born again virgin?

[Sketcher]

#1. No. The post did not say that. It said he had different beliefs than Christianity.

#2. Different beliefs than Christianity does not mean the person is "unsaved", or that they're not going to heaven.

#3. To say so is to imply you are God, because you think you know who's "saved" and who isn't.

No, because the Bible is very clear on God's opinion on the matter. If you're not a Christian by faith, you're not saved period. None of us are claiming to be God, but at least some of us bother to read His opinion on the matter.

But anyway, this is way off topic.

 

[Lumen]

No, because the Bible is very clear on God's opinion on the matter. If you're not a Christian by faith, you're not saved period. None of us are claiming to be God, but at least some of us bother to read His opinion on the matter.

But anyway, this is way off topic.

Well there's more than one way to look at what the bible says and on that issue, I don't believe that's what the bible means.

But it is off topic.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

Well there's more than one way to look at what the bible says and on that issue, I don't believe that's what the bible means.

But it is off topic.

So explain what you think the Bible means on the issue.

 

[holo]

It is love, not theology, that is supposed to be the distinguishing mark of God's children.

 

[Lumen]

So explain what you think the Bible means on the issue.

No, because it's off topic, and it's a waste of time.

No one can see past what they've been taught it means, so I'm not wasting my time anymore.

 

[Weasel7711]

I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and half. He's incredible. Neither of us were virgins coming into the relationship.

I've spent many years denying God, and it's only recently that I've come back to the church. I've felt God tugging at my heart telling me to live a different life. My boyfriend has been so wonderful and supportive, and he seems to enjoy coming to church with me. We've been having sex throughout our relationship, and I recently told him that I wanted to wait until we were married. He doesn't share the same beliefs, but he told me he respected the decision and was willing to wait.

I'm so scared. It's not about sex, it's not even about being scared that he'll change his mind and leave me. I know that he loves me. I guess I'm scared of what God's going to ask me to do next. What if I end up driving this wonderful man away? He's my best friend. I can feel myself pushing Christianity on him. I know part of him is interested. I want to introduce him to Jesus in a loving way, but I feel so overwhelmed.

I need help. Sometimes I feel such peace because I know that I'm doing what God has asked. Other times I feel...trapped. Is it even worth waiting until marriage at this point? I need some words of encouragement, advice, anything...

Know this: God ALWAYS has a better plan then we can ever imagine. I respect the guy for respecting your wish to wait and I believe if you do make that commitement then God will bless your relationship. The main thing here is, in order for you to both attain the best that God has in store for you is if he became a christian. Not just went to church with you and didnt argue about your beliefs, but if he gave his life over to Christ. Im not sure that God neccesarily will ask you to dump him. Some great men of God came to Christ through their spouses. My uncle, former pastor of the First Baptist Church of Jacksonville, FL and executive director of the florida baptist convention, AMAZING preacher, came to Christ after getting married to his Christian wife about 50 years ago. So God can work through the spouse. But he also may ask you to leave him and you have to be prepared in your heart to do that. It will be hard, but (and I know this is cliche) when God closes a door he opens a window. God may bring someone even better into your life that you cant possibly imagine, I know that happened to me. It was hard, but God will be with you no matter what He asks you to do.

 

[sherri]

No, because it's off topic, and it's a waste of time.

No one can see past what they've been taught it means, so I'm not wasting my time anymore.

No. You just can't back yourself up

It is love, not theology, that is supposed to be the distinguishing mark of God's children.

Actually it's love and obedience. Big difference.

 

[Lumen]

No. You just can't back yourself up




Actually it's love and obedience. Big difference.

I can back myself up perfectly. But since it's an issue of a higher understanding, most christians won't understand me.

 

[Weasel7711]

ok deep breaths everyone...

 

[sherri]

*breathing way in

 

[Larry Mondello]

Totally wait! I believe there is such thing as being a born again virgin.

I've known wonderful, sweet innocent Christian women who have stopped having sex with their boyfriends and pledged to live differently & responsibly in their dating.

I've also known atheist women that determined to remain virgins until marriage, which is also a good thing.

It's different for women than it is for men.

Statistically, if a man comes to faith in a religion, his wife/GF will follow him into that faith. But if it is the woman who has the faith, chances are less than half that her husband/BF will follow.

Men often have the attitude that faith is for women, or that they don't want to do something just because their woman expects them to.

This is true over all the religions and cultures. Whether a man is a Buddhist, a Muslim or a Christian, chances are about 75% that his female significant other will convert to his religion.

If she wants a Christian marriage, she's better off dating a man who's already a Christian.

Very sound advice.
On relationship boards, I always recommend guys wanting to date & marry good Christian women to go where those kind of women can be found... in churches.
One won't find them in the bars or other less-reputable places.
Plus, if one wants to marry a good Christian woman, one must be (or try to be) a good Christian themselves.
People talk and word gets around when a guy is known to be sleeping with numerous women.

And I've seen lots of women try to evangelize by dating, but it doesn't work. It's a lot more likely that you will end up not practicing your faith than it is that he will adopt your faith.

Many Christian women who engage in "missionary dating" are usually the ones that compromise their beliefs, to please the men, who won't become believers just for their gals' sake.

They date the wrong types of men, the bad boys who could care less about their feelings or morality.

All too soon, after the jerks leave them, they find themselves remorseful over giving them their Christian innocence.

After they so easily surrender their innocences to them ( and not the good Christian man they may later marry), there's no way they can "go back" to being "virgins" again and they begin to feel a lot of guilt and have less interest in spiritual things.

They're frustrated and upset their heathen guys never change.

One thing many of us that wanted to date these kind of women (but were always rejected) never understood is why they ignored the many good Christian guys in their midst.

These women would never date US, the Christian gentleman who would NEVER pressure them to have sex with them or make them do anything they wouldn't feel comfortable doing. ( I know it works both ways as men often ignore the good Christian women in their midst & go for the "hawt" girls.)

We'd respect their faith and go to church with them.
For some irrational reason, they would ignore the good things in their sights and instead suffer the consequences of the sinful choices they made.

 

[Bumble Bee]

I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and half. He's incredible. Neither of us were virgins coming into the relationship.

I've spent many years denying God, and it's only recently that I've come back to the church. I've felt God tugging at my heart telling me to live a different life. My boyfriend has been so wonderful and supportive, and he seems to enjoy coming to church with me. We've been having sex throughout our relationship, and I recently told him that I wanted to wait until we were married. He doesn't share the same beliefs, but he told me he respected the decision and was willing to wait.

I'm so scared. It's not about sex, it's not even about being scared that he'll change his mind and leave me. I know that he loves me. I guess I'm scared of what God's going to ask me to do next. What if I end up driving this wonderful man away? He's my best friend. I can feel myself pushing Christianity on him. I know part of him is interested. I want to introduce him to Jesus in a loving way, but I feel so overwhelmed.

I need help. Sometimes I feel such peace because I know that I'm doing what God has asked. Other times I feel...trapped. Is it even worth waiting until marriage at this point? I need some words of encouragement, advice, anything...

Yes, it is definitely worth it. God does not call you to something if it is not worth it. If your boyfriend cannot respect your belief, then he is not the one for you. God will work it out according to His plan. You just need to press into Him and seek Him. It won't be easy, but it will be worth it to be close to the Lord. He has things in store for you that you can't even imagine yet. And hey, if your boyfriend is the one that God wants you to marry someday, God will bring him into the kingdom with you. Giving in and going back to the way things were before you came back to God is only going to serve to pull your boyfriend away from the church too.