can you think of anything comforting?

[alilsa]

i've been going to the same church about 17 years. The pastor had been there 20 something years. I miss him terribly but he went into evangelism and missionary work. There's a new pastor but he is more into number instead of individuals. Every since the old pastor left, I can't just get over it. It is like a black wall in front of my face and I'm terrible depressed and hard to go on. Like I have no future here. I have seen the pastor 2 times, when he came back to visit at church. But yesterday while the new pastor preached, I scratched my arms so hard because I don't want to cry. Anything that suppose to be comforting when a close friend leaves to go into a different ministry.? So far, nothing anybody said at church helps that he is doing what God called him to do. And he won't be coming back to pastor but he not suppose to visit because they think people will bond with that new pastor. But I don't want to bond, hurts too much when someone gets too close than leaves.

 

[rushingwind62]

i've been going to the same church about 17 years. The pastor had been there 20 something years. I miss him terribly but he went into evangelism and missionary work. There's a new pastor but he is more into number instead of individuals. Every since the old pastor left, I can't just get over it. It is like a black wall in front of my face and I'm terrible depressed and hard to go on. Like I have no future here. I have seen the pastor 2 times, when he came back to visit at church. But yesterday while the new pastor preached, I scratched my arms so hard because I don't want to cry. Anything that suppose to be comforting when a close friend leaves to go into a different ministry.? So far, nothing anybody said at church helps that he is doing what God called him to do. And he won't be coming back to pastor but he not suppose to visit because they think people will bond with that new pastor. But I don't want to bond, hurts too much when someone gets too close than leaves.

We all get attached to our pastors but they are continually moving on to new places. You need to remember we don't follow the man of God but rather we follow the God of the man. Don't take your eyes off the mark, which is Jesus. If you do that nothing that comes your way will sway you. We are all praying for you!!!

 

[FaithfulWife]

This past year the exact same thing happened to dear hubby and I. Our pastor, whom we LOVE who was just a little older than us (we're late 40's, he was maybe lat 50's) decided to go with his wife to missions and we got a brand new pastor straight out of seminary who's like 30 years old!

First, let's just say that it was an ENORMOUS adjustment getting used to having a man who is younger than me be my pastor! But I did finally figure that at some point in my life, I'd be older than my pastor so why not now? Next, our beloved pastor gave sermons that were MEAT of the Word--and our newer, young pastor so far has sermons of milk (not a lot of substance) so that has been hard to get used to also. Finally, I know this sounds odd, but it doesn't FEEL right--as if someone is in his place!

So now I'm struggling with it. I'm trying to keep an open mind and give the newer, younger pastor the chance to step up to the plate (so to speak) but I am grieving a bit. Honestly, my plan is just to go with it and acknowledge how I feel and do my best to dearl with it as if it's a loss in the family.

Well...at least you're not alone!



~Faithful

 

[3girls2dogs]

Have you tried arranging a time when you could meet with your new Pastor? Perhaps some one on one time with him would ease your spirit.

Are there any co-Pastors or Deacons who worked with your original Pastor that you could talk to about your pain?

I am sorry that this change has been so hard for you. I will pray for you.