Can anyone help me?

[LovesToRead]

I, too, am sorry you're going through such a hard time with your friend. She was very blessed to have you support her during that terrible time.

I think that "soblessed53" can probably give you the best insight, having lost her husband. She brought up some very interesting things that have really made me think about my own grief process.

I do want to mention 2 things, one which was mentioned before in a way and one I haven't seen anyone mention.

I do think you may remind her of her husband's illness since you were there for her during that time. Perhaps when she sees you, it makes her think of those times together and she is so hurt so can't get near her feelings of thankfulness for having the support.

The other thing I was wondering is if you are married? I thought maybe she feels like distancing herself if you are, since you would have something she now doesn't. I know you didn't mention one way or the other, but thought if your married or even in a relationship it might be part of it.

Keep praying for her and for yourself. Take care and God bless.

 

[AngieB]

I, too, am sorry you're going through such a hard time with your friend. She was very blessed to have you support her during that terrible time.

I think that "soblessed53" can probably give you the best insight, having lost her husband. She brought up some very interesting things that have really made me think about my own grief process.

I do want to mention 2 things, one which was mentioned before in a way and one I haven't seen anyone mention.

I do think you may remind her of her husband's illness since you were there for her during that time. Perhaps when she sees you, it makes her think of those times together and she is so hurt so can't get near her feelings of thankfulness for having the support.

The other thing I was wondering is if you are married? I thought maybe she feels like distancing herself if you are, since you would have something she now doesn't. I know you didn't mention one way or the other, but thought if your married or even in a relationship it might be part of it.

Keep praying for her and for yourself. Take care and God bless.

Hi LovesToRead! Thank you for your response. To answer your question, no I am not married. I'm also not involved with anyone at this time.

We have actually come in to contact with each other about 3 times over the past few weeks. The first encounter was a little awkward, being we hadn't seen each other in almost 3 months. The second time we came into contact with each other, we made eye contact, I said "Good morning!" and just smiled. She smiled back with that huge smile on her face and spoke. So, things were a little better.

Things are going to work out. I have prayed and turned the situation over to God. He's taking care of it and has given me a true peace.

Thank you again for your response. This site and the responses I have received have helped more than anyone will ever know.

In Christ-
AngieB

 

[Christdefinesme]

AngieB,
Bless you! I pray the Lord's grace and peace for you.
Human relationships can be so incredibly complicated and
painful at times, can't they? But, you will find, that, attachment
in the Lord, though painful at times, is very rewarding when
the Lord is the Center and Focus. And when you see HIM work in
you and another, whatever the outcome may be. He works for good
in you. Don't forget that! No matter the outcome. Keep us posted.

 

[Stavo]

I think maybe communicate to her that you'll be there for her if she needs you, but give her space to sort herself out.

I'm sure she'll realise that she was wrong to doubt you and come round.

 

[LovesToRead]

Hi LovesToRead! Thank you for your response. To answer your question, no I am not married. I'm also not involved with anyone at this time.

We have actually come in to contact with each other about 3 times over the past few weeks. The first encounter was a little awkward, being we hadn't seen each other in almost 3 months. The second time we came into contact with each other, we made eye contact, I said "Good morning!" and just smiled. She smiled back with that huge smile on her face and spoke. So, things were a little better.

Things are going to work out. I have prayed and turned the situation over to God. He's taking care of it and has given me a true peace.

Thank you again for your response. This site and the responses I have received have helped more than anyone will ever know.

In Christ-
AngieB

Hi AngieB,

Thanks so much for updating me and everyone else. I'm glad to hear things sound like they're going in the right direction. What an encouragement.

Thanks for sharing your struggles and for encouraging us too about remembering to prayer about our own struggles.

God Bless,
LovesToRead