Can someone help me?

[thenewageriseth]

I don't know if I can get rid of the fears I have towards the opposite sex. I mean, I have met some nice guys or guys who I thought was nice...but ever since I had a crush on a lustful guy who only looked for the sex appeal in girls...and since he made it known that he didn't like me anymore, I have had fears towards the opposite sex in this perspective, because I fear rejection a little bit. And I fear that most men are lustful...(not saying they are, not all men are)...and they would probably want me for my body...

By the way, that guy I once liked, would do some "skirt-hopping" if u know what I mean...he wasn't stable! He lusted after girl, after girl... that's one reason...

Another? What if I meet a guy who wants kids? And lastly: Do guys want the whold package...I hope this doesn't sound inappropriate...but I've struggled with "M" before and I wanted to date a Christian guy, would he care? My cousin answered that question "no" in so many words and I didn't believe her. Also, last question...do all Christian guys want kids? (Probably not right?) :o

 

[thenewageriseth]

anyone?

 

[Danielof the Island]

I don't know if I can get rid of the fears I have towards the opposite sex.

You shouldn't fear men. Some men will hurt you in life, but this doesn't mean all men are bad.

I mean, I have met some nice guys or guys who I thought was nice...but ever since I had a crush on a lustful guy who only looked for the sex appeal in girls...and since he made it known that he didn't like me anymore, I have had fears towards the opposite sex in this perspective, because I fear rejection a little bit. And I fear that most men are lustful...(not saying they are, not all men are)...and they would probably want me for my body...

Maybe it was a bad idea to allow your crush on the guy develope into feelings, considering that he's lustful? Rejection and pain are part of life. Don't fear it, becuase there's no avoiding it. It's inevitable. You need to be brave and face your fears. The next time you get a crush on a guy that's lustful, remind yourself that he will only be interested in your body, and move along to your next activity of the day.

By the way, that guy I once liked, would do some "skirt-hopping" if u know what I mean...he wasn't stable!

If he's dating multiple girls, you're better off without him.

He lusted after girl, after girl... that's one reason...

Another? What if I meet a guy who wants kids? And lastly: Do guys want the whold package...I hope this doesn't sound inappropriate...but I've struggled with "M" before and I wanted to date a Christian guy, would he care? My cousin answered that question "no" in so many words and I didn't believe her. Also, last question...do all Christian guys want kids? (Probably not right?)

The bigger question is... do you want kids? If so, then before you accept a marriage proposal later in life, makesure the boyfriend also wishes to have kids later in life. If you're too old or one of you is sterile or producing damaged goods, you can always adopt. As for self pleasure... he shouldn't care. Whut matters is who you are today, not who you were yesterday.

 

[thenewageriseth]

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You shouldn't fear men. Some men will hurt you in life, but this doesn't mean all men are bad.


Maybe it was a bad idea to allow your crush on the guy develope into feelings, considering that he's lustful? Rejection and pain are part of life. Don't fear it, becuase there's no avoiding it. It's inevitable. You need to be brave and face your fears. The next time you get a crush on a guy that's lustful, remind yourself that he will only be interested in your body, and move along to your next activity of the day.



If he's dating multiple girls, you're better off without him.


The bigger question is... do you want kids? If so, then before you accept a marriage proposal later in life, makesure the boyfriend also wishes to have kids later in life. If you're too old or one of you is sterile or producing damaged goods, you can always adopt. As for self pleasure... he shouldn't care. Whut matters is who you are today, not who you were yesterday.

I can't have kids...I think...for several reasons...I thought about adopting and/or sponsoring kids before...cuz my aunt adopted a girl...and lately I have kinda changed my mind about any fears...so now I shouldn't worry about my past...with "m"...my parents do not know, however and that's how I want it to stay. They would be disappointed if they found out(esp. Dad) and I am kinda apprehensive to go to the doctor right now...cuz I know my dad would take me...

Now the issue is...dating...can't date...the 'rents won't allow it...dad says there's a time and season for everything.