Do those of you who have thoughts of pedophilia ever feel like you may enjoy them? I don't necessarily mean that you FEAR enjoying them, but rather that you actually do enjoy them? For any OCD thought, really, is it hard for you to tell if it is OCD or if it is real? Do you have a thought that you associate with OCD, but then your feelings tell you that it is a real part of your nature? Does this make sense?
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raven1
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Yes it makes perfect sense to me. In fact my therapists told me for years that my thoughts were just o.c.d but mine ended up being both attraction and o.c.d but I ask you why it really matters when no one asks for any of it. No one says I wan to be a pedophile and no one says I want to have o.c.d. my family still fights with me telling me that it is o.c.d and I my therapists have told me I am not attracted to kids by nature that I was not born that way that something happened to set that into motion probably sexual abuse but again I say no one chooses we just have to choose not to do harm. To stirve to be good. The weird thing is when I said to myself ok I have o.c.d and I have attractions I shouldnt have but I did not choose this the o.c.d disappeared and moved to another obsession. I am not saying you are attracted to children probably not. I am just saying does it really matter?
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I wanted to say that I can see how it would matter because it is very scary to think you could harm that you want to harm. I do really think that people didnt choose to be pedophiles because I dont think anyone says i want to be that when I grow up but I do believe some like it. If you were a person who liked being that way do you think you would be on here. No you would be just harming kids up a storm and you would speak of it to no one because then someone might stop you. So you are on here trying to get help because you dont want to be that way. Hope this helped. Praying for you.
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I've had the same types of fears, and there is always that element of, "but what if I like it?"I think that that's normal for people with OCD, and I think that any fears like that that I do have are probably completely based in OCD. It certainly doesn't seem that way sometimes, but remember, feelings are subjective, and untrustworthy.I think the way you need to look at it is that even if you do "feel" these things, there is a difference between having the feelings and then acting on those feelings. If you can get that into your head to the point where you stop worrying about it, the fears that you are a pedophile usually go away for the most part, proving that it really was more OCD than you gave it credit for. 
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