meaning, and to not put off living my life for God when it is "more convenient" for me to do!

 

[PassionateOne]

How has your relationship with God been affected by your relationship with your SO?

If anything.....I feel my RL with my bf has enhanced my RL with God. Our 'walks' are similar, but I have learned so much more from my bf that I feel that much closer to God.

 

[Starcradle]

God has used my wonderful fiance as a vessel to deepen my journey in Him. Through our courtship and subsequent engagement, my spiritual eyes have been opened to God's sovereignty and glory. My supplications have become bolder, more frequent; my reading of Scripture has increased along with my church involvement.

I have also discovered painful aspects of my own profound sinfulness, yet I praise God that He is faithful in showing me those areas in which I need to turn to Him in confession and repentance.

There is so much more I could mention, yet I will summarize by stating that my fiance has been a profound blessing and is my greatest, most precious gift, second only to salvation through Christ.

 

[Ba]

It has definitely deepened my relationship with God. When we first started dating I was still in "search mode" for a new church, even though I had moved here a year prior I kept saying, "Next Sunday, I'll find one"

She made me realize how important a church family is in your walk with God. She made me get involved with the Church more and more but it was the best thing that ever happen to me. Admittedly I did do it for her at first, I had always been a Sunday service type person, but after really getting closer with God I realized I had to do it for Him not her.

I now look forward to going to Bible study, Sunday school, and any other service we may have that week. She has bought me closer to God and we keep each other on track with our daily Bible study.

God truly sent me a blessing when he placed her in my path, not only do I love her with all my heart I can never repay her for bringing me closer to God.

 

[Paddington]

It's made me more thankful, I think I've said thank you to God for him every day since we started dating. It's also improved my confidence talking to other non-Christians about God. Before I was really shy and didn't like getting into debates about God with people because I always felt like I 'lost'. People would resort to 'That's stupid' and make me feel really small. But I started to talk to my boyfriend about God and persevere with it, he's not turned to Christ yet...! So it's also *really* improved my praying, patience wise. I've learnt that if you pray for something and it doesn't come straight away, you need to keep praying and trusting in God.
Some people don't think you should date a non-Christian because it'll pull you away from God. But I've found that in trying to bring my boyfriend to God, it's made me draw closer to Him too

 

[Blank123]

well from the very beginning before we even talked to each other about our feelings for one another i've learned to to just allow God to be sovereign over everything. And thats one thing that i'm still being challenged with, i need to allow Him to have His way even in our relationship. And i think that has affected my prayer life as well, knowing that He is the one in control of everything i just know i have so much to be thankful for.

also Ian is just great himself in getting me to think deeper about the Bible and theological things i've never really thought too deeply before.

 

[MrsSeptemberPenguin]

Sometimes, keeping up your relationship with God when with your SO can be difficult in that you get distracted from the time you should be spending with God, but they can also help you grow by holding you accountable in your faith. I think its something you should discuss with your SO so that you make sure you stay right with God and that He is the center of your relationship

 

[Weasel7711]

It definately gives me more to be thankful about. We also frequently do devotions together and we go to church together. IMO her faith is stronger than mine and it makes me want to be closer to God.

 

[mikeyp]

I don't think there is one day goes by when I don't thank God for Lisa. I'm extremely fortunate and blessed that we've started out in around the same place in our walk with God. We've since leanred to lean on God for everything. It doesn't mean we should stop being dependent on each other, just so long as we're more dependent on God. We try to do devotions every day, even being 3800 miles apart, but we can still look at a passage of the bible and talk about it. I love how she prods me in my walk with God, how we both provoke each other's thoughts, and we both learn from what God tells us both. I'm a lot closer to God now that I was when we first met, and I pray that together we will continue to grow in Christ for as long as we may live.

 

[SelfProtect]

I would like to read the "101 Questions To Ask Before You Get Engaged" reference in the first post... where can I find that?

 

[Paddington]

I would like to read the "101 Questions To Ask Before You Get Engaged" reference in the first post... where can I find that?

It's on amazon.com if that's your cup of tea!

 

[miss_klara]

I got my copy from a large Christian book store we have here in Australia

 

[Stolic]

Along the lines of the previous entries - do you have any other questions that get you thinking as much as this one has?? Thank you for getting the grey matter going

Overall, I would have to say that my SO is enhancing my walk with God and is pushing me more to him than ever - I have so many questions for God - this is all so new to me - he wants everything to be done right in the sight of God and my parents (when I tell them - still early days yet) - which holds me more accountable to God in the long run. There are times when he is excited about the relationship which is where I have to be like "Sloooow yo roll dude - we gots time".

Please pray for us - I still need to learn to relax and stop holding my breath so much - and he as mentioned earlier needs work on slowing down his roll !


(Oh and feel free to sign my guestbook please - trying to gain blessing points )

 

[BeautifulDestiny09]

When I first began dating my SO, he was a Christian looking to go back to church. I was skeptical...after all, many guys had said this and none of them ever actually went back to church...they said it to get me. But he was different...he wanted to get his relationship with God back on track...God gave me the greenlight and then came confirmation from other sources that my walk with God would lead him back to God as well...and it did! in return, in some of my darkest hours, my SO has been the first one to say "look to God"...he's been the first to pray for me...when I get angry or discouraged, he encourages me through scriptures...I realize I am SOOO blessed to have a guy like that who is building me up in my faith and we do the same for each other! We go to church together, pray together...I'm so thankful for him!

 

[FlufBrown]

My SO is not a Chrisitan at all. He occasionally will go to church with me but you know that his heart is not there. It's weird to hear him telling the pastor that he feels he has been blessed by God and afterwards telling me he doesn't want to go to church because he is not getting any benefits from it. I feel there's a big wall in between us. I like to spend some more time at church if i can... join fellowships or help out, but he gets upset when i go to church. He thinks going to worship is good enough. I'm totally new to Christianity but I love to be back to Father's arm. I don't know whether God is trying to hint me or something, but i lost that feeling i used to have toward my fiancee ever since I go to church.

 

[superfly]

going out and getting engaged to my fiancee has helped both of us. we both used to read out bibles erratically, and then we started doing a daily devotion together. it helps us draw closer to God, and as a byproduct, each other. and doing a daily devotion means we are accountable to each other and makes us make sure we do it every day.