Boyfriend's myspace page

[freedom4all]

Earlier this week, my bf told me he set up a myspace page in order to send bulletins to friends and discuss their gaming stuff. Anyway, he told me that he had sent me an invite, but I realized today that I never got one. So I found his profile, and the home page states that he is "divorced" and a "body builder." He is not divorced, nor a body builder. He has a really weird sense of humor, but I don't think it's funny to lie about his dating status, not to mention inconsiderate to me. If you aren't familiar with myspace, you can choose from a drop-down menu, and for every category, there is a "no answer" option, so I don't get why he said divorced.

Anyway, he called me, and I told him that I went onto myspace to get my invitation, and since I didn't get one, that I searched for his profile, and that I didn't appreciate what he wrote. He said "I was just being funny, and that I'll delete the page." I could tell he was getting mad, and sounded disgusted. I said that it hurt my feelings, and not only that but his friends are going to see it, as well, and they all know me. He said he didn't want to talk about it any more, and hung up on me...:o

 

[MorganParadise]

Alot of people Im sure lie on MySpace. I have a myspace page and I use it for good. I send daily bible meditation on my bulletins and try to witness to people. The one thing I can say is if he will lie there then Im sure he will lie in real life meaning to your face. I may be wrong because I dont know him or you but I bet he will. All the best to you

 

[starprincess]

I think it's very inconsiderate of him to get angry

If it was just a joke, why get upset about it?

 

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

I think that I would be a little upset if I found a page like that that my bf had written. That's not a very funny joke.

 

[Sketcher]

There ARE joke profiles that are pretty funny.

 

[Bky1]

But if it's not a joke profile people may take it seriously, don't worry I'm sure when he calms down he'll talk it over with you. If he meant it as a joke then he probably didn't realise how much it would hurt you, I know it's inconsiderate but some people don't think that way I know my boyfriend doesn't. He probably hung up so he didn't say anything too horrible and the fact he put body builder means it was really just a big joke to him. As a relevant point some of my friends have done similar things one is registered as a male hat. I know that's not quite the same but some people do feel the need to put silly things on myspace.

I'm sure it will all work out okay, good luck.

 

[freedom4all]

Well, I talked to him later yesterday. He said that he had a huge mess to take care of when he got to work, and as soon as he finished, he stepped outside to call me, and that's when I got upset with him. The combination of those two things made him frustrated, and that's why he hung up on me. Anyway, when I talked to him later, he said that he wasn't trying to make fun, but he hates giving out personal information. He said that by the time he was done setting his page up, he was annoyed with the whole process. He said he changed it, so that's good.

 

[Hope_0004]

Since you've already gone there, I'd see if he really did what he promised to do.

There are lots of "joke" profiles, but people don't usually just change a few things that might give someone the wrong impression. I think if it was a joke, it would have been more obvious.

I think webpages such as that have an extremely high potential for causing problems in relationships. It's never easy to understand what someone "means" or "typed"... you have to take it all with some salt, IMO.

 

[Briseis]

Personally I would not care. You said your bf is a joker, and so is mine. He does not have a myspace, but on his MSN profile it says he is 120 yrs old and divorced. He also had some strange occupation that I dont remember. When I saw it I just laughed a bit and thought "wierdo." It may have been a bit much for him to hang up on you, but it depends how much of a big deal you were making out of it. I personally can see why he would be a bit annoyed at least, if it was just a joke and you were trying to make it an issue.

 

[Niels]

Hmmm...

All I see are red flags. He did something dishonest, and then freaked out when you found out about it. If he was truly joking, it wouldn't have bothered him. Sounds just like the kind of guy who might 'joke' around by not wearing his wedding ring while out with his buddies... if you know what I mean.


Sorry. Though I could be mistaken, I'm calling it as I see it.

 

[meetvirginia]

I think he was just kidding around. In fact, I could see myself as writing something random like that. I mean, obviously if he put body builder on there and he doesn't resemble that at all, he was just being random, and that's probably what he was doing when he wrote divorced. He probably only got mad because he was defensive and felt like you were blaming him for something he really didn't mean.

 

[California Dreamin']

My ex boyfriend... and I were unofficially engaged (LDR, no ring, etc) but his Yahoo Messenger profile said "Single". I was NOT impressed.

When we met it said "single" and he changed it to "long term relationship" for awhile... then it got changed back.

He lied a lot... he also told me he was getting married in April, but the girl's name was his mother's name (sent me an e-mail pretending to be his new girl), made the same spelling mistakes he makes, etc. Very obvious it was HIM!!! grrr... I highly doubt he got married.

 

[Mskedi]

Eh... since you said his friends on there know you, I doubt he was trying to do anything particularly dishonest. I think I'd be annoyed if it said "single" or "divorced" and had a lot of links to women I didn't know... but then, that would just be incredibly stupid.

 

[...butterfly...]

That just rubs me wrong....If I were you I'd break up with him, but thats just me though. I had an ex boyfriend play the relationship game, and prentend to be "single" or "Single and looking" online, doesn't show commitment to me....

 

[tayshodd]

Wow...it never ceases to amaze me how seriously some people can take myspace/facebook etc. In all honesty, he probably didnt even think about it when he did it...nor did he figure you would be upset. This also explains why he probably got mad on the phone, because essentially you were accusing him of being inconsiderate and/or mean and in reality he was just messing around on a seemingly insignificant myspace page. What is much more important than what he says online (unless its like a direct "i hate my girlfriend" or "i am cheating on my girlfriend" statement) is how he treats you in real life. If he treats you like crap in real life, then move on...otherwise, give him the bennifit of the doubt, its just myspace

 

[bliz]

What he put on the site does not matter near as much as how he reacted when you told him you had seen it. How old is he???? He reacted like a teenager - hanging up, declaring that he doesn't want to talk about it anymore, as if he and he alone gets to pick the topics of conversation.

Big red flags.

 

[Leanna]

My ex boyfriend... and I were unofficially engaged (LDR, no ring, etc) but his Yahoo Messenger profile said "Single". I was NOT impressed.

When we met it said "single" and he changed it to "long term relationship" for awhile... then it got changed back.

He lied a lot... he also told me he was getting married in April, but the girl's name was his mother's name (sent me an e-mail pretending to be his new girl), made the same spelling mistakes he makes, etc. Very obvious it was HIM!!! grrr... I highly doubt he got married.

why would he do that??

 

[California Dreamin']

bliz: My mom hangs up on me... and she's going to be 46.

Leanna: No idea, and that's why he's my ex.

 

[Linnis]

Hanging up on someone is childish so is thinking one can deem what gets talked about.

From your other posts about your boyfriend, this doesn't seem like the first time he's been dishonest and treated you badly. I think you need to sit down and pray and list all the pros and cons of being in this relationship.

 

[California Dreamin']

Good advice Linnis.