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breaking up...
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I am not quite sure if it is possibe for me to be friend with my ex-s like some of you can. I really wish I had the courage to pursue that.
I was so convinced at one point that John was the one. He was a strong Christian and he was actually the one who brought me to Christ (image the bond we had). We dated for 15 months. We had an intimate relationship: we prayed together at night, we did quiet time together and studied the bible together. My love for him was beyond anything I had for anyone. Even though he lived in Colorado and I live in Chicago, I flew to him every weekend to be with him. Three months ago in his car, he told me "I think our relationship is coming to an end. I have never loved you and I just can't see you being my wife!". I was shocked, I was in denial. He said he "cared" about or relationship and he would like to keep in touch with me, esp when I am ready to get baptised.
I continued calling him once a week, begging him if he could consider dating me again, asked him what's the real reason behind the breakup. I told him that whatever it was, we could sort that out and whatever it was, I would take all the blame. He just repeated that he never loved me. All the past memories between us was SUCH A JOKE now that he said he has never loved me..
I prayed 
so hard every night for either a capacity to endure this or a reconcilliation with John. Neither happened. If I was not a Christian, I would probably have considered ending my life. I had constant chest pain and I felt that my heart was in pieces. We used to talk every night on the phone for an hour, and I was still trying to make sure the phone was one around the time frame he used to call me. I would lie to my co-workers that it was allegies that caused watery eyes and constant sneezing; I would turn on the shower to cover up my wailing at night. I didn't want to call my friends too much and be too needy. I have never felt this worthless and unwanted in my entire life. I was so afraid that I could not control myself call him so I finally deleted his phone number from my cell phone. I am a pretty girl who walks closely with Christ, with a good job and a good heart and yet when I offered myself both hands to the man I have been with for the past 15 months, he just turned me down flat. How could this be?? I did not resent God for this, I just had to believe that all things work together for good for those who love God. The belief kept me out of bed, breathing everyday, going to work like a normal person would.
Two weeks ago, I was finally baptized. One week ago, it was my birthday. I did not hear from him at all. I resented the fact that even regular friends had sent me a word of "Congratulations" or encouragement...and yet he was the one who brought me to Christ? who have helped me so much when I struggled with the scripture? He is less than a regular friend? How can he have a Christian mind but not have a Christian heart? He told me once that he had problem feeling...may be that's his problem and I should not put all the blame on myself for this break up. I felt like the high tide of sadness is on top of me again. Please pray for me.
I was so convinced at one point that John was the one. He was a strong Christian and he was actually the one who brought me to Christ (image the bond we had). We dated for 15 months. We had an intimate relationship: we prayed together at night, we did quiet time together and studied the bible together. My love for him was beyond anything I had for anyone. Even though he lived in Colorado and I live in Chicago, I flew to him every weekend to be with him. Three months ago in his car, he told me "I think our relationship is coming to an end. I have never loved you and I just can't see you being my wife!". I was shocked, I was in denial. He said he "cared" about or relationship and he would like to keep in touch with me, esp when I am ready to get baptised.
I continued calling him once a week, begging him if he could consider dating me again, asked him what's the real reason behind the breakup. I told him that whatever it was, we could sort that out and whatever it was, I would take all the blame. He just repeated that he never loved me. All the past memories between us was SUCH A JOKE now that he said he has never loved me..
I prayed so hard every night for either a capacity to endure this or a reconcilliation with John. Neither happened. If I was not a Christian, I would probably have considered ending my life. I had constant chest pain and I felt that my heart was in pieces. We used to talk every night on the phone for an hour, and I was still trying to make sure the phone was one around the time frame he used to call me. I would lie to my co-workers that it was allegies that caused watery eyes and constant sneezing; I would turn on the shower to cover up my wailing at night. I didn't want to call my friends too much and be too needy. I have never felt this worthless and unwanted in my entire life. I was so afraid that I could not control myself call him so I finally deleted his phone number from my cell phone. I am a pretty girl who walks closely with Christ, with a good job and a good heart and yet when I offered myself both hands to the man I have been with for the past 15 months, he just turned me down flat. How could this be?? I did not resent God for this, I just had to believe that all things work together for good for those who love God. The belief kept me out of bed, breathing everyday, going to work like a normal person would.Two weeks ago, I was finally baptized. One week ago, it was my birthday. I did not hear from him at all. I resented the fact that even regular friends had sent me a word of "Congratulations" or encouragement...and yet he was the one who brought me to Christ? who have helped me so much when I struggled with the scripture? He is less than a regular friend? How can he have a Christian mind but not have a Christian heart? He told me once that he had problem feeling...may be that's his problem and I should not put all the blame on myself for this break up. I felt like the high tide of sadness is on top of me again. Please pray for me.
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JESUSINMYPLACE-- I'm praying for you and will continue to do so every night until you tell me otherwise, okay?
I can definatly empathize with the chest pains. I went to the doctors and got some pills to help with my awful awful anxiouty attacks. I literally feel like my chest is on fire. I put a lot of effort to make my relationship with Mark work but it was all one sided. He too has used the LAME excuse that he "can't feel" (he would say this in the begining of our relationship). There's always some reason for why he can't commit to me or to God. Even knowing this, and knowing that being single is the best thing for me, I can't stop feeling nauseou and panicky. The thing is, whether I stay with Mark or stay single I will be lonely either way.
I can definatly empathize with the chest pains. I went to the doctors and got some pills to help with my awful awful anxiouty attacks. I literally feel like my chest is on fire. I put a lot of effort to make my relationship with Mark work but it was all one sided. He too has used the LAME excuse that he "can't feel" (he would say this in the begining of our relationship). There's always some reason for why he can't commit to me or to God. Even knowing this, and knowing that being single is the best thing for me, I can't stop feeling nauseou and panicky. The thing is, whether I stay with Mark or stay single I will be lonely either way.
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