Case for Not Marrying, part 2, no flames

[brinny]

I'm sorry you're closing the thread. What responses indicate in your thread is that there is pain and woundings amongst your brothers and sisters in Christ, my brother and son of the Most High God.

 

[brinny]

Not ever ventured in this section before, but unfortunately (thru naivete) was forced to gain horrendous experience.
I was ridiculed, slapped, belittled, joints dislocated, threatened with my life, & several murder attempts.
(& the church that married us? - said until I am perfect,
I have no right to seek Support, & I am to endure... )

I endured, until our daughter was also abused; & THAT
was where I drew the line, in my Mothering-instincts.
In divorcing, the church told me I sinned; not him.
So I left not only him, the marriage, the church, but most of humanity.

Don't ask me what I'm doing here, posting today, - for TODAY is my Birthday

I'm sorry you experienced such pain, Annie ((((hug))))

 

[Conservativation]

The thread wasn't about that though. These pains need not be used as leverage in a thread of a different topic, and besides once these come up, there is no longer a discussion, either one posts with full empathy expressions....OR....one is perceived as an ogre. It self censors.
If someone has this pain they can start a thread. If there was one I wouldnt participate and it could be just what you suggest, all empathy and sympathy. Thats a legitimate function of this forum and I encourage they do it

 

[brinny]

The thread wasn't about that though. These pains need not be used as leverage in a thread of a different topic, and besides once these come up, there is no longer a discussion, either one posts with full empathy expressions....OR....one is perceived as an ogre. It self censors.
If someone has this pain they can start a thread. If there was one I wouldnt participate and it could be just what you suggest, all empathy and sympathy. Thats a legitimate function of this forum and I encourage they do it

As you wish, sir.

 

[hijklmnop]

No cons, this happens because most pedophiles molest many many children before they are caught, if ever, because silence, fear and ignorance allow them to continue. I heard on oprah that the average pedophile molests 70 children in his lifetime. Anyways, its not manipulative or off-topic to discuss why awareness is important when it comes to abuse of all kinds. These stats are a perfect illustration of why openness, education and acceptance are so important for abuse to be stopped.

 

[McScribe]

So start another thread about it then. Nothing stops that. Nothing is halting your opinions being voiced. What was asked was that people should stay on topic, and they didn't.

 

[AirForceTeacher]

Hmmm... wonder if the script was flipped would it be worth the time of knowing that some women talk down men, even those they say they love, on a constant basis would be valid here. It doesn't shock me some say it's not worth their time to discuss this and it's always the case when men bring things up like this. It's sad that these day, IMO, some men are thought to be the problem when their not. It's sad when some female falls into temptation and it's the male's fault because they fell. Flip the script... tell the man to take responsibility for their actions. Flip the scrip... everyone says it's the man's fault. Double Standard IMO.

My first wife told me that my opinions on raising the children were invalid because a) my parents did a bad job and b) I had not spent my entire life reading James Dobson's books on child rearing. She didn't raise her voice, but made it clear that whatever I wanted in raising the kids would be overruled, especially because she was claiming her God given right to stay home with the kids while I worked two and three jobs to support the family.

Women, was that abuse? It certainly made me feel trapped and powerless.

 

[Camalinda]

I don't see how the topic of abuse became "off-topic" as many are insisting, because abuse, namely false claims of abuse, was cited as one of the top reasons women divorce and why people shouldn't marry in the first place. If you introduce abuse as one of the reasons for not marrying, then you open the thread up to discussions of whether or not that is valid. Just because the opinions do not coincide with YOUR opinion does not make it 'off-topic.'

And if we're really being 'on-topic' here: this forum is for people who are currently divorced or separated. It is interesting to me to see that many of the posters who are so offended by the abuse discussion have the 'married' icon by their names. Are you currently married? If so, you should not be posting here, as is stated in the forum rules/purpose.

 

[AirForceTeacher]

As I've always understood it, the divorced that have remarried are welcome here.

 

[Nilla]

Thread closed at OP's request