I am a recovering bulemic. And I know that its hard every day its a struggle, but i want to ask how do you keep good self esteem and confidence in yourself. I was really tiny and i finally started to feel comfortable with myself and my boyfriend at the time Now husband helped me get out of the bulemia. After we got married i developed poly cycstic ovarian syndrome. Your body just puts on weight like crazy - went from being 5'8 and 115 lbs to 200 lbs. in the matter of months. i was eating healthy was exercising regularily - probably a little in excess and i was still gaining weight. I got on medicine and i started to lose the weight. But my doctor wont refill and it now i am gaining all the weight back again. Im so confused and scared. I just want to look in the mirror and be happy. think that i am pretty. It causes alot of reltionship issues cause i am always tlaking about how fat i am. I just dont know what to do. I dont think i will ever go back to bulemia but its hard to get over the body image issues. I dont know what to do
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Overcoming an eating disorder can be very difficult, exhausting and a trying time. Most, if not all, individuals who suffer from ED have a real sense of self-hatred, shame, doubt, and need for control. Have you addressed your motives of your ED in therapy? Have you discussed and laid out a plan for relapse and prevention?
Raising self-esteem is one of the most important aspects in any person's life and I am sure it is for you. There is no easy way to do it and it takes much time and work. I would highly suggest researching the inner child concept. I have had issues with my self-esteem and true love and acceptance comes from within. When you and I love ourselves, we don't engage in self- defeating and destructive ways. You can heal yourself and your ED with a little work. The core belief of most ED individuals is that "I am unlovable and worthless." It is understandable why so many people engage in destructive manners when self-hate and shame are given reign.
I hope you find the peace that you need.
Raising self-esteem is one of the most important aspects in any person's life and I am sure it is for you. There is no easy way to do it and it takes much time and work. I would highly suggest researching the inner child concept. I have had issues with my self-esteem and true love and acceptance comes from within. When you and I love ourselves, we don't engage in self- defeating and destructive ways. You can heal yourself and your ED with a little work. The core belief of most ED individuals is that "I am unlovable and worthless." It is understandable why so many people engage in destructive manners when self-hate and shame are given reign.
I hope you find the peace that you need.
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s_g. What Steeler said sounds like a very good idea... are you in therapy for help in overcoming your ED? and why won't your doctor refill your meds for your PCOS?Self hate can be worked through. It can. Have you tried telling yourself, when you look in the mirror, that you are beautiful? No matter what you look like, no matter what you think of yourself, tell yourself this. It has helped me a lot... also listening to my fiancé when he compliments me. I'm sure your husband thinks that you are gorgeous. Remember a compliment he gave you and repeat it to yourself when you look in the mirror. Do this every time you look in the mirror. Am going to repeat - it does not matter what you think of yourself, even if you think you're ugly and fat and horrid. Just give it a go, even if it sounds scary, and see what happens.
I have had success with that. I am not free of self hate - not by a long shot - but I am more accepting of my body, and talk about how fat (I think) I am much less.
I hope you keep fighting. Keep coming here for support, seek support in real life.
Hang tough.
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lifeknowingjesus
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First of all, this could be neurological. It's possible that your brain isn't functioning properly (like what was happening with me). Go to my Eight Five% Remission Rate!What Changed Everything!Anorexia Gone Forever!Six Mo And Counting post in this forum, for something that might change that completely. (It changed my life).
However, if it is your thoughts that are causing you this pain, I want to tell you the truth.....
Our deepest desire is to be loved. It's what most people's hearts long for. But another person can never completely fufill our need for love (as we all find). Only God can. He created people that way.
God created you to be in a relationship with Him and to enjoy his love. You were created for intimacy with God. For this we were rescued from sin and death. You were made for His love. You are meant to be with Him.
Jesus is what fills the emptiness inside us.
It is in His love
that you will learn to esteem yourself
as you should.
It is in His love
that you will learn to accept yourself
as He accepts you.
It is in His love
that you will know your worth
and your beauty.
It is in His love
that you will view yourself
as you truly are.
Jesus loves you passionately and accepts you completely--even though you don't love and accept yourself. He demonstrated the depth of his love and its unconditional nature when he came to earth and died a brutal death to have you. He doesn't care what you look like or how you perform, he desires *you*. As you are. (Your body is simply the shell that holds your soul. And besides, to put it in perspective: our bodies are temporary.) What he is after is *you*--your laughter, your tears, your dreams, your fears, your heart of hearts.He wants *you*. And he has moved heaven and earth to get you.
Life is a romance between Jesus and the heart of man.
God desires for you to see yourself as He sees you. You are his beautiful, lovely, wonderful, delightful, perfect, beloved child whom he desires to be with for all time. You are his creation, his masterpiece. Don't listen to Satan's lies about who you are. Satan would love for you to feel bad about yourself and not see yourself as God does. You are God's. You are cherished. You are special. You are desired. You have worth. You are important. You matter. You were worth an excrutiating death. You are gorgeous to God. You are sought after. You are his Beloved.
View yourself the way God views you, for that is the truth. Look at yourself in the mirror and see what God sees. Picture His loving, accepting, adoring eyes. Let his tender love wash away your fears and your tears. Let your place in His arms, and in His heart, define you.
The God of the universe is with you and he adores you. Nothing can separate you from Him. Nothing can separate you from His love. He says so. He is with you always, wherever you go, whatever you go through. Wherever you are, there His love is. There He is. The Friend, who sticks closer than a brother. The King, who has you, and your situation, in the palm of his hand. The Maker, who knit you together in your mother's womb. The Father, who desires to just be with you. The Lover, who delights in you and rejoices over you as a bridegroom rejoices over his bride.*
There He is, ready to give you more comfort than you can handle. Ready to be your peace, your refuge, and your strength. Ready to take control. Ready to soothe your wounds. Ready to bind up your broken heart. Ready to fill the emptiness and void.
Run to him, He is waiting. Fall into his love and into His arms. Live, knowing who and what you are to Him--the God of the universe! Live, knowing what He thinks of you, what He sees in you. Live, knowing who and Whose you are. Live looking into His loving, accepting, adoring eyes. Live in His unending love, and in an intimate relationship with Him. Your life will never be the same.
Amy
PS: If you do not know God's love and forgiveness of your sins (which seperate you from Him), if you have not come into a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and you would like to, if you would like assurance of eternity in heaven and a new, abundant life here on earth, if you would like Jesus to come into your heart and into your life, send me a message.
]* Isaiah sixty two: five
However, if it is your thoughts that are causing you this pain, I want to tell you the truth.....
Our deepest desire is to be loved. It's what most people's hearts long for. But another person can never completely fufill our need for love (as we all find). Only God can. He created people that way.
God created you to be in a relationship with Him and to enjoy his love. You were created for intimacy with God. For this we were rescued from sin and death. You were made for His love. You are meant to be with Him.
Jesus is what fills the emptiness inside us.
It is in His love
that you will learn to esteem yourself
as you should.
It is in His love
that you will learn to accept yourself
as He accepts you.
It is in His love
that you will know your worth
and your beauty.
It is in His love
that you will view yourself
as you truly are.
Jesus loves you passionately and accepts you completely--even though you don't love and accept yourself. He demonstrated the depth of his love and its unconditional nature when he came to earth and died a brutal death to have you. He doesn't care what you look like or how you perform, he desires *you*. As you are. (Your body is simply the shell that holds your soul. And besides, to put it in perspective: our bodies are temporary.) What he is after is *you*--your laughter, your tears, your dreams, your fears, your heart of hearts.He wants *you*. And he has moved heaven and earth to get you.
Life is a romance between Jesus and the heart of man.
God desires for you to see yourself as He sees you. You are his beautiful, lovely, wonderful, delightful, perfect, beloved child whom he desires to be with for all time. You are his creation, his masterpiece. Don't listen to Satan's lies about who you are. Satan would love for you to feel bad about yourself and not see yourself as God does. You are God's. You are cherished. You are special. You are desired. You have worth. You are important. You matter. You were worth an excrutiating death. You are gorgeous to God. You are sought after. You are his Beloved.
View yourself the way God views you, for that is the truth. Look at yourself in the mirror and see what God sees. Picture His loving, accepting, adoring eyes. Let his tender love wash away your fears and your tears. Let your place in His arms, and in His heart, define you.
The God of the universe is with you and he adores you. Nothing can separate you from Him. Nothing can separate you from His love. He says so. He is with you always, wherever you go, whatever you go through. Wherever you are, there His love is. There He is. The Friend, who sticks closer than a brother. The King, who has you, and your situation, in the palm of his hand. The Maker, who knit you together in your mother's womb. The Father, who desires to just be with you. The Lover, who delights in you and rejoices over you as a bridegroom rejoices over his bride.*
There He is, ready to give you more comfort than you can handle. Ready to be your peace, your refuge, and your strength. Ready to take control. Ready to soothe your wounds. Ready to bind up your broken heart. Ready to fill the emptiness and void.
Run to him, He is waiting. Fall into his love and into His arms. Live, knowing who and what you are to Him--the God of the universe! Live, knowing what He thinks of you, what He sees in you. Live, knowing who and Whose you are. Live looking into His loving, accepting, adoring eyes. Live in His unending love, and in an intimate relationship with Him. Your life will never be the same.
Amy
PS: If you do not know God's love and forgiveness of your sins (which seperate you from Him), if you have not come into a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and you would like to, if you would like assurance of eternity in heaven and a new, abundant life here on earth, if you would like Jesus to come into your heart and into your life, send me a message.
]* Isaiah sixty two: five
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