just a heads up, I do post here at this site, but am being incognito for the moment. BF and I been dating about 8mo. We haven't started getting really heavily involved until the last three months. I am a virgin, he is not. Lately we have been in situations where I have had to tell him 2 or 3 times to stop. I'm all for kissing and caressing(as long as hands are in the appropriate places) but I do draw the line with where he puts his hands and sometimes he wants to, put them *in* places. We are not talking to one another at this very minute because he feels I have compared him to a rapist. He took what I was saying all wrong. I told him when I have to push his hands away or tell him repeatedly to stop, that in a way I begin to feel violated. He says since I'm a virgin that I don't understand how hard it is to stop because I don't know how good it feels. I told him, if I were to fall, then that would be the end of it, because then he would expect it, and want it more "since he knows what it feels like". I really love him and am upset that I hurt him, but am I being unrealistic? Should I cut him some slack because he is a normal guy with an apetite? At the same time I feel he should be more understanding of my boundaries. Can someone give me some feedback here please?