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Can you all help me figure this out?

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Hey ya'll! I had a question I've been wondering for a long time. I'm a psychology major, but I obviously dont have all the answers. I've had this friend since middle school, she is very socially inept and I cant figure out what the precise issue is. She'd giggle at the wrong times, her conversations are limited to topics she understands like shopping and movies and boys, that's about it. She cant hold a steady job and she's always needed help in school. She is very socially awkward and moody. She looks perfectly normal, so I would say it's probably more a social disorder than actually mental issues. She is about the same age as me (24), yet she's never had a boyfriend nor do I think she could hold a steady relationship. I've tried to be a friend and help her out. We're in different states and every now and then we'll email back and forth. But she never really discusses feelings other than 'do you like?' when it comes to books/movies/stores or boys. I'm married, yet she still asks me if she tihnks certain guys are cute or hott. She never asks about our child who is a toddler or the pregnancy I'm currently having. It's like it's too complicated for her, I dont know. She just cant relate to people. Oh and one final thing, if I dont respond within a day she writes 'are you mad at me?' It's like her emotional intelligence is on grade level. She still lives at home.

Anyways, I've tried my best to give a description. I guess if I knew what it was called I may be able to know how to respond in a way that can help her without 'sounding like' Im helping. Her mom is really nice, but I dont think she helps her grow up even though she's tried to get her employed a few times.
 

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I am not going to try to diagnose her because she needs to get help from a professional to see what is going on with her. Many people are emotionally younger than their age. I know I am from trauma interupting my development at a young age. I will be praying for her and you.
 
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It's not really possible to say what is wrong with someone from a description online - has your friend ever seen a doctor about this, or does she not feel it's a problem? If she is happy as things are, maybe it's best to let her carry on as she is - people are all different.
Praying for you both.
 
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