Caught my uncle chekcing me out.

[starry_night]

I had the family over for a barbecue. About 20 people, adults and children. We have a pool in our yard. It was a beautiful day, everyone was swimming and relaxing by the pool. The day was ruined for me because I caught my uncle and another family member checking me out. I didn't say anything at the time, but I am thinking of sending said uncle an email informing him, I didn't appreciate it. He is married and family, and it was just gross.

What do you think?

 

[RobertMerton]

yeah ok hmm

well most guys will do that..

i think emailing him will only make him angry

 

[LBJ123]

How old are you??

An email seems to be the right way to do it. Seems to be a really awkward position for you though. Pray about it.

 

[RobertMerton]

how old is he?

 

[LBJ123]

ck, why did you go "yeah ok" in your first post. It was like you're brushing off her post.

 

[RobertMerton]

i was gonna put in a long reply but then i pressed enter and it replied.
but i edited it now

 

[JC_Crust]

yeah ok hmm

well most guys will do that..

i think emailing him will only make him angry

who cares if it makes him angry...and yeah most men will do that but what kind of person checks out their family members? if i'm not getting what you're saying then please let me know but it's disgusting and it kind of sounds like you think it's ok.

 

[Mling]

Define "checking you out"?
A look can mean anything:

"man, those are some stylin' pants."
"I have such a beautiful family. I'm the luckiest guy in the world!"
"She's got a bee on her...it's gone now."
"So, did you hear about ____? She applied to Julliard. I really hope she makes it. I think she's definitely good eno...whoops, she just looked over, and we're all staring at her. Awkward."

Just saying...did you catch him looking at you? Or doing something that was definitely attraction-inspired?

 

[mont974x4]

Define "checking you out"?
A look can mean anything:

"man, those are some stylin' pants."
"I have such a beautiful family. I'm the luckiest guy in the world!"
"She's got a bee on her...it's gone now."
"So, did you hear about ____? She applied to Julliard. I really hope she makes it. I think she's definitely good eno...whoops, she just looked over, and we're all staring at her. Awkward."

Just saying...did you catch him looking at you? Or doing something that was definitely attraction-inspired?

This is exactly what I was thinking too. We have no idea what he was actually thinking or doing.

I would let it go unless there is an ongoing habit with other issues to consider (like inappropriate contact or statements).

 

[Johnnz]

How do you know you aren't reading something into his looking that just wasn't there?

John
NZ

 

[J1A1H]

difficult one this... i wouldnt bother confronting him. They were prob just chatting about you and looking over at you, but if it becomes a frequent occurence and you feel uncomfortable then def do something about it (via email)

 

[Mling]

Based on your feeling that there was 'more' to the look, keeping away is probably your best bet. You could be 100% right, but I don't think a conversation would be helpful, just because it's so easy for a person to deny looking someplace.

If you feel uncomfortable around him, maybe just hang back--see what happens. If looking becomes a habit, bring it up with him then. If not...it might have been a one-time thing.

 

[UnionJack]

i wouldnt confront him

no way to know if he was checking you out for sure

and besides, whats your email gonna be like?

"why u checking me out huh???"

 

[visionary]

Girls do pick up on "the look".. and see in the eyes.. "lust".

 

[janny108]

yes and that is different than "admiring " or noticing that you are becoming a young lady. How old are you and how old is he? Maybe you were just self conscious about it. But it's important to know the difference in how men of any age look at you. It could be lust it could be an abstract look especially if he was talking to someone else.If anything else happen s, I'd talk to your parents about it.

 

[RobertMerton]

maybe it was something else

'gosh i hate the design of jeans today'
'hey my daughter has a pair of jeans just like them'
'maybe i should get my daughter that jacket for her birthday'
etc

 

[visionary]

Definitely bring it to your parents attention. Understand that your parents might be in denial that it could/did happen... just like some of the reaction you are receiving here on the forum. So if they go into denial mode, just say... just giving you the "heads up".. and let the matter drop.

 

[brinny]

Trust your gut. Pray about this and then proceed with however God directs you.

 

[brinny]

Girls do pick up on "the look".. and see in the eyes.. "lust".

I agree. And girls should always trust their "gut", and not brush it off just because others say "nah, what're ya talkin' about?"

Our "gut" is our radar. ALWAYS pay it heed.

 

[visionary]

Whatever you do, do not trust being alone with your uncle.