"Butt hurt" - rape slang?

[Hetta]

I have been guilty of using this term without thinking about it, but read recently that the term refers to man on man rape i.e. being literally "butt" hurt. I don't know whether this thread will get closed for talking about this? But I didn't want to discuss what that entails, it's fairly obvious I think, but just to ask people whether they are aware of this, and whether it would make them less inclined to use it in the future? I have stopped using it since I found out what it meant, and felt horrible that I had ever glibly used it. I just think that if people were using a term for male on female rape, everyone would be horrified but somehow this one has slipped the filter. Or maybe I'm the only who didn't know what it actually meant?

 

[RKO]

I've never thought about it but that makes sense.
I have never used that phrase myself because it st sounds ugly. I can and do swear like the sailor that I am, but that phrase just has no redeeming quality in my mind...

 

[Ada Lovelace]

I always thought it meant that people were "butthurt" because their "panties were in a knot", and was totally unaware of the sinister connotations of it. The UD definitions of it are just about it meaning being bent out of shape over something trivial. It was really commonly used in my late elementary and middle school years, but my mom got my brothers and me to edit it out of our parlance because she finds it crass. Though she also thinks the word butt is crass........

 

[Mudinyeri]

I'm pretty sure the term originates from spanking as in, "You got spanked. Now you're butt hurt."

 

[Tallguy88]

I'm pretty sure the term originates from spanking as in, "You got spanked. Now you're butt hurt."

That's would makes sense since people who are "butt hurt" are whiney and fit throwey after not getting their way, just like petulant children.

 

[Cappadocious]

I'm pretty sure the term originates from spanking as in, "You got spanked. Now you're butt hurt."

Or someone who got their ass kicked.

 

[Mudinyeri]

Or someone who got their ass kicked.

I suppose it depends somewhat on the circles in which the term is used. Most of my friends use the term to describe someone who is thin skinned, requires trigger warnings, easily gets their feelings hurt, has a low barrier for being offended, perhaps thinks that the world owes them a living.

Getting one's ass kicked or or having to be "pegged" to be butt hurt requires a much higher threshold for offense or pain.

 

[Cappadocious]

On a larger note, I'm skeptical of the idea that a word's little-known (or unknown) etymology could somehow persist in its use, like a sort of nefarious kernel, sewing subtle wounds in certain parties.

 

[Mudinyeri]

On a larger note, I'm skeptical of the idea that a word's little-known (or unknown) etymology could somehow persist in its use, like a sort of nefarious kernel, sewing subtle wounds in certain parties.

"Sticks and stones" ... if only.

 

[Cappadocious]

"Sticks and stones" ... if only.

Well a word that has a known or felt meaning that is harmful, say one of the antisemitic words for ripping someone off, is different. In that case the meaning is manifest. But we're talking about cases where almost nobody knows about or uses ---and nobody is sure about---the supposed etymology. It seems superstitious to think that the ancestral meaning of the word could be subtly working to do harm when its use does not manifest it at all.

 

[Mudinyeri]

Well a word that has a known or felt meaning that is harmful, say one of the antisemitic words for ripping someone off, is different. In that case the meaning is manifest. But we're talking about cases where almost nobody knows about or uses ---and nobody is sure about---the supposed etymology. It seems superstitious to think that the ancestral meaning of the word could be subtly working to do harm when its use does not manifest it at all.

Words only "hurt" if you allow them to do so. Go ahead, call me the worst thing you can think of. Insult my ancestry, my birth, my intelligence, my integrity, whatever you want.

Those "hurt" by words really need a fresh perspective on pain.

 

[Dave-W]

I'm pretty sure the term originates from spanking as in, "You got spanked. Now you're butt hurt."

I have never heard the phrase per se - although the words were used as a warning for a spanking back when I was a kid.

"I'm gonna whup your butt so bad it will be hurting to the middle of next month..."