breaking up

[kuntrygurl_26]

okay, so i just broke up with my boyfriend. We just couldnt settle our religious differences. I love him but God has shown me that I am not ment to be with him. I am pentecostal he is Nazareene. I still consider him a good friend the hard part is hearing him so sad and doing my best to stay going on with what God wants me to do. I was praying last night and its like god slapped me in the back of the head and said "see what happend when you try to write your life story instead of letting me!" anyone ever been through this?

 

[catofhope]

Prayers for you.

 

[juzzi]

I've been in that position, and it is hard. s to you...

Here if you need to chat..
x

 

[Monaleezza]

I may go through it soon.
I'm ready to marry.
My boyfriend isn't.
Love him to bits. But I can't wait forever and we've decided it's too bit a decision to make because the other wants to or doesn't want to.
It's simply not a decision that can be compromised on!
So it looks as though we may be rounding up the relationship sometime soon.
I'm waiting for a clear word from God before I do anything.
Thank the Lord you heard that word and you're not still in that stage of confusion about what His desire is for you, as I am.

 

[gailygirl]

That is such a brave thing to do. It would be really easy to ignore the little voice of God and write off any concerns.

I've been through that before, and I know it's really hard. But you've taken the first step by doing what you felt God prompting you to do. Keep listening to Him and don't back down from your decision. It will get easier eventually.

For what it's worth, I'm heartened to see someone willing to follow God whatever the cost!

 

[kuntrygurl_26]

I went to his house yesturday to take him back some things he left at my house. We decided that we wouldnt come see each other for a while so we both can kind of get over each other. We are still friends and still talk on the phone daily though. Just seeing each other in person is kind of hard right now.

I'm just trying to do what God wants me to do.

 

[RebornSinner]

I went to his house yesturday to take him back some things he left at my house. We decided that we wouldnt come see each other for a while so we both can kind of get over each other. We are still friends and still talk on the phone daily though. Just seeing each other in person is kind of hard right now.

I'm just trying to do what God wants me to do.

That is exactly why we are in this world! To do God's will. Praise God you are fulfilling that call. I have been through that myself, only I didn't listen to the Holy Spirit speaking to me. I just ignored it and learned the hard way, the really hard way. You are wise to listen. I will pray for strength for both of you.

 

[kuntrygurl_26]

I am trying, the hardest part is waiting for that person that God wants me to be with instead of who I want to be with!

 

[RebornSinner]

That is the hard part, believe me I know. I could imagine that others could testify to this also. I broke up with a girl I thought I was going to marry (even had the ring), and it was really hard for me. I prayed almost everyday, had a couple of great Christian girls that I thought might be a possibility, but God told me no. After five years of waiting (only about 1 year total, of being patient though) God finally blessed me beyond my imagination. I had a whole list of standards, and the women I am with now, totally blows away those standards. God just looked down and knew my standards and kinda chuckled, and gave me so much more than I deserve or ever asked for. So you might have to wait awhile, but do your best to be patient. Let God develop you and grow in Him. Don't think of this time being single as wasted, but preparation. I think I could write a book about that........Anyhow. Be encouraged and blessed. I believe the sooner you are at peace with being single, God will bless you when you least expect it.

 

[kuntrygurl_26]

Thank you so much! You do not know how much that helps me. After the break up i just kinda felt like "okay God i did what you said now what!?!" and I fell like I am just kinda standing still ya know. But my problem is I think I am not seeking God enough..hmm..

 

[SingleDadWV]

I just recently went through something very, very similar. Even though I knew she wasn't the one for me, I cared about her very much and it WAS really hard, I cried for days. But the Bible says, 'Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness, and all these things will be added unto you'. I know that if I seek God will all my heart, that all the things I have been praying for will be 'natural consequences' of my relationship with Him.

And by the way.... For me it was only a few months later that I met the woman that I am very sure is the 'one'. Just like RebornSinner said about his relationship, she is everything I have always wanted and SO much more.

I hope this gives you some encouragement, be blessed!

 

[kuntrygurl_26]

Wow that is creepy, right after we broke up, the day after I was reading my bible and that is the bible verse God showed me! haha Praise God!

 

[SingleDadWV]

Wow that is creepy, right after we broke up, the day after I was reading my bible and that is the bible verse God showed me! haha Praise God!

Sounds like you are on the right path!

Be blessed!

 

[kuntrygurl_26]

Yea another bible verse he keeps putting in my head is Be still and know that I am God! Boy is that hard to do

 

[DayCay]

For listening to that still small voice. (or slap in the back of the head)

Don't forget that feeling. Especially when you start missing him and feeling lonely. (Been there!)

God has better things planned for you. Keep the faith!

 

[kuntrygurl_26]

How did you guys stay patient while waiting for your mate that God sent you??

 

[SingleDadWV]

How did you guys stay patient while waiting for your mate that God sent you??

Personally, it was by keeping my focus on Him. Having been married before, sometimes the loneliness can really be tough. Whenever I would feel lonely, I would tell myself that it was God calling me closer to Him. I've learned that only He can really give me the intimacy and the companionship that I need. When I stopped looking.... He brought someone into my life.

 

[kuntrygurl_26]

yea, that is the hardest part I think is to stop looking! It is human nature to search for a capanion. But I am definatly trying.