Blackribbon

[Life2Christ]

Here you go, you were right:
We all know late-life motherhood poses risks for babies. But worrying new research reveals how having an older father can damage a child's health | Mail Online

 

[blackribbon]

Thanks for the validation. Much of my information is really up-to-date since I am currently sitting in nursing school.

Before I entered school, I thought nurses were kind of "doctor's helpers". Actually, we are very much our own medical speciality. For example, we are the ones who are "side effect specialists" of sort. We have to know every single medication given to every patient in our care and know what it is for, what dosages are appropriate, what are the counterindications of that med, and what potential side effects/adverse reactions that a patient might have from that medication. We make sure that the dosage and medication are appropriate for the patient and their condition. Most of medicine safety is in our hands and our responsibility. I'm thinking I've had memorize at least 50 psychiatric medicines and their side effects & uses over the last 8 weeks alone. Most patients in the hospital are easily on at least 8 medications and I've had patients that have had over 20 meds. Even aspirin is treated with the same respect as a highly addictive narcotic or a medication that is delivered via an IV set up (which is part of why it costs a bit more in the hospital...by the time I'm done with a single aspirin dose, I've had to verify that it is the right medication, right patient, right time, right dose, and right route of administration three different times...and that is just how many time a single nurse touches it...that doesn't account for anyone in pharmacy).

I just read in my psychology book that older dads are also related to other genetic related health issues in babies including Down's...so that isn't just the moms. A woman is born with every egg she will ever have...so eventually, they get "old". A man makes new sperm, but as the man gets older there is a higher chance that through environmental exposures and time that the processes for making the sperm have mutated and the end result is slightly altered sperm with more genetic errors in the DNA makeup carried by the sperm.

 

[Life2Christ]

A woman is born with every egg she will ever have...so eventually, they get "old". A man makes new sperm, but as the man gets older there is a higher chance that through environmental exposures and time that the processes for making the sperm have mutated and the end result is slightly altered sperm with more genetic errors in the DNA makeup carried by the sperm.

Yes that is sobering. I had hopes that one day I could have another child (although super grateful for the one I have) but with being 40 and with no man within a 1000 mile radius, I'm trying to not to mourn the loss of my reproductive function but I'm grateful for having been able to have one child.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Glad that didn't happen to me and my hubby. I had my first child at almost 35 and my second at almost 38 and my husband was 44 and 47 respectively. Thank the Lord both of my children were/are healthy and don't have any issues.

 

[exitstageright]

Glad that didn't happen to me and my hubby. I had my first child at almost 35 and my second at almost 38 and my husband was 44 and 47 respectively. Thank the Lord both of my children were/are healthy and don't have any issues.

That is what makes the story of Sahrah and Abraham(the father of many nations) such a miracle.

 

[blackribbon]

Life...I think many women mourn the loss of the chance to have more babies (I know I did), however, embracing the freedom that comes when that opportunity has gone is also empowering.

Michelle...The majority of babies will be healthy regardless of the age, but the statistics for something going wrong increase after age 35 ...

Exit...Sarah and Abraham had the fact that they were closer to genetic perfection (only minimal generations from Adam and Eve) working to their advantage. Each generation has a few more genetic defects than the one prior to it. This is part of what makes the concept of "evolution" and that organisms evolve or "get better" over time, kind of ridiculous. Science actually shows everything is always in a state of degrading and getting less organized. I don't know why they seem to think that biology acts any different.

 

[Doctor Strangelove]

I have gone through a period of mourning over the idea that I will most likely not be a father given my age and the age of anyone I could conceivably (pun intended) attract. I wish I could take the good things I had in my environment while I was growing up and replicate that and subtract the negative things and start a family but maybe that is a naive idea anyway even if the calendar were not against me. I am sure I would not have made a good father when I was in my thirties because I was in some ways still immature and I had a lot of difficult circumstances to deal with. I don't want to become an old bachelor who is slightly well off who marks his life by what toys he can buy (I am not really like that anyway). I would like to think that I was meant for something more profound than that.

 

[power2theweak]

Life...I think many women mourn the loss of the chance to have more babies

I am there right now...

So sad that I will probably never have babies.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I have gone through a period of mourning over the idea that I will most likely not be a father given my age and the age of anyone I could conceivably (pun intended) attract. I wish I could take the good things I had in my environment while I was growing up and replicate that and subtract the negative things and start a family but maybe that is a naive idea anyway even if the calendar were not against me. I am sure I would not have made a good father when I was in my thirties because I was in some ways still immature and I had a lot of difficult circumstances to deal with. I don't want to become an old bachelor who is slightly well off who marks his life by what toys he can buy (I am not really like that anyway). I would like to think that I was meant for something more profound than that.

Well maybe God has something else for you to do. Maybe you will meet someone that already has kids and that will be how you will have a "family". I never wanted to be a widow. I also never thought I would get asked to marry someone. And I didn't get the traditional down on one knee proposal, nor a traditional wedding or honeymoon so....
What's that song "You CAN'T always get what you waant" I know that's not your type of music, but I also wanted curly hair and I didn't get that either.

 

[Life2Christ]

And I didn't get the traditional down on one knee proposal,

Me neither. My marriage proposal was more like a business meeting in the back of my parents' car.

 

[Doctor Strangelove]

I was just thinking that no one here seems to have had a "normal" life. I know I have not. Life just veers off into unexpected, often difficult directions. Maybe there is no such thing as a "normal" life.

 

[exitstageright]

Life...I think many women mourn the loss of the chance to have more babies (I know I did), however, embracing the freedom that comes when that opportunity has gone is also empowering.

Michelle...The majority of babies will be healthy regardless of the age, but the statistics for something going wrong increase after age 35 ...

Exit...Sarah and Abraham had the fact that they were closer to genetic perfection (only minimal generations from Adam and Eve) working to their advantage. Each generation has a few more genetic defects than the one prior to it. This is part of what makes the concept of "evolution" and that organisms evolve or "get better" over time, kind of ridiculous. Science actually shows everything is always in a state of degrading and getting less organized. I don't know why they seem to think that biology acts any different.

Yes, I always considered evolution to be just a theory,anyway. We also have the "laws of physics". Well,there can be no laws without a........ lawgiver.

 

[Doctor Strangelove]

Me neither. My marriage proposal was more like a business meeting in the back of my parents' car.

It sounds like things got off to a bad start.

 

[exitstageright]

Well maybe God has something else for you to do. Maybe you will meet someone that already has kids and that will be how you will have a "family". I never wanted to be a widow. I also never thought I would get asked to marry someone. And I didn't get the traditional down on one knee proposal, nor a traditional wedding or honeymoon so....
What's that song "You CAN'T always get what you waant" I know that's not your type of music, but I also wanted curly hair and I didn't get that either.

Even though I do not have everything that I want,I thank God that he has given me everything that I need.

Here are some of the lyrics of that song:

Well, I saw her today at the reception A glass of wine in her hand I knew she would go meet her connection At her feet was her footloose man

No, you can't always get what you want No, you can't always get what you want No, you can't always get what you want But if you try sometime, you just might find You get what you need


And I went down to the demonstration To get my fair shares of abuse Singing, "We're gonna vent our frustration And if we don't, we don't blow a 50-amp fuse", yeah
And no, you can't always get what you want No, you can't always get what you want Well, no, you can't always get what you want But if you try sometimes you just might find You get what you need, baby


Read more: ROLLING STONES - YOU CAN'T ALWAYS GET WHAT YOU WANT LYRICS ​

 

[blackribbon]

I was just thinking that no one here seems to have had a "normal" life. I know I have not. Life just veers off into unexpected, often difficult directions. Maybe there is no such thing as a "normal" life.

No, I think the only "normal" lives are on old tv shows..and they just gave everyone a distorted view about what they think "normal" should look like. I am winding down my psychiatric rotation and trust me, most people are walking a tightrope between normal and mental health issues too.

Even when I lived a "traditional" life, it was far from "normal".

 

[dayhiker]

I think its been almost a decade since I've even been interested in a normal life! I love the adventure of going out and looking for knew experiences. Mostly the experiences I'm looking to have is with people, one on one or small groups where we share our life and I get to share Jesus also. Total blessing.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Haven't you guys heard??? ABnormal is the "new" normal!

 

[Doctor Strangelove]

Haven't you guys heard??? ABnormal is the "new" normal!

Then I was abnormal before abnormal was normal!

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Then I was abnormal before abnormal was normal!

Then you must be quite abnormally normal, right? I mean that in a sort of abnormal normal way, which is to say we might all be crazy and it that's not true at the very least we are abnormal which would make us all normal because if we are all abnormal wouldn't that make us the majority and majority rules and so that means we are actually normal...well abnormally speaking anyway...

Normal is a non-existive relative term which cannot be defined IMO.

 

[dayhiker]

Or we can say that normal has one way of doing things. But abnormal isn't one different way of doing something different than the normal, but many different ways of doing the same thing. So therefore not abnormal ways can be normal because its not one way of doing things that is different than the normal way. ... yaaaa baby!