Break-ups??

[Alenci]

Bah, there really is no point to this thread. I just wanted to say that I don't like relationships much. I'm in my first relationship and I worry all the time about breaking up or being dumped. Is this normal? Or am I just dependent or something?

The stories I hear from everyone make it sound like practically the end of the world. I would really rather not date than break up with someone...

Boo for relationships.

 

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

Relationships aren't easy-there is nearly always a risk taken. One might dump or be dumped at any time.

Sometimes I worry about my bf leaving me as well; the thoughts are not pleasant.

 

[chocolateloverjen]

Bah, there really is no point to this thread. I just wanted to say that I don't like relationships much. I'm in my first relationship and I worry all the time about breaking up or being dumped. Is this normal? Or am I just dependent or something?

The stories I hear from everyone make it sound like practically the end of the world. I would really rather not date than break up with someone...

Boo for relationships.

Its not a bad thing, its just how you feel.I dont like that part of relationships to but i believe i have found the right person for me so i tend not to worry. i knew he was the one when i met him (long story). so i kinda leave it up to God and dont worry.
Thats maybe what you should do, give your worries in prayer to God and let him handle it.

 

[superfly]

you shouldn't go into a relationship unless you intend to marry that person... that doesn't mean you're going to, it just means that you must be serious about it.

however, that said and done, i have no worries about my gf dumping me, cause we know we're gonna get married... and we've only been going out for 6 weeks. in fact, we pretty much only started the relationship because we were pretty sure we'd get married.

 

[Lyim]

Relationships are for one of two things. Permanent coupling, or experience. Not to attack you superfly, but I hear that 'you should only go into a relationship for marriage' line a lot...and I disagree. I will say I am personally not going into a relationship right now unless I am willing to marry that person, yes, but other people have perfectly healthy relationships with people they never intend on marrying, truly fall in love while dating, and then find themselves in happy, functional marriages. It is impossible to generalize things like that, as everyone needs different experiences in life to find their own way to resolution.

Dating is merely another opportunity. An opportunity for what, is a question you must answer personally. It can bum you out if it falls apart - failure in anything bothers people - but so long as you know that a failure in a relationship can be used to learn about yourself and other people, and you can use it to be better prepared for the future, then you should be alright.

 

[HolyOne87]

Bah, there really is no point to this thread. I just wanted to say that I don't like relationships much. I'm in my first relationship and I worry all the time about breaking up or being dumped. Is this normal? Or am I just dependent or something?

The stories I hear from everyone make it sound like practically the end of the world. I would really rather not date than break up with someone...

Boo for relationships.

I find it normal, especially it being your first relationship. I went through the same thing. Sometimes I feel it is just nerves. For me, I was afraid because I didn't know what to do at times or how to act, which made me worry A LOT! Although my relationship ended badly, It was a learning experience for me. I've learned to be stronger and learned to be a little more picky about who I date. Even if a break-up does happen, it will be painful for a while, trust me. But then you will end up growing stronger from all the pain that you have experienced. It will also make you a lot wiser as well. I am hoping that you will get a little more at peace about this situation, with whatever you choose to do.
I hope things work out for you!

+God Bless+

 

[Alenci]

Do most first relationships end poorly??

 

[f U z ! o N]

Do most first relationships end poorly??

not all, mine didn't end poorly. it was a mutual decision. and we are being great friends at the moment.