Boyfriend Trouble....

[adrieanne]

Well... me and my boyfriend have been dating for four months now... and I have never felt like this about a guy before... ever... He says he feels the same way. Today when we were talking I realised that we hardly knew anything about each other though... and I told him that I needed some time to think and pray about this situation... so I asked him for a break... is this the right thing to do or should I have stayed with him and gotten to know him better by asking him things? Or was I right to ask him for a break? Any input would be great... thanks
Adrieanne

 

[If Not For Grace]

I think you are wise beyond your years. It could never be wrong IMHO to stop to pray and discern before any decision. You are to be applauded.

 

[ChildOfGod20]

i just don't see why it would not be a good idea to keep dating and get to know each other more? if i realized i didnt know much about my boyfriend i would just make it a point to learn more about him. taking a break won't help someone get to know another person better

 

[MrsSeptemberPenguin]

It could go either way. Definately praying is good, and if you needed to step back to be able to focus the way you should, then that's what should be done. Can i suggest while on this break take the time to get to know him better as a person. Talking and communication is very important, and I make that a top priority in my relationship.

 

[Leanna]

How have you dated for four months and not know anything about each other? Have you been spending your time physically instead of talking or something?

 

[Maeyken]

What sorts of things are you meaning when you say you know nothing about each other? Are you meaning little things, like his favourite colour, movie, meal, etc? Big things like whether he's a Christian or not?
There will always be some things you don't know... you keep learning things about the person each day. My fiance and I have been together a year and 2/3, and although I do feel like I know him very well, I am definitely still learning things about him every day. My parents have been together almost 25 years, and I'm sure they still learn new things about each other.

I do think that taking a step back from the relationship, and looking at it objectively is a good idea. Hopefully that will help you discern whether you want to pursue a relationship with this guy or not.

 

[Sploge]

i HATE it when grls tell me. i think we need a break but i get used to it. so oh well for me on that side of thing's i guess. but....

if it is a relation ship which you feel comfprtable in and you think that you are loving this guy even if you have asked for a break, God will provide way's for you to come back together i dotn think it was a problem because you may learn more about him thorugh God helping you not by your own judgement!!

 

[adrieanne]

How have you dated for four months and not know anything about each other? Have you been spending your time physically instead of talking or something?

No, we haven't been spending our time physically, we haven't even kissed yet. We barely even hold hands. He's not a Christian, but he respects my decisions as a Christian and doesn't pressure me into anything.

The thing is about us is that, we know things about each other a lot of things but when it boiled down to it, we didn't know anything about each others past. So, while I was willing to talk about my past, he wasn't and told me that if I asked him, he wouldn't be forthcoming with answers. That's why I asked for the break

Adrieanne

 

[Inperfected]

Then it seems like you've made a good choice to have a break... Communication is real important, and if it's just because both of you are cautious, understandable... But if it's because he (or you in a hypothetical situation) isn't going to talk about his past or what, then it's probly a good idea to take a break for a bit.

 

[Breetai]

Don't date non-Christians. Be friends with them instead and witness to them though good Christian living, etc.

Dating non-Christians takes your mind off the Lord.