Can't be happy with myself.

[ChasingADream]

Hi everyone, thanks for your replies!

 

[Gamedog]

I am praying 4 u. I will be your friend.

 

[fili]

Don't Worry friend

We can be friends. U are a worthy person in the eyes of God. You are created specially and by the hands of God. SO be sure about yourself. YOu are perfect.
God will help you to make up your relation again.
I will pray for you.
God Bless you..
Bye

Finly Abraham

 

[AnointedPoetess]

Hey, i'll be your friend also.. i can totally relate.. im not happy with myself either and have major depression among other things.. so if u ever wanna talk my pm box is always open ok?? GBU

 

[bethdinsmore]

Sorry you're feeling that way friend.

Your bf might be interested in reading Pat Springle's Close Enough to Care - helping a friend or relative conquer codependency.

I definitely used to feel the way you do. Here's what God used for me: anti-depressants, Christian counselors, a Christian recovery group such as Overcomers Outreach (a great help) - it relies a great deal on the Scriptures and God's power to transform us, Pat Springle's workbook Rapha's 12-step book on overcoming codependency (title not quite right).

One huge thing they all taught me was choosing to see myself through God's eyes rather than my own or the eyes of others. Seeing myself thru God's eyes.
Eph. 2:10 For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.
Phil 1:6 … he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.
Phil 4:11,13 I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. … 13 I can do everything through him who gives me strength.



Here’s the main thing: seeing ourselves as God sees us:

I slowly learned to see myself through God's eyes (as I hope you will learn to see yourself) - He knew me and the sins I would do before I was even born. He knew I would add to Christ's sufferings and death on the cross. But He loved me so much that He went ahead and created me anyway. He loves me with an everlasting love, and even has affection for me as an individual. He doesn't care how I look, and He has the power to give me a fulfilling life, no matter how society might view me. (My only responsibility is just to cooperate with Him as He leads me). To Him, I am a human BEING, not a human DOING

Aloha in Jesus. I'll pray for you, friend.

 

[ChasingADream]

Check out post number 15...

 

[thenewageriseth]

Hello all,

I have depression and find that I just can't be happy with myself. I feel worthless when I don't have any good friends. Only aquaintances. I know that's not right but I feel very alone. I am scared to death that my boyfriend and I are going to break up. We've been together for years but our relationship is very bad now. It was great up until recently and I was pretty happy all the time. Now that things are on the rocks I am not taking it well and he doesn't understand. I try to talk to him about it but we just end up fighting because he hates my low self-esteem and says he's sick of dealing with this. The last time I broke up with my last long term boyfriend I spent 3 years mostly in the hospital for depression and SI. I have already started to head in that direction again. I wish I could be happy all by myself but for some reason I can't. Does anyone else feel the same way?

I feel where you're coming from...there are days when i wish i was someone else...and my best friend Kamille lives in Tennessee...everyone in chicago so far are either removed or acquaintances...sometimes I even wish I was so much like my cousin, who's a minsiter and evangelist...i mean, the woman makes things work for her...like magic or something... (I mean I could do the same thing, if i put my mind to it...)but lately i've been having some anxiety...My cousin's also a mentor to me. I think my only mentors were my parents...otherwise I don't think i've had one before...
but I hope u feel better and I like your username [pong][glow=orchid] [/glow][/pong]

 

[ChasingADream]

I feel where you're coming from...there are days when i wish i was someone else...and my best friend Kamille lives in Tennessee...everyone in chicago so far are either removed or acquaintances...sometimes I even wish I was so much like my cousin, who's a minsiter and evangelist...i mean, the woman makes things work for her...like magic or something... (I mean I could do the same thing, if i put my mind to it...)but lately i've been having some anxiety...My cousin's also a mentor to me. I think my only mentors were my parents...otherwise I don't think i've had one before...
but I hope u feel better and I like your username [pong][glow=orchid] [/glow][/pong]

 

[Amandax3God]

I know how you feel, totally. I've gotten myself into things that i shouldn't have and different religions that i shouldn't have, though at the same time, having jesus in the back of my mind. I didn't know what to do. Now i Do, and I have. Pray to jesus, Jesus will give you stregth and i know you can get through it !

God Bless,
AMANDA <3

 

[bethdinsmore]

Hi again friend - to add a buddy, click on the two people under their name in their post, then click on buddy options and you'll see what to do. I'd be glad to be your buddy.

Besides prayer, it takes action to get out of the rut you are in. As you prayerfully follow the suggestions I or others have made, you will be amazed at how much God will change you. Inch by inch. Remember, it's hard to steer a car if it's not moving.

Jer 29:11-14
11 For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
12 Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you.
13 You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. [sincerely seek]
14 I will be found by you," declares the LORD, "and will bring you back from captivity. ....(NIV)

Many of us think we must be loved and accepted to feel good about ourselves. That can be a very painful way to live. As part of my healing process, when I had no one (not even my husband's love), I finally learned by experience the amazing fact that I could be content with just God and me. That He alone is the only one I need in order to lead a contented life, no matter how bad the circumstances. That I could believe in myself because He believes in me and loves me no matter what. And that the love or acceptance of anyone else is very nice, but it's just icing on the cake. That was the last step in the process of leaving behind my addiction to approval seeking. He has fulfilled His promise to bring me back from captivity.

(To see a summary, put your cursor over my CF character.)

One step at a time, friend. Aloha in Jesus

 

[thenewageriseth]

Thank you so much. I hope your anxiety goes away. Have faith that there is something out there uniquely special for you to do with your life. It may be what your cousin does but it may not. As far as mentors go...don't think I've had one either.

Thanks for the comment about my user name! I have 2 horses and that is one's registered names. I call her "Chaser" for short.

Yeah, I wanted to publish this Christian series, that teenagers on up to mature audiences can read that empowers, inspires and is sure to put a smile on your face! And to touch ya! I am slowly in that process, methinks. That's my purpose to use the Word through my creative art and writing!

 

[ChasingADream]

Yeah, I wanted to publish this Christian series, that teenagers on up to mature audiences can read that empowers, inspires and is sure to put a smile on your face! And to touch ya! I am slowly in that process, methinks. That's my purpose to use the Word through my creative art and writing!

That is one of the best ideas I've ever heard! Good luck!

 

[thenewageriseth]

Thanks! [pong][/pong]

 

[Amandax3God]

Yeah, I wanted to publish this Christian series, that teenagers on up to mature audiences can read that empowers, inspires and is sure to put a smile on your face! And to touch ya! I am slowly in that process, methinks. That's my purpose to use the Word through my creative art and writing!

That sa splendid Idea !! If you book ever is to be published, I'll be sure to read it !

 

[thenewageriseth]

WOWSERS! Thanks for the support! I'd rather publish that first, than to publish my other series "Nadine Haynes Experience", cause Nadine Haynes series subliminally promotes underage dating like 14 and 17 year old dating for example...i was 13 and stupid writing that, but there's no sex in there...and not all of the characters date...those who don't have good reasons not to.
BTW, the series is called "Immaculate Angel Kenya".
http://www.christianforums.com/t1748003-immaculate-angel.html
http://www.christianforums.com/t1922750-immaculate-angel-kenya-aka-kenyatta-shifre.html
http://www.christianforums.com/t1626723-my-christian-series.html
http://www.christianforums.com/t1794891-character-bios-of-immaculate-angel-kenya.html

 

[Steve_SandbachBaptist_UK]

I think more people struggle to be happy with themselves than you might think

We just have to accept that God loves us anyway.