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can someone help?
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Jesus is the path. If the whole world goes off the path He tells us to stay on the path. He's the only one who can help you and thru His Spirit guide you. If you don't know Him and especially if you do, call on Him, allow Him to reveal Himself to you, believe Him at His Word and produce fruit out of your repentance as your mind is guided and changed to His ways. His ways are way above our own but if we allow it He's there and if we don't allow it He's still there. Faith is believing.
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Hun, its more than just pointing you in the right direction. Specifics, answers to these specifics, and then action on your part will guide you along to the right path. What is it that bothers you?
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Like I always make the wrong decision then feel guilty later. I make the wrong choice hang out with the wrong crowd like say I say Im done hanging out with a certain person because they are bad news. Well say I run into them uptown or something. There like hey im like hey. Then we both agree to hang out then I start doing what they are doing. Ill go buy cigarettes. Sometimes i'll be like yea I dont go to church anymore. Just go along with them to feel accepted. They steal stuff from me but I pretend like I never knew they took it and I keep hanging out with them like nothing is wrong. Get myself into bad situations with them. Everything goes wrong for me it seems. I dont go to church like I should. I feel like ive hit bottom. Can someone help me?
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You're hanging out with the wrong people. The Bible says that "As iron sharpens iron, so does one man unto another". In other words, those who you choose to put yourself around... rub off on you.
You want the right direction?
Begin to find new friends who you can hang out with that are devoted Christians. A good start for both finding these good new influences and furthering your journey in as a Christian... could be found by going to church.
It also sounds like you do not have a firm foundation in your belief system, which suggests as well that you have not set a regular time with God. Begin reading the Bible regularly verse by verse, taking your time, and meditate on the Bible and what it says. Start with Mathew-John, study and take into consideration what Christ said and lived. Put it into action and definitely find a Church. Not only will you find further guidance, but you'll also find good friends.
Do this, I do believe it'll set you along the right path.
Are you unsure of how to... detach yourself from your old friends?
You want the right direction?
Begin to find new friends who you can hang out with that are devoted Christians. A good start for both finding these good new influences and furthering your journey in as a Christian... could be found by going to church.
It also sounds like you do not have a firm foundation in your belief system, which suggests as well that you have not set a regular time with God. Begin reading the Bible regularly verse by verse, taking your time, and meditate on the Bible and what it says. Start with Mathew-John, study and take into consideration what Christ said and lived. Put it into action and definitely find a Church. Not only will you find further guidance, but you'll also find good friends.
Do this, I do believe it'll set you along the right path.
Are you unsure of how to... detach yourself from your old friends?
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I find it that its just hard for me to tell then no I dont wanna hang out. And when I do tell them I cant hang out with them I usually make up a lie. Like even if im off work for the day i'll be like cant I have to be at work in a hour.
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It falls down to this: what do you want?
You want further progress in your faith?
You want to continue the path you are going?
You ask for help. The guidance to this help requires change.
Insanity: Doing the same things over and over... and expecting different results.
I believe you have the strength to do the right thing. Build in yourself a firm foundation. If you don't want to lie, which is good, make sure you are busy. Busy yourself with anything... Make plans with others ahead of time, so that way when they call and want to spend time with you, you can honorably say no and have a reason.
Otherwise, tell them you are busy, even if you aren't. This is not a lie... You said you wanted to do the right thing... well you will have begun to busy yourself with what is right... and that involves less time with those who bring you down.
You want further progress in your faith?
You want to continue the path you are going?
You ask for help. The guidance to this help requires change.
Insanity: Doing the same things over and over... and expecting different results.
I believe you have the strength to do the right thing. Build in yourself a firm foundation. If you don't want to lie, which is good, make sure you are busy. Busy yourself with anything... Make plans with others ahead of time, so that way when they call and want to spend time with you, you can honorably say no and have a reason.
Otherwise, tell them you are busy, even if you aren't. This is not a lie... You said you wanted to do the right thing... well you will have begun to busy yourself with what is right... and that involves less time with those who bring you down.
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Pray to the Lord to release you from your bonds of obligation that you feel towards your friends. Your real issue is fear. Fear of rejection, embarassment and alienation, loss of your friends, being alone. The life of a christian is sometimes a solitary one because we are not of this world. We have a different set of priorities. Those of the world seek money, success, popularity. A follower of Christ seeks to please God, to repent of their sins, to trust in the Lord.
I think that besides praying for help and for the Lord to release you from your bondage of fear and obligation you should also begin by setting boundaries with your friends. When they engage in a behavior which you know is wrong or sinful, don't join them. Gracefully decline if they ask you to. If they ask why, tell them you just don't feel its right.
Pray also that the Lord lifts you up so that your friends may notice the good work that the Lord is doing in your life and that they change their hearts when they can see the fruits of your faith.
I pray that you will be able to solve this with the help of the Holy Spirit.
In order to not cause strife between yourself and your friends, remember this scripture:
Whoever guards his mouth and his tongue keeps his soul from troubles.
Proverbs 21:23
I think that besides praying for help and for the Lord to release you from your bondage of fear and obligation you should also begin by setting boundaries with your friends. When they engage in a behavior which you know is wrong or sinful, don't join them. Gracefully decline if they ask you to. If they ask why, tell them you just don't feel its right.
Pray also that the Lord lifts you up so that your friends may notice the good work that the Lord is doing in your life and that they change their hearts when they can see the fruits of your faith.
I pray that you will be able to solve this with the help of the Holy Spirit.
In order to not cause strife between yourself and your friends, remember this scripture:
Whoever guards his mouth and his tongue keeps his soul from troubles.
Proverbs 21:23
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