Bragging

[Chococat]

I'm wondering if some BPD people can come across as arrogant. I ask because of an ex online friend I used to have. She had a lot of BPD symptoms but she also had (and still has) a tendency to brag about her accomplishments and give the impression that she was "all that" although from what I could gather she was very insecure and actually had low self esteem. In the end I ended the friendship, something I still feel a bit guilty about at times, because I could not cope with the constant devaluation and manipulation from her especially as I have emotional problems of my own. She was not receiving any counselling saying that she once had a counsellor but he/she "did not understand" her! I'm still trying to make sense of all that happened even though we are not friends anymore. My own counsellor suggested she probably had BPD but from my research bragging and arrogance are more of a symptom of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) than BPD. I know only a qualified psychiatrist could diagnose her but I was wondering if bragging and seeming arrogance can be a symptom of untreated BPD.

 

[madison1101]

Bragging and arrogance are symptoms of low self-esteem. They are covers, so that people won't see the true, insecure self that lacks confidence in reality. Most BPDs I know are not arrogant, but there is nothing in the DSM-IV that indicates whether BPDs are arrogant or not.

An inability to have a healthy relationship with someone is a sign of BPD.

Trish

 

[bendslikeawillow]

Please do not attempt amateur, online diagnoses. Whatever the issue was with your former virtual friend, really is none of your concern at this point I don't say this to be mean, but to release you from your urge to self diagnose. I spent an incredible amount of time trying to put a mental health diagnoses on someone very important to me and drove myself crazy doing it. Pretty sure she is psychopathic,..... but none of my concern now (breathe, and let go,...... lol)

 

[Chococat]

You are so right Willow and no I wasn't offended. Personally I suspect my exfriend has spiritual issues which I won't go into here but, like you said, that's none of my concern. I'm sorry to hear about the person close to you but in the end all we can do is pray for these people and leave them in the hands of the Lord.

 

[punksushi]

narcissistic personality disorder goes hand in hand with bpd. . . but i think like 80% of the population has npd lol

 

[WalrusGumBoot]

Please do not attempt amateur, online diagnoses.

Four years ago, after 18 years of marriage and feeling on the brink of a mental breakdown, I posted on a woman's forum on a popular web site about how, no matter what I did, there was no pleasing my wife. I explained my frustrations and what I have been going through and was seeking advice as to what I am doing wrong. One woman who I believe was prompted by the Lord, replied and told me that it sounded like she had BPD. She was not a therapist or anything, just somebody who knew about the disorder.

She gave me some links to start with and it started me on a one year journey of discovery. I read everything I could on the subject and talked to people. In the end, all evidence pointed to her suffering from BPD. I then joined a support group and made many online friends who shared similar circumstances. We helped each other out and gave advice. It improved my skills in dealing with my wife, and improved my own well-being.

My point is that a diagnosis, even by an amateur, can have long-lasting positive results.

 

[RainbowBaby]

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