Celibacy and why?

[Solomons Porch]

tstor
Yeah this part right here
Does this get easier with time OR how long have you been celibate "if not too personal to ask"? The loneliness seems like it would be much to bear.

 

[Chesterton]

I dislike women generally.

Yeah I forgot to mention that. I hate women. When I was a little kid I joined the Lil Rascals He-Man Woman Haters Club. I paid for a lifetime membership, plus I took the oath, and it's not right to break an oath, so, I have to hate women.

 

[Solomons Porch]

Yeah I forgot to mention that. I hate women. When I was a little kid I joined the Lil Rascals He-Man Woman Haters Club. I paid for a lifetime membership, plus I took the oath, and it's not right to break an oath, so, I have to hate women.

I suppose laughing and crying at the same time is a good sign, plz dont be hatin on me You dont even know me like that *shrugs shoulders*

 

[GTW27]

Definition of celibacy

1. 1: the state of not being married
   
   
2. 2a : abstention from sexual intercourse
   
   
3. b : abstention by vow from marriage

This is Websters definition of celibacy. I have noticed a lot lately that persons profile status is one of celibacy. So I have a few questions:

1. What brought you to the point of celibacy?
2. Is it a religious reason or due to life situations or personal convictions?
3. When you choose celibacy is it for life or is it temporary?
4. How do you handle the intimate issues that you feel when they arise if any?
5. IF married, does your partner do the same OR is celibacy NOT included in a marriage? Was there an agreement made?
6. Is celibacy in the bible and if so could you share the scriptures?
7. What has being celibate done for you in a positive way or negative way?
8. If you believe being celibate is not Godly or scriptural pertaining to marriage can you share scripture and why?


Mods if I posted in the wrong forum please feel free to move to proper location thank you and God bless

For some reason I felt led to reply to this topic. Long ago, a woman at work ask me why was I not married and was I practicing celibacy. My first response was "Do you know that The Lord is a Jealous God? He would not want me to put anything between myself and Him." And then I said, "In a way, I am married, to Him. I do not practice celibacy I just choose to not let anything get between Him and I. She then said," I have never heard a man say anything like that before." I then said, "If per chance I ever get married in the future she would have to be a warrior, and as to date, I have not met one." Fast forward to today and I have no regrets of being single, or walking alone, for The Lord is with me. There is no loneliness or depression or want. His Love fills all things in me. I know I have to be careful out in world for like other men I have a weakness for the woman. Many times when I see a beautiful woman out there, I will hear "She is not for you." Also I know, there is one just waiting for me to make a huge mistake so that these lips can be silenced. And to him I say, sorry, doesn't matter how attractive something may seem at the moment, nothing compares to the beauty that is found in Jesus. Everything we do(chose) in life bears fruit one way or another and my sincere hope is that weather we chose to be celibate, or we chose to be married, we do these things all to the Glory of God. Amen

 

[Chesterton]

I suppose laughing and crying at the same time is a good sign, plz dont be hatin on me You dont even know me like that *shrugs shoulders*

No, no, I totally like you! You got the armor headgear and blood all over you...I never tell insanely violent women I hate them.

 

[pdudgeon]

Celibacy (definition #2) can be forced on you, within the marriage context, as when your spouse unilaterally decides they no longer wish to share physical intimacy. If you respect your marriage vows the option of finding physical intimacy elsewhere is not available.
You can also have celibacy imposed on you by disease of disability.

So an additional angle to the questions may revolve around whether celibacy is
1. a functional issue - whether or not you want it, you can't physically have sex
2. a matter of the heart in which there is no desire for sexual intimacy but there is also a conviction that it is not for you.
3. an issue of respect - of your own marriage vows, and of your spouse's deliberate choice not to share physical intimacy.

Depending on your definition of "physical intimacy" you may feel that it is not quite the same as "sexual intimacy." Inverting the Chritian young person's question "How far can I go?" we could ask "when is celibacy really celibacy?"

In my case there are several factors. Some of these I simply accept, believing God can use the situation for good. Others have brought a deep sadness, and sorrow in a relationship. The "respect" factor is one of self-discipline, which hopefully will be good for me in the medium to long term. In the short term it has not made the relationship easier to sustain.

Good discussion topic SP!

agreed. sometimes celibacy is forced on one partner because of the other partner's medical condition. been there, done that. and no, it's not easy.

 

[Solomons Porch]

No, no, I totally like you! You got the armor headgear and blood all over you...I never tell insanely violent women I hate them.

HAHA tears r gone UR my bestest pal now TOO late I hunt ya down so dont ya dare run MR.

You ever get the feeling?

 

[brinny]

For some reason I felt led to reply to this topic. Long ago, a woman at work ask me why was I not married and was I practicing celibacy. My first response was "Do you know that The Lord is a Jealous God? He would not want me to put anything between myself and Him." And then I said, "In a way, I am married, to Him. I do not practice celibacy I just choose to not let anything get between Him and I. She then said," I have never heard a man say anything like that before." I then said, "If per chance I ever get married in the future she would have to be a warrior, and as to date, I have not met one." Fast forward to today and I have no regrets of being single, or walking alone, for The Lord is with me. There is no loneliness or depression or want. His Love fills all things in me. I know I have to be careful out in world for like other men I have a weakness for the woman. Many times when I see a beautiful woman out there, I will hear "She is not for you." Also I know, there is one just waiting for me to make a huge mistake so that these lips can be silenced. And to him I say, sorry, doesn't matter how attractive something may seem at the moment, nothing compares to the beauty that is found in Jesus. Everything we do(chose) in life bears fruit one way or another and my sincere hope is that weather we chose to be celibate, or we chose to be married, we do these things all to the Glory of God. Amen

Agreed.

What was confusing to me is that one can be "celibate" and define themselves as such if they are single.

However, just as it is written in the Bible, for someone married, there is "abstaining" from sex, not "celibacy".

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

HAHA tears r gone UR my bestest pal now TOO late I hunt ya down so dont ya dare run MR.

You ever get the feeling?

I thought we were best pals! wat?

 

[Solomons Porch]

agreed. sometimes celibacy is forced on one partner because of the other partner's medical condition. been there, done that. and no, it's not easy.

I can imagine that's very difficult but if medical issues are there, your love for your spouse overrides your issues. In those situations I can't imagine, has to be hard on both of you. Emotionally and physically, that's where strong love is needed to endure.

 

[Solomons Porch]

I thought we were best pals! wat?

4ever we will be, whatthewhoiswaityeah

 

[Solomons Porch]

For some reason I felt led to reply to this topic. Long ago, a woman at work ask me why was I not married and was I practicing celibacy. My first response was "Do you know that The Lord is a Jealous God? He would not want me to put anything between myself and Him." And then I said, "In a way, I am married, to Him. I do not practice celibacy I just choose to not let anything get between Him and I. She then said," I have never heard a man say anything like that before." I then said, "If per chance I ever get married in the future she would have to be a warrior, and as to date, I have not met one." Fast forward to today and I have no regrets of being single, or walking alone, for The Lord is with me. There is no loneliness or depression or want. His Love fills all things in me. I know I have to be careful out in world for like other men I have a weakness for the woman. Many times when I see a beautiful woman out there, I will hear "She is not for you." Also I know, there is one just waiting for me to make a huge mistake so that these lips can be silenced. And to him I say, sorry, doesn't matter how attractive something may seem at the moment, nothing compares to the beauty that is found in Jesus. Everything we do(chose) in life bears fruit one way or another and my sincere hope is that weather we chose to be celibate, or we chose to be married, we do these things all to the Glory of God. Amen

That's what I like to hear right there, I feel ya and makes PERFECT sense to me.

 

[brinny]

agreed. sometimes celibacy is forced on one partner because of the other partner's medical condition. been there, done that. and no, it's not easy.

(((hug)))

 

[Goatee]

What would happen IF WE ALL slowly decided to be celibate, then whose gonna keep the human population going forth, I know thats a far out there kinda question, but for real, if over a period of say 200 years what state of the world would we be in? I mean I know WE ALL are not gonna do that, but Im just curious as to how one gets to this point, not knocking anyone's decision at all, promise ya that!!

Would make the Earth a better place!!!!

 

[bhsmte]

Would make the Earth a better place!!!!

Why?

 

[brinny]

Would make the Earth a better place!!!!

I hear ya', my friend

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

Lets all become celibate then yes! I'm down!

 

[brinny]

Lets all become celibate then yes! I'm down!

ROFLOLOLOL!!!!

 

[JIMINZ]

Example: what IF you are married, one partner wants to be celibate (for personal reasons) but the other not, now this is gonna be a huge problem for sure (or so I suspect) has anyone here had this issue within marriage? and if so how did you handle it and what was the outcome "if not too personal"? If it's too personal simply dont reply I am not expecting you to

Hi Solomon's Porch

Here is the answer to your question.

1Co 7:1-9
1) Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
2) Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
3) Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.

4) The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
5) Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

6) But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.

7) For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.

8) I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.
9) But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

Be Blessed

 

[brinny]

Hi Solomon's Porch

Here is the answer to your question.

1Co 7:1-9
1) Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
2) Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
3) Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.

4) The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
5) Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

6) But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.

7) For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.

8) I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.
9) But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

Be Blessed

Exactly.

Excellent post.