My Father-in-law had open heart surgery and is home now under the care of his wife. They are both in their late 70’s. My Mother-in-law’s mental capabilities are not what they use to be. Memory is an issue, poor problem solving skills, very poor decision making, her maturity level is dropping also, typical of what I have seen in elderly people. She refuses to accept her issues for the most part particularly her diminishing mental abilities. All that being said, since her husband left the hospital, she insists that she can handle all his care including setting up his daily routine, including the large medicine schedule by herself. After just 18 hours there is already an issue with his medication and some of the important instructions given by the physicians. When we asked her about this, all we get is how overwhelmed she is, how she is just trying to get through “right now”, how she did not have time to deal with an upcoming medical procedure and then refusing offered help. She seems to be making herself out as a victim of the demands of his care while again refusing help. She also seems to have a strong need to feel important and she has engaged in obvious and even embarrassing behavior trying to meet that need. I fear that her need to feel important (and caring for her husband alone seems to feed that need) could cause harm or diminish her husband’s recovery process (I will mention again the issue with getting his medication). She made a statement this morning when we questioned her this morning about the medication error she said “I am replacing 9 people from the hospital you know” while refusing offered help. We are at a loss on what we could do to help this situation. I know I have heard of some disorders that sound like this, but I don’t remember.
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The General Mental Health Forum is now a Read Only Forum. As we had two large areas making it difficult for many to find, we decided to combine the Mental Health & the Recovery sections of the forum into Mental Health & Recovery as a whole. Physical Health still remains as it's own area within the entire Recovery area.
If you are having struggles, need support in a particular area that you aren't finding a specific recovery area forum, you may find the General Struggles forum a great place to post. Any any that is related to emotions, self-esteem, insomnia, anger, relationship dynamics due to mental health and recovery and other issues that don't fit better in another forum would be examples of topics that might go there.
If you have spiritual issues related to a mental health and recovery issue, please use the Recovery Related Spiritual Advice forum. This forum is designed to be like Christian Advice, only for recovery type of issues. Recovery being like a family in many ways, allows us to support one another together. May you be blessed today and each day.
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Starting today August 7th, 2024, in order to post in the Married Couples, Courting Couples, or Singles forums, you will not be allowed to post if you have your Marital status designated as private. Announcements will be made in the respective forums as well but please note that if yours is currently listed as Private, you will need to submit a ticket in the Support Area to have yours changed.
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CF has always been a site that welcomes people from different backgrounds and beliefs to participate in discussion and even debate. That is the nature of its ministry. In view of recent events emotions are running very high. We need to remind people of some basic principles in debating on this site. We need to be civil when we express differences in opinion. No personal attacks. Avoid you, your statements. Don't characterize an entire political party with comparisons to Fascism or Communism or other extreme movements that committed atrocities. CF is not the place for broad brush or blanket statements about groups and political parties. Put the broad brushes and blankets away when you come to CF, better yet, put them in the incinerator. Debate had no place for them. We need to remember that people that commit acts of violence represent themselves or a small extreme faction.
