Don't you just hate it when you have feelings for someone that you don't want to have feeling for but can't help it. Like, I find it annoying... especially when they like you back. 
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Cant help it!
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winglovesall
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Well, is this a message from God? Is it God's will? Because if it is, well, trusting God is important and you should move ahead with the relationship. (develop the communication with the guy)
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Slow down mate (above poster)...
YOu can't just say go ahead... for all we know, he may be a rapist she's ended up liking.
Now to the original post, don't worry about what i wrote above
God's got a plan, but you have to be willing to follow it. 2 things i find good to think about when going into a relationship are God's will, and moral issues. Firstly is it under god's will? Find his will in the bible. I.e. is he a christian, is does he have good character, etc... Secondly, moral issues. This is things like why can't you go out. Has he jsut come out of a relationship, or is he in one. Is he a cheater, would he be loyal and faithful. Does your best friend 'love him', or is he your best friends brother.
Now seriously, yeah hated it with a passion!
YOu can't just say go ahead... for all we know, he may be a rapist she's ended up liking.
Now to the original post, don't worry about what i wrote above
God's got a plan, but you have to be willing to follow it. 2 things i find good to think about when going into a relationship are God's will, and moral issues. Firstly is it under god's will? Find his will in the bible. I.e. is he a christian, is does he have good character, etc... Secondly, moral issues. This is things like why can't you go out. Has he jsut come out of a relationship, or is he in one. Is he a cheater, would he be loyal and faithful. Does your best friend 'love him', or is he your best friends brother.
Now seriously, yeah hated it with a passion!
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winglovesall
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God obviously wants a relationship that has a focus on him - For some people, God wants the guy/girl to have a relationship with a Non-Christian but for most people, A christian is very much wanted.
For him - yeah - if he's trying to force you - then, have the confidence to stand up for yourself and say "No". I'll pray for you, chels!
For him - yeah - if he's trying to force you - then, have the confidence to stand up for yourself and say "No". I'll pray for you, chels!
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Inperfected said:Slow down mate (above poster)...
YOu can't just say go ahead... for all we know, he may be a rapist she's ended up liking.
Now to the original post, don't worry about what i wrote above
God's got a plan, but you have to be willing to follow it. 2 things i find good to think about when going into a relationship are God's will, and moral issues. Firstly is it under god's will? Find his will in the bible. I.e. is he a christian, is does he have good character, etc... Secondly, moral issues. This is things like why can't you go out. Has he jsut come out of a relationship, or is he in one. Is he a cheater, would he be loyal and faithful. Does your best friend 'love him', or is he your best friends brother.
Now seriously, yeah hated it with a passion!
Ya, he's a Christian and him and I have a connection. He's got really good character but like, my family doesn't like his family.
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(Don't kick me for saying this... please... )
At your age, if the families at least were civil it would be a great help. One thing you maybe could do is talk to your parents, explain the situation, and ask their "unopinionated" advice. That is if you have close parents.
Otherwise, i am not sure what to day. You have to be careful not to wreak the families relationship, and go against your parents. But then you also have to try not to wreak a friendship..
Good luck sweet heart (for me that means, I pray god does the best)
)At your age, if the families at least were civil it would be a great help. One thing you maybe could do is talk to your parents, explain the situation, and ask their "unopinionated" advice. That is if you have close parents.
Otherwise, i am not sure what to day. You have to be careful not to wreak the families relationship, and go against your parents. But then you also have to try not to wreak a friendship..
Good luck sweet heart (for me that means, I pray god does the best)
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Not to get off the original topic, but i must say this.
This obviously tells us not to be yoked with unbelievers. And this is very much relating to dating and marriage.
Opinions are one thing, but be more careful when the contridict god's word.
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Do we live by the bible, or live by our own morals? If it's by the bible, then rethink what you just said. heres a verse for you: 1 Corinthians 6:14...17 [font=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Don't be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? ... [/font][font=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Therefore, "'Come out from among them, and be separate,' says the Lord.'Touch no unclean thing. I will receive you.
This obviously tells us not to be yoked with unbelievers. And this is very much relating to dating and marriage.
Opinions are one thing, but be more careful when the contridict god's word.
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sachi said:
It's complicated. It's like his parents talk over their kids and want everyone else to think the way that they do. The guy I like isn't like that though... which is good.
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yeah. im gonna have to go with inperfected on this. my current g/f is my third. my first one was a nonchristian and well.. it was okay, but then it just got bad. my second one... believed in God which was a good start after my previous relationship. Then, the first day of school, of all people to run into, i ran into an old friend. Needless to say. we're dating and I love her. wow. what a difference it makes to have a relationship with three people involved! if it wasnt me, my g/f and God, I don't think I could be this unexplainably happy. I want to include him, because he should be. A successful relationship has God involved. My advice is get a good christian sig. other. i could go on and on about her. Another awesome thing is when you get in that "down" or "woe me" type thing going wher your all depressed its a great feeling to be able to turn to you g/f who is a christian and just see the light in her, and be comforted and let your problems shrink in God rather than having to go find a trust worthy friend and christian to make watch your problems shrink. God is amazing.
My advice is get a good christian sig. other. i could go on and on about her. Another awesome thing is when you get in that "down" or "woe me" type thing going wher your all depressed its a great feeling to be able to turn to you g/f who is a christian and just see the light in her, and be comforted and let your problems shrink in God rather than having to go find a trust worthy friend and christian to make watch your problems shrink. God is amazing.
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Inperfected said:(Don't kick me for saying this... please...
At your age, if the families at least were civil it would be a great help. One thing you maybe could do is talk to your parents, explain the situation, and ask their "unopinionated" advice. That is if you have close parents.
Otherwise, i am not sure what to day. You have to be careful not to wreak the families relationship, and go against your parents. But then you also have to try not to wreak a friendship..
Good luck sweet heart (for me that means, I pray god does the best)
Haha... It's funny you should say "talk to your parents" cause I just talked to my mom about it. She said that she really likes how he's so supportive towards me and how he cares about me. She also said that she just doesn't like the way the family does some things and that she knows I like him... :o Mom's are just like ... mind-readers! It's so embarrassing. Like you hope that your parents don't realize things but the realize EVERYTHING!
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Inperfected said:
Ya... Solomon (the one God gave all the wisdom too) got married to a whole bunch of unbelievers and eventually left God and made shrines for false gods because of the influence his wives had on him. I was so sad when I read that b/c God blessed him SO much and loved him more than anything and he just up and left God. The cool thing is though is that God will never leave nor forsake us so I'm sure he never gave up on Solomon.
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want2modmygt said:yeah. im gonna have to go with inperfected on this. my current g/f is my third. my first one was a nonchristian and well.. it was okay, but then it just got bad. my second one... believed in God which was a good start after my previous relationship. Then, the first day of school, of all people to run into, i ran into an old friend. Needless to say. we're dating and I love her. wow. what a difference it makes to have a relationship with three people involved! if it wasnt me, my g/f and God, I don't think I could be this unexplainably happy. I want to include him, because he should be. A successful relationship has God involved.
Ya. It's really cool how God brings us this amazing sense of peace when we concentrate on Him and talk about Him. That's so awesome!
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livin'4Jesus said:
sorry I didn't understand that sentence... talk over their kids?
I suppose my best advice would be to wait it out. If they don't like him right now, perhaps with a demonstration of his maturity and patience they will come to like him? Also, waiting will also give you more assurance that this is the guy whom you want to be with.
And Pray about it!! Never forget that God knows what you're going through!!
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If it's the same with his parents... then ask that he talks to them about it. And it's awesome that you can talk to your parents about it!
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