Can't take it anymore.

[LandonME]

First off, just letting you all know, i know you all dont like my posts and think im just a whiny little wuss, but i just dont know who else or where else to go to ok?

I'm 25 years old, still single as ive been all my life, still living at home, I'm working at Office Depot right now which sucks because im not getting enough hours or pay, the customers are complete morons and jerks, the manager doesnt even know how to run the store, its a 45 minute drive from my house so gas eats me alive every week, i can barely talk to my parents anymore cuz im always almost certain that theyre not even gonna listen to what im saying because in their heads theyre goin "ugghh what a baby" and not even bother to do anything to help me with my problems, i have nothing but an associates degree from ITT thats done nothing for me so far so my mom thinks it was a total waste of $45,000 which is also eating down my neck at the moment, and to top it all off, my 20 year old brother is already married, in the army and living in Hawaii.

WHAT KIND OF "PLAN" IS THIS!?!?!? IS THIS SERIOUSLY GOD'S WILL FOR ME?!?! TO BE A 25 YEAR OLD NOTHING WITH NOTHING GOING RIGHT FOR ME NO MATTER HOW HARD I TRY OR PRAY?!?! WHY AM I EVEN LIVING RIGHT NOW (IF YOU CAN CALL THIS LIVING)?!?!? WHY CAN'T HE OR ANYONE ELSE HELP ME?!?!?!!?!? mad:

im sorry. i just cant take it anymore. i know God's there and all, i just dont think He ever listens to me or does anything for me. someone please.. please help me...

 

[LandonME]

Anyone?

 

[LandonME]

Hello?!?!?!

 

[High Fidelity]

I want to preface my post by saying that regardless how you feel, you live an incredibly privileged life compared to a huge proportion of the world's population and maybe some perspective will do you the world of good.

As good as marriage is, I don't believe it's something that contributes towards what 'success' is.

Some people go their entire lives without meeting the right person for them, that's just the way the cookie crumbles.

As far as your degree, ITT, I'm going to guess that meant IT; Depending on what you did on that course, I'm there there will be something you can do freelance in order to make a few extra notes each month.
Whether it's front-end design, web design, app design, program/scripting, there are plenty of forums out there which want people to do those things because they lack the knowledge themselves.

As for your job, yeah, it might suck, but at least you have a job to be dissatisfied with and that's the main thing. Check job pages daily and take some résumés around local places and hope for something better.

Just hang in there. Life isn't always easy and once you've overcome this, you'll realise in the future that you have overcome negativity and adversity in your life and you can do it again.

 

[CurlyGirl01]

Maybe it isn't in God's plan? Maybe he has something else in store for you and he's waiting for you to go get it. Sometimes God wants us to help ourselves. Pray about it, and see if you think this strong displeasure is due to not being in line with God's plan for you. If you learn that it it was never in God's plan, then look for your other options. Go to school (or back to it), change jobs, or something of that nature. Although it may seem difficult, if it truly is God's will, NOTHING will stand in the way of that besides yourself.

But, maybe it is God's will? Then it has to be for a reason. Is it to teach you something? Think hard if it is. Pray about it. Maybe it's His will is to prepare you for something of the future that you and I can't understand. But I'm telling you this, He does not just do things like this for nothing. There IS a reason. I hope that encourages you.

So, whether or not you decide it's God's will, you can do one thing, which is smile with joy. Sometimes, situations are so nasty that you just have to laugh about it! Just the other day, we were temporarily trapped in a hotel for a few extra hours due to slushy, icy, frigid weather. Yuck. But, when we were driving home, we couldn't stop singing ironic songs. "It's a beautiful day.." "Skies of blue clouds of white.." "I'm feelin' hot hot hot.." "Gonna be a bright, bright, bright.. And sunshiny day.." Sometimes you just have to do what you can do make yourself laugh afterwards.

 

[ValleyGal]

Hello?!?!?!

Perhaps you're not getting as many responses as you'd like because the forum is caregiver's support:

A new forum for caregivers and family members of the unwell.

You might want to repost or have this moved to the Christian advice forum.

On that note, God's will is being obedient to the Word. I do not believe that everything in your life is pre-planned in some sort of individual will that God has designed. I believe that if you are obedient, you have freedom within all other decisions. Iow, it would be disobedient to support people getting drunk, so you might not want to go work as a server in a pub. But if you use the Bible as a matter of principle for making decisions, then you are not "outside of God's will."

Why not join the army like your brother? Maybe they have an area of service where you can use your education, and they might even have a plan where you can work on a degree in IT while you are in service. Or as the other poster suggested, keep looking for IT jobs, freelance when you can, and make the most of what you have. Nothing will change unless you go out and change it. In the meantime, change must come from within as well - change in attitude, taking every thought captive and making it obedient to Christ - thinking on things that are good, right, pure, lovely, praiseworthy.... positive thinking is one of the keys to contentment.

 

[CurlyGirl01]

Perhaps you're not getting as many responses as you'd like because the forum is caregiver's support:


You might want to repost or have this moved to the Christian advice forum.

On that note, God's will is being obedient to the Word. I do not believe that everything in your life is pre-planned in some sort of individual will that God has designed. I believe that if you are obedient, you have freedom within all other decisions. Iow, it would be disobedient to support people getting drunk, so you might not want to go work as a server in a pub. But if you use the Bible as a matter of principle for making decisions, then you are not "outside of God's will."

Why not join the army like your brother? Maybe they have an area of service where you can use your education, and they might even have a plan where you can work on a degree in IT while you are in service. Or as the other poster suggested, keep looking for IT jobs, freelance when you can, and make the most of what you have. Nothing will change unless you go out and change it. In the meantime, change must come from within as well - change in attitude, taking every thought captive and making it obedient to Christ - thinking on things that are good, right, pure, lovely, praiseworthy.... positive thinking is one of the keys to contentment.

Doesn't God have plans for our life that he would have us follow? For example, it's not technically wrong to become a dentist. Yet, God may have given that specific person a gift with singing. God may want that person to do great things with their voice, therefore, in His plan.

There are definitely decisions that He wants us to take that may not be defined in the Bible. (Example: Job A vs Job B or Career A vs Career B) And if it lines up with what he wants us to do, then it is, in His plan.

Think about John. John the Baptist HAD to be born for a reason to be a close friend to Jesus. Was this an accident, or was it a planned purpose? What if John didn't baptize? It technically didn't say in the Bible for 'John to Baptize' but that doesn't mean it wasn't in His planned will.

The same goes for us. God has a planned meaning for our life that we have to search out and follow.

Just as God said to the exiles in Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV):
"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

He even has a plan for time, as shown in Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 (NIV):
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.

He had a plan for Jeremiah, as God said to him in Jeremiah 1:5 (NIV):
"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations."

God answering our prayers is also His will. Each time he says yes, no, or wait, He is fulfilling what his plan is.

 

[ValleyGal]

Doesn't God have plans for our life that he would have us follow? For example, it's not technically wrong to become a dentist. Yet, God may have given that specific person a gift with singing. God may want that person to do great things with their voice, therefore, in His plan.

There are definitely decisions that He wants us to take that may not be defined in the Bible. (Example: Job A vs Job B or Career A vs Career B) And if it lines up with what he wants us to do, then it is, in His plan.

I think his plans are all in the Bible. He creates us with certain gifts and talents, and we are born into a certain culture, a certain time, and to certain parents, all as a foundation. But if someone is gifted with a good singing voice and chooses dentistry instead because there's less competition as a dentist, it is not outside God's will. There is no sin involved.

God wants us to make decisions that are glorifying to him. A person can do that in dentistry as well as in IT as well as in healthcare as well as in banking as well as in cleaning houses or collecting trash.

My career aptitude tests have come back with positions like nurse, social worker, massage therapist, human resources manager, etc. All of them line up with who God made me, so if I choose social work over human resource manager, it is not sin...I don't think God is going to choose for me. I believe he set me up with the aptitude I have and it is up to me what to do with it, as long as I am honouring God.

 

[CurlyGirl01]

But anyways, back to your topic, LandonME.

 

[ValleyGal]

Imo, situations like John the Baptist were specific. But the Bible does not say it is specific for all of us. John was born to pave the way for Jesus...not to be his friend. I'm not even sure how well they knew each other. Even still, John baptized. He might have done just as well or better had he preached at the temple rather than in the river.

Here's the thing. Let's say you want to know what job to pursue. You believe God has a specific one for you. But it would be like a needle in a haystack. What if you sit there and pray and pray and have absolutely no answer from God saying "I want you to do ___." Then what? Are you going to just sit there and go on social assistance until you get a word from him? I hope not. I believe God gives us the tools to make our own decisions - and those tools are all the principles in the Bible.

The passage in Jeremiah was a prophecy for Israel. Individual Christians can try to claim it if they want, but you know that not all Christians will prosper, not all will be free from harm, not all will have a future. There are a lot of Christians who suffer - in fact, suffering helps us to identify with the suffering of Christ, and if we identify with him in his suffering, we will be raised with him in the resurrection. So...I take those passages as truth for the person or people they were intended for and not necessarily for me as one person thousands of years later.

 

[CurlyGirl01]

I apologize for the start of a debate. Let's get back to the main topic.

 

[Morning Star Royal]

My, everyone seems to have all the answers, don't they. "Do this, don't do that; can't you read the sign..." How about, "I've got a hug for you over here". I mean, you know... I'll sit with you and be with you with no hurry to run here and there.

I don't know about others, but when I'm in emotional distress, I like to have my temples rubbed, my hair stroked, my neck and back rubbed. I love to be hugged and held. People have been poisoned by Satan to reject these essentials and fear them. I love beautiful, cerebral art, music and nature. I love to reflect on the fact the the Father himself drew me up to paradise to meet Christ and receive God's light through him. I like to think about how I was guided when Everything sucked into a piano spot in a tropical hotel, standing ovations, etc., etc. when I was homeless moments before. I am amazed at how others up there as well as a few unique and special people around here have been intimately involved with my growth and mission. I don't need a bunch of go-getter capitalists telling me what to do when they are all party responsible for a global extinction and could care less about my heart. When you need someone with some brains and courage (not to mention real love and election from God), you can count on me and I should be able to count on others. The self-sufficiency thing/podium today is a way of separating, isolating, and weakening strength in numbers. This doesn't mean that God doesn't make us the best at survival. But survival also isn't our main focus. That's for the faithless. Consider the birds of the air and the lilies of the field...

Everyone is so busy with that (survival, success) today, God will probably want people willing to be a counter balance and does. From my vantage point, God has amazing things in store for his own that puts this present world, whether a five star resort, private island, or rocket ship to Mars to shame. The world today is ravenously evil and off the mark for the way it ignores God's sovereign will but uses his Name for tradition, illusion of divine power, political convenience. However, when they are ordered to make changes that will save the earth and billions of lives, they shoot him down, reduce the Kingdom to a segregated religion, deny him as creator and author of life, betray his chosen, and follow the secular and Satanic traffic into disaster.

If it causes lovelessness, pain, a broken heart: It's not worth it! Cut it away like a dead branch. Let it fall away into the night. Someone will come around to collect it and throw it into the fire. Otherwise, you're allowing rot to contaminate a living wonder. People have made work and money more important than anything including a mission from God. They're wrong! The churches are also wrong in the way they operate. They collect money from the poor and perhaps some saints sitting there as well (who are not recognized and therefore not funded properly or at all). Money needs to come from wealthy Supporters in the community who have been gifted to make money solely to give it to the church. The poor need comprehensive care: Basics and above basics. The saints (sent) need to be fully backed, not ignored by teachers, pastors and administration. If they set it up properly, God's power gains the kind of fluidity he likes to operate with and suddenly people flow in.

On the way back to my body from paradise, I saw a "Star Center" dome for the purpose of backing multi media ministry and saintly talents/powers/authority in these areas. Meanwhile, you should be able to go to your community church and they should immediately plug you in with your talents for this mission. And such a thing is noteworthy to the Kingdom. So all is not lost. Rise in strength, dear brother, and help make this happen.

All my love,

Jeffrey