Can this relationship ever work?

[doclkk]

A couple days ago my girlfriend of 2 months admitted she cheated on me about a week ago with her ex. Needless to say, I'm devastated. Our relationship has been getting stronger everyday so I'd never imagine something like this happening. I'm a Christian who's saving himself for marriage and she is not a believer yet but has been taking all the right steps to become one including surrounding herself with more Christian friends. She has a sexual history and knows what she did was terrible but says she just couldn't fight the sexual temptation. She wants to take some time to get her head on straight and get over her problem because she really wants our relationship to work. She also took the step of asking a mutual friend to be her accountability partner and told me all contact with her ex will be cut off.

I have already told her I forgive her because I could see she regretted it and showed signs of wanting to change. Reading scripture made the decision to forgive easier. I too still want this relationship to work out. Obviously the trust factor is no longer at 100%. I have been praying about it and will continue to do so but am I just setting myself up for more disappointment or is it possible for us to work through it?

Just as a business note - think of fidelity as a bank. It is a loyal bank and a bank that can yield much interest, however it is a very harsh creditor. If/when you/them invest elsewhere, it should down permanently. Also, two months isn't worth it.

 

[desi]

Just to update, we ended the relationship. She told me the "I realized I'm not ready for a relationship" story and I basically agreed with her. It's tough but probably better that it ends now than being worse in the future. We talked about how we should stay friends and I told her she should still come to my New Year's Eve party. When she dropped by with a "friend" to the party, I'm not sure if even a friendship between us will be possible. I shouldn't make assumptions of who the guy was but as somebody else there told me, her showing up with some guy just didn't make her look very good. That comment made me wake up and realize I really don't want to end up with someone like that.

That's harsh. I should have told you this earlier but better late than never. Friends set friends up. Feel free to ask her to set you up with one of her friends if you want, don't be afraid to like I was.

 

[joyinchrist]

I know you were worried about her coming to christ, but if he was working in her then, he will continue whether or not she has a bf