Cant get over it.

[Luka_H]

Hey. Not sure if this is the right place to ask... I lost some people close to me about a year ago. I kinda am still a bit ticked with GOd for it happenin and I cant seem ot let them go. I tried prayer an counselling and stuff but it aint helpin. I am worried i mite be headin to bein depressed which dont make me stoked.
Luka

 

[Sandye]

Luka, I understand how you feel because I am angry myself. Don't let it get you depressed, tho. I am trying to work it out because God took some people who were very close to me and He didn't have to do it. I don't understand why He did, but He is still God. Remember that it is okay to be angry with Him, so don't let that get you down. You are human, so of course you are going to miss people you love. That is okay, too. Just remember to be good to yourself and love yourself through this. Maybe we can help each other find the answers.

 

[Luka_H]

its all so hard. It was my mom an bro who died in a car crash. i really really miss them. it feels so unfair

 

[Strong in Him]

Awwwww Luka, I'm so sorry. Don't feel guilty about grieving though. You have lost two people suddenly - it's bound to take time. After all, you knew your mum for 14 years, and may have known your brother for that long too. There is no time scale by the end of which you can stop grieving. It takes as long as it takes.

Someone once suggested to me that I write a letter to my brother (who died young), saying everything I wanted to say to him - that I miss him, why did he leave me and things that have been happening since. I think I wrote a poem actually, but it was helpful. Could you do this?


Is there someone outside the family you can talk to? Someone who will really listen to you, and not try to tell you to get over it? Also, with someone outside the family you may not feel you have to be strong, and keep it all bottled up. Anger is part of the grieving process too, so it's ok.

Hope you get some support over all this.

Gill

 

[christianchoirgirl]

Luka_H
How are you doing? How is the Lord working in you? The best thing that I have found in the light of my best friend dying, is talking about it, and talking about her. Sometimes, it feels good just to ramble, even if it doesn't make any sense. My prayers are with you!
~Callie~

 

[domi]

Have u tryed seeing a psycoligist about it..talking about it relay does help. Or even if u don't fela comterable doing that i bet if u find someone online that u feal good talking to that will help aswell. I know u probly miss your mom and ur brother so much but u know what i bet ur dad misses ur mom and ur brother a whole lot to. I bet if you two talk togetaehr and share some of the times u had with them you'll fela a whole lot better. Pm me and tell me how you r.

Your sister in Chirst
-Domi

 

[ArmouredSaint]

have you sat down,alone and had a good cry yet? mine was witheld for months,then i actually came to terms,cried and lost myself in talking to them.losing someone does cause great physical and emotional changes that creep up on us.anger/depression is a step through it.

 

[BlackRain]

i totally agree with armouredsaint!!

healing takes time. i'm just now reaching that point of healing. i'm just now getting over my grandmother's death which was a little over a year ago. it's ok to be upset! man, i was so mad at God for the longest time because i loved her so much. no matter what know that the Lord is available any time of the day. He also sees your grief and pain. he hasn't left you alone...he's very much near to you. sometimes we're only strong enough to say, "i need You!!" and that's perfectly alright.

"You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book." Psalm 56:8